Yet another miscarriage, I don't know what to think, please help?

Question

Long story short, In November 2006 I had a miscarriage, I was waiting to have a period before we started trying again, but I ended up getting pregnant again (definitley unexpected). According to the ultrasound I had last Friday I was six weeks and you could see the heartbeat and everything was great, that Sunday I started bleeding and really cramping and had to go to the hospital, turns out I lost the baby again. I don't know what to think now... I don't know if this miscarriage was brought on b/c I ended up getting pregnant right after the last one and did not have a period or what. I want to have a baby so bad but I am afraid to try again b/c of my experiences with miscarriage. Can anyone else tell me if they have experienced this??? Thanks for your time.

Answer 1

No I haven't had that happen.

What does your Dr say? I would talk to your OB/GYN about this. They may want to run some tests to check hormones and things. I wish you luck.

Answer 2

Tammy, Sorry to hear about your lost. I understand how you feel. I miscarried 2 within a year. I am now 8 wks preg on my 3 pregnancy and doc said that I may be high risk again. Due to low blood counts. I am like you I wanted a baby so bad but yet afraid to try again. That miscarriage feeling is the worst feeling no one can experience. After my 2nd miscarriage I went to seek for help with speicalist doc. Doc said there is nothing wrong with me. If there isn't any thing wrong with me why can't I keep my pregnancy? You may want to give your body some time to heal and do a body check up. Hopefully this will prepare you for the next preg. Hang in there you and I will someday have a healthy baby when the time is right.

Answer 3

I did, it was a long time ago and now they know that it is best to give your body six months to return to normal. In the meantime, if they don't know why you have miscarried, see if they can find out., they can do so much more now than they could then. You don't say if you have carried to term before or how old you are, that makes a difference too. If you want a baby, well, I have seen women with seven miscarriages eventually have a baby, but you have to be really strong and very determined. My daughter has also had multiple miscarriages, and she has two children, my other daughter never had a miscarriage and she also has two children. I hope you go on and find out whats going on, and you have you child too.

Answer 4

I have a book called Your Pregnancy Week by Week where I get a majority of my information. It says that they dont usually know what causes a misscarriage and are unable to find out. The most common finding in early miscarriages is an abnormality in the development of the embryo. Studies indicate that more than half of all early miscarriages have chromosomal abnormalities. Many factors affect the embryo and its enviroment including radiation chemicals (drugs or medications) and infections. They are called teratogens. Alcohol and smoking also cause higher risks of miscarriages. Here are different types of miscarriages

Threatned Miscarriage - Presumed when there is bloody discharge from the vagina during the first half of the pregnancy. There may not be any cramping or pain but if so the pain may feel like menstrual cramping or a backache. Resting in bed is about all u can do, although being active does not cause miscarriage. No procedure or medication can keep a woman from miscarrying. 20% of women experiance bleeding during pregnancy but not all miscarry.

Inevitable miscarriage - this occurs with a rupture of membranes, dilation of the cervix and passage of blood clots and even tissue. miscarriage is almost certain under these circumstances. the uterus usually contracts expelling the fetus or products of conception

Incomplete Miscarriage - with an incomplete miscarriage the entire pregnancy may not be passed at once. Part of the pregnancy is passed while part remains in the uterus. bleeding may be heavy until the uterus is empty.

Habitual Miscarriage - This refers to 3 or more concecutive miscarriages

One miscarriage can be traumatic, 2 in a row can be very difficult to deal with. Repeated miscarriages occur due to chance or bad luck in most cases.
Most doctors dont recommend testing to find a reason for miscarriage unless u have 3 or more miscarriages. Chromosome analysis can be done, and other tests can be preformed to investigate the possibility of infections diabetes and lupus.
Dont blame yourself or your partner for miscarriages. It is usually impossible to look back at everything youve done eaten or been exposed to and find the cause of miscarriage!

Here are important things to do before u get pregnant:
Start taking prenatal vitamins, STOP taking your daily vitamin more is not better in this situation
-start a regular exercise program and stick with it. Exercising before and while u are pregnant can help u a great deal
-discuss any medications u take on a regular basis with your doctor
-be sure any chronic medical conditions u have are under control
- stop smoking avoid 2nd hand smoke
- stop drinking
-Start taking Folic acid - 400mcg/day is recommended. Folic acid can help prevent birth defects called neural tube defects. it has also been shown that LOW levels of folic acid increase risk of miscarriage. Take it BEFORE you get pregnant because it protects u your first 28 days of pregnancy. take it while u r trying to conceive. ask your doctor if your should take it while your pregnant.
-avoid hazardous chemicals at work and home
-try to lessen any unnecessary stress in your life!
-find out your HIV status

mannn that was a lot... hope it helps... since it says its usually just bad luck, try again and hope for the best! good luck!

Answer 5

Here's my history...1st beautiful daughter born 6/9/98, Tubal pregnancy 12/00, miscarriage 3/01, 2nd beautiful daughter born 7/10/02, miscarriage 4/03, 3rd beautiful daughter due 5/16/07.

You're going to have a baby, but you need time to let your body heal. Maybe even use the pill for a few months to get your body regulated, etc. Then go off and try again. It's obvious you have no trouble getting pregnant, so once our body is back on track, you'll probably get pregnant again quickly and have a beautiful baby in 9 months. Hang in there and take your time. It will happen.

I wish you all the best!!!

Answer 6

I am in the same situation as yours. I had a m/c in on 1st December 2006, and I really want a baby, but I'm afraid that the same happens again. I feel I cannot have faith in anyone. I had a silent miscarriage. i still had all the symptoms, I used to go for regular u/sounds and every time, the midwife told me that everything was fine, but it wasn't as the baby died at 8 weeks and I only felt normal discharge at 11 weeks pregnant !!! so i carried a dead baby in me for 3 weeks.

Answer 7

I had miscarriages with in a few months of each other, one at 9 weeks another at 11. I went on to have 3 beautiful little girls and I'm pregnant with my 4th.

Its very hard to cope with and some people act like it doesnt matter cause your not very far, but it does. You have half the batter won by being able to get pregnant easy. Try and wait a few cycles and try again. If it happens again (and i hope it doesnt) maybe you need to look into having some tests to see if there is a problem with you being able to carry a baby. Or ask your doctor if they can look at it now, save more heart break.

Good luck

Answer 8

I am so sorry hun. It is extremely hard to miscarry. As my name implies I have 4 daughters. BUT before my successful pregnancies, I lost 3 babies..due to miscarriage. After my 3rd, my dr advised me to NOT get pg because he wanted to do some testing. He checked me over pretty well, and found my eggs to be weak and unhealthy. They also found fibroid tumors on the inside wall of my uterus. Both reasons can cause miscarriage. He said the only way to get my egg healthier was to not get pg for a while..(i had 3 miscarriages in 1 year) and he removed the tumors. I waited a little over a year and got pg. She is now 25 yrs old with 1 of her own and due to have her 2nd child in 8 weeks. Be patient and see a specialist. It made a big difference. ~~Good luck~~

~~~~~~~~HUGGS~~~~~~~~~~~

Answer 9

I'm sorry for your loss. I had a miscarriage a few years ago and I remember reading a lot of responses from women saying wait to get pregnant again. At least 3months. It gives your body time to heal and reduces your chances of having another miscarriage. Maybe your body needs to rest for a few months. I waited 4 months and got pg again. I went to deliver a healthy baby. Talk it over with your doctor.

Answer 10

Hello. First of all I am very sorry to hear about your recent loss, I am sure that it must be difficult. Secondly, I myself have not experienced this, therefore I can not say that I know exactly how you feel. However, I do want to let you know that 1 in 10 pregnancies end in spontaneous abortion (miscarriage) sometimes this is even before a woman knows that she is pregnant. I would suggest that you consult your health care provider for additional information regarding your recent history. Sorry I am not able to offer more information, but we have not yet covered woman's health in school. Good Luck!

Answer 11

It is different for different people. My friend's mom had three or more miscarriages before she finally had my friend who is now the oldest of six. I would say to talk to a doctor to see if there is a blood type problem (sometimes if the baby has a different blood type than you, a miscarriage will occur) or a chemical problem. They will usually be able to help.