I have had a problem all my life and ithas plagued me since I was a child. My Mom and sister always telling me I am worthless and know nothing. Like even when I would bjust sittng on the couch watcing tv. Its like its always hard to get things done thinking and haring their words in my mind. What are some good ways to think better of myself?
I have ahad a hard time I life because of this, please tell me what you think?
2007-01-19 14:50:54 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Find a good male mentor, a teacher or some one at your church.
You did not say your age - if you are of age, move out and get away from them.
They are using you as a scrap-goat for the problems in their lives.
Most likely started by your Mom and she taught it to your sisters. I will feel sorry for any man who get around your sisters if they had been taught that this is an okay way to treat someone, much less a family member.
And yes, I am a woman writting this. I have seen the damage done by moms like yours.
2007-01-19 15:04:31 · answer #1 · answered by Sharon 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
People who have experienced abuse often feel weird or alone. But they're not. No one deserves to be abused. Getting help and support is an important first step to change the situation. Many people who have experienced abuse find that painful emotions may linger even after the abuse stops. Working with a therapist is one way for a person to sort through the complicated feelings and reactions that being abused creates, and the process can help to rebuild feelings of safety, confidence, and self-esteem. I suggest that you first realize that you were not to blame and that they are the ones with the problem. You need to find someone who you can confide in- that can help you sort through all of this. You should not have ever had to go through that, and I am so sorry that you did. Please find someone who you can talk to whether it be a good friend, your doctor, preacher, etc...you need to stop allowing them to bring you down.
2007-01-19 23:09:24 · answer #2 · answered by ~*common sense*~ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My dad had the same thing when he was a kid his dad said he would never amount to anything called him stupid. He spent his whole life trying to be successful to prove him wrong.Even though he became very materially sucessful, I don't think it mad him any happier. The thing is we have to develop our own truth not what other project on us. Read the book The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz. Tells how to Chang our conditioning and make our own decisions on our own inner truth not others projections. Also read Bhagavad Gita As it is By Bhaktivedanta Prabhupada which gives the purpose and meaning to human life. go to harekrishnatemple.c for details and process of coming to reality and overcoming illusion and bring ones self to their highest potential.
2007-01-19 23:58:38 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
so you've been verbally abused? your sister and mum are saying this because they can't express it anyway else....they are hurting you whether it is on purpose or coincidentally..don't let their words get to you, you are not worthless...everyone in the world will be better off knowing this, but the first step for you, is to have a sense of worth, knowing that you are someone and not jsut anyone, let your mum and sister know..ask them why they said or say that...let them know how you feel..and if they still do it KILL THEM..just kidding....but if they still do it, then its not you thats worthless, they are probably saying that because they feel that way about themselves.....the kill them part is a joke by the way, please don't get any ideas....the same thing happened to me, actually is still happening to me, except when they say it, i laugh it off, but inside it hurts...advice..never keep things to yourself, always talk about it. keeping it in will make it worse when they do that one thing to throw you over the edge, then all your emotions will come out all at once, and thats not good. you can act on emotions, say something you don't mean and can never be able to take it back. they say its ok, but erally, inside they think about that one thing you said over and over again..thats whats happening to you, after telling you your worthless, your mum can take you out to dinner, buy you something newor what not, but inside, all the things she bought you, the times she apologized, can never erase the fact that she said you were worthless. so for now, let them know.......sorry if this is long...
2007-01-19 23:05:48 · answer #4 · answered by roxygirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well Stephen, one thing you can do is find out why they think you're worthless and unknowing, then, prove them wrong by doing the right thing.
2007-01-19 23:02:50 · answer #5 · answered by ♨ Wisper ► 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Read the Purpose Driven Life. We're not here for them. We're here for God. Trust me.
2007-01-19 22:55:50 · answer #6 · answered by spookguy99 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Like, hey, man. It's, like, what you think of yourself. People are going to, like, torment and criticise, no matter what you do or say. Don't give into them. You need more leverage to, like, build your self esteem. If you're down on yourself, you're, like giving
them power over you. Don't become the person they, like, say or want you to be.
2007-01-19 23:01:00 · answer #7 · answered by Bob Maynard 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋