Where can a 14-year-old girl get help with emotional problems?

Question

My parents are part of the problem. Pastors and religious people are always on the side of the highest authority. School counselors aren't neutral. I'm lost.

Answer 1

Um, wow.

Can I point something out to you and not sound like a 37 year old poophead?

I hope so, I'm 38. That's settled; on with the revelation.

Please don't automatically tune out pastors, counselors, and folks. They do all have one thing in common. I have something in common with them.

We've all been 14. It sucks.

Without knowing the exact nature of the disagreement with your folks, I won't offer an opinion on the problems. I will offer an opinion that when your pastor, counselor and parents are all urging you along a particular path...they may be basing that on life experience you just don't have yet.

This isn't snobbiness, it's math. I figure your folks are each at least 32. Your pastor and counselor would each be 25 at the very least. That's 114 years of live experience compared to your 14.

Whoa, they have a whole century on you.

I'm willing to bet they care about your welfare, too. I do and I'm just some doofus from the Internet.

Sit down with your parents. Tell them you're frustrated and have emotional problems and why.

Make it clear this isn't a fight, you're looking for solutions. If you can ask a bunch of doofuses online, you can ask your folks.

Good luck.

Answer 2

Well, something is bothering her. The way you have handled the divorce tells me that it is something else. Could some boy have overstepped her boundaries in a intimate way? It could be so shameful for her that she cannot tell you, she need something to drink to cover her feelings up and at the same time her behavior could be a hidden cry for help. It has been seen before and in a larger number than any parent want to think off. It might be something to look into rather than writing her off as a troubled teen. Because you have the other kids, work etc. there will always be some distraction, so here is my suggestion: Enter a in-patient family treatment program. There are wilderness programs where parents and teenagers can go together. You have properly seen newspaper articles about teenagers dying in such programs and the articles are not lying. The killer today is illness mistaken as manipulation. That is why you or your husband has to enter a program with her, so you can protect her. I will not lie. It will be tough, but the solution to this problem has to be a family fix rather than viewing your daughter as the problem. If you ever meet a therapist that suggest a emotional growth or theraputic boarding school, choose a ordinary down to earth boarding school in Europe instead. As odd as it sounds it is safer if you look at the statistic and she will learn foreign cultures.

Answer 3

Look and see if there is a youth hotline or some other kind of help line (all communities should have something or can direct you to the right one). If there is not that option and parents or your pastor or minister are not helpful, see if a teacher (you feel you can trust) can help. Perhaps a friends mother can help, your bus driver, grandparent, aunts, uncles or just about anyone willing to listen.
Unfortunately at fourteen emotional problems are always going to be present (hormones, dumb parents, peer pressure), some days are good some days are really, really bad, sorry it happens . Just remember these days will pass and it will be tough but your a girl and if you can survive being a teen (I know I did), you'll survive just about anything and life does get better (trust me) . Good Luck

Answer 4

Do you have family members that can help you? Pastors that I know always try hard to help no matter how old someone is. They can get together with your parents and get to the bottom of what is causing the problems. Do NOT turn to drugs or alcohol. This will just make things worse.

Answer 5

From my experiance of being a 14 year old girl at one point in time, I can say that you can rely on no one but yourself. That is the main reason that people feel so isolated at these times in their life.

I had a friend who I used to talk to. We started this holiday we called "I hate boys day" which wasn't always about boys, or hate, but a great excuse to talk about what was bothering us, gorge on cheetos, koolaid and cake, and watch stupid sappy movies. When we were 17 our long term bf's both dumped us within 2 months and we created the "I hate boys book" which was a scrapbook. We made a page everytime we were sad, or upset or angry about anything we wanted to put down. It helped to alieviate a lot of anger and tension.

I have no idea what happened to the book, and I barely talk to my friend anymore, but it definately helped me get through some times where I felt no one understood me or could give me the advise I needed.

Answer 6

I know how you feel. If you have a teacher and you can trust them more than you feel your counsler or anyone else talk to them. Because if your having emotional problems they will be there to help you . You don't have to go to a specialist to get answers to problems like this. Sometimes the best answer come's from someone with experience or from someone without a PhD in psychology and therapy. But like I said talk to one of your teachers who you can really talk to. Or if you have a friend who's like 17 or something ask them don't rely on just doctors. Ask people your trust.

Answer 7

well it all depends on what emotional problem you have on who you should go to but i can see where you come from i had the same kind of problem when i found out my brother was on drugs and when i found out i was pregnant so try and talk to maybe a teacher or a friend maybe even sometimes a pet can help because you can get your feelings out and you are not telling some one that may judge you because of them but even talking to an animal can help in this case

Answer 8

What about a close friend?Or a family member?Try the school nurse as she would have other resources available.Dont give up.

Answer 9

Talk to your friends or teachers... They can give you great advice sometimes. Maybe you could ask your aunts, uncles, cousins, or siblings too! Theres always somebody you could talk to.

Answer 10

See if they have a teen center in your area, they are staffed with great listeners