Problem meeting people.?

Question

I have problems talking to people, or doing anything by myself. That's not a good thing. I won't go out and eat unless it's the drive thru or unless i'm with someone. I don't like going anywhere. Not to the grocery store or the park. Can someone help? Please!

Answer 1

sounds like you may have some issues. have you seen a doctor about it. I am a shy person but I can handle leaving the house.

Answer 2

It sounds like perhaps you have a problem with confidence and need to work on that. One person who was like that, a member of our group, developed more confidence just by talking to us online so you may try that. Look in the phone book and see if there is a support group for agoraphobia since it sounds like you may have that as well and talking to others with a similar problem may help you get past that.

Answer 3

I used to feel uncomfortable going out alone also. It's not abnormal it's just a phase. You need to figure out why you don't like it. Do you feel targeted by other people? Do you feel like people think you are desperate for going out alone? Are you physically afraid of being out alone--violence or sexual abuse? Do you feel ugly or friendless? Once you figure out the trigger that makes you feel horrible alone in public then you'll figure out how to solve it.

For example; I would feel many things when I went out alone. I felt like people looked at me as being desperate. In all actuality I wasn't desperate I was just alone. I also felt ugly for some reason. I felt like people just watched me more intently. The thing that liberated me and made me so comfortable going out alone was going to a restaurant by myself. Call me a loser but I did it and it really made me see things in a new light. I was there not out of necessity OR desperateness. I was there because I wanted to have fun with or without people.

When I see people out alone I think about how independent they must be. I think that that's something that many people cannot and will not do BUT it's a great quality. Next time you are out with or with out friends look around. I guarantee you'll see some really inspiring women out alone.

I know it's hard but if you put your mind to it you'll overcome it! If you go out with the mindset that you are a happy and successful person then you'll appear that way to the outside eye. Have confidence in yourself. Heck, get dressed up if that makes you feel better. Enjoy time spent alone. It's truely miserable when you feel you need to rely on others. Best of Luck!

Answer 4

It sounds to me like you're afraid of being alone. Y don't you try to do things that you like to do alone? That way in time, you'll lose the fear of being alone. And when it comes to others, always remember that we are all people, we all have problems, etc. Don't be afraid of being judged if you talk to others cuase maybe that's why you have problems talking to people. "Be who you are. Those who matter, don't mind, and those who mind, don't matter"

Answer 5

learn how to talk with out making a fool of yourself, just try if it goes wrong just keep trying , and learn from the mistakes you made, and pick up some things the people you talk with say, and reuse them, if they worked on you, they will work on other people, but stay true to yourself, and be yourself.

Good Luck!!!!!

Answer 6

Don't be afraid to meet people.But in these days and times it's a good thing you are with somone.

Answer 7

learn to like yourself. when you enjoy your company others will too. you can be alone and not be lonely. try the library first.

Answer 8

you are not stable. you shouldn't have to rely on someone else to make you feel okay. you have no self esteem. start with a self-esteem class. or read self help books. get involved with your community.