How young is too young?

Question

Im turning 20, which doesn't seem to be that young to me, all though I know a lot of people think it is. I think I may be pregnant, and I know I can handle it. I've finished nursing school and I share a house with my in laws whom it get along with really well. I'm sort of nervous to see everyone's reaction because I know most people will look at me like I must be crazy to have a child so young. Is it really too young? How do you deal with people's reactions?

Answer 1

You're married, you're finished with school, you feel ready and you're pregnant. It sounds to me like you're ready. Ready or not, the baby is coming so don't worry about people's reactions. You need to do what's right for you and live your own life. Everyone does things in their own time. You have your whole life ahead of you, and you will still be able to do whatever you want. So just enjoy this special time in your life. Don't let anyone's opinion spoil it for you. If anyone criticizes you or questions your decision, just tell them that this is the way you've chosen to do things and that's it. Good luck!

Answer 2

My parents started a family at 21, so I don't think it's too young. You sound smart and responsible, so you're probably going to be a great mom. Take an at home pregnancy test or see your OB/gyn for a test at their office. I wouldn't tell anyone until you are certain you're pregnant.

Other people's reactions shouldn't be the most important thing right now. You have to take your prenatal vitamins, see your doctor, get rest and start thinking like a Mommy. If they are not supportive of your pregnancy, find people who are. Rude remarks should be ignored, don't tolerate anyone being disrespectful to you, either.

"The Girlfriends Guide to Pregnancy" by Vicki Iovine is humorous and helpful. But the "What to Expect When You're Expecting" book can be scary. I've already had kids and that book still scares me! I love Parents magazine and there are loads of new pregnancy magazines out that will keep your informed, too.

A great source for information is Babycenter.com It's very informative on every topic from conception to toddlerhood! Check it out:http://www.babycenter.com/

Best of luck to you! Take care.

Answer 3

You finished school and it sounds like you are married. So you would get my vote way before and unwed 45 year old with no way to support the baby. It has a lot more to do with maturity level than with actual age. I'm 24 and some people think I'm too young.

Answer 4

If we waited until we were old enough to have kids, there would be none. So 20 is young, but you can handle it. I had 4 by the time I was 22, now that was too young.

Answer 5

Tell you something, my biological mother was 15 when she had me. I was given up for adoption. She didn't tell my father that she was pregnant with me, he was 19 at the time. Apparently they split soon after she found out. Whether or not she told him? I highly doubt it. I am 34, now I have an almost 5 year old. (next month). 15 is too young 20 is better. Take care...good luck.

Answer 6

I was 20 when I got pregnat with my first child but Ilived in my own place had my own job and was going to college, my parent were upset when I first told them but they got over it. I tink if you are mature and responsible it is easier to handle. People will give you looks but so what it's your life, I am now 26 and married ( when I got pregnant with the second)and have three children and I still get "the look" when I o to the play ground with other mom there.

Answer 7

Honey... there's a lot of girls who give birth at the age of 16 (and younger! =O). You are at a nice age, some say it's too young but i think you're fine. Don't you care about other people's reaction, when they see your child they'll be like, "OMG! HE/SHE'S SO BEAUTIFUL!" Then you'll be sooooooo happy!

Answer 8

yes, you are young but i think you'll do just fine specially having your nursing school to fall back on and I think getting along well with you in-laws is a big plus take care of yourself and hope you have a healthy baby most of all

Answer 9

I had my first child at 18 and my second at 19. I still hear that I'm too young for kids, and you know what, my girls are worth every minute of it. Just tell people that you are happy with your decision.

Answer 10

You know yourself better than anyone, as long as your happy don't let anyone steal your thunder. And if your happy sooner or later everyone will follow suit or fake it. May I suggest though you wait to tell anyone till you get out of your first trimester, a lot can happen during that time.