my mom said that i will have to go to a foster home or jail if i get pregnant. and my boyfriend will never see me or his child agian. and i dont know what to do because i am pregnant. im 6 months. my stomach is not as big. so she really cant tell.(she dont know i am pregnant) and i dont know what to do im only 16. i dont need no negative answers....any advice please
2007-01-19 14:17:36 · 45 answers · asked by tweetybird 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
my boyfriend dont know im pregnant. and he is 16
2007-01-19 14:18:23 · update #1
my mom also told me that she isnt ready for me to have a baby
2007-01-19 14:23:27 · update #2
I REALLY DON'T THINK YOUR MOM WILL DO THAT. BUT YOU BETTER SAY SOMETHING TO HER AND TAKE YOUR CHANCE, DO IT BEFORE SHE FINDS OUT ON HER OWN AND YOU WILL BE IN A WORSE SITUATION. GOOD LUCK. I REMEMBERED WHEN I WAS 6 MONTHS AND THEN 8 MONTHS MY DAD KICKED ME OUT. BUT HE ALWAYS CAME LOOKING FOR ME.
2007-01-19 14:21:56 · answer #1 · answered by misty blue 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a tough situation sweetie. I would talk to a counselor and see if there is any way you can get into low income housing and get a job if you want that child, or you might consider giving the child up for adoption. If you really decide to keep the child then you will need a way to provide for your child. Medicaid covers nearly all or all of your pregnancy and there is also medicaid for children to provide for them after they are born. . A job can be hard but do the best you can to stay in school. She is probably just threatening you. Either way she needs to know. If she does throw you out you will need help more than ever. Also, if you have another relative or friend who you could stay with until you can get on your feet then that would be wise. You wont go to jail if you get pregnant and legally you are her responsibility . Talk to your boyfriend as well and let him know you are pregnant. I also have to tell you it wont be easy either but if your boyfriend is a man he will at least help you with the baby and provide for him. This is the best advice I can give you. I hope things go better for you. And as for your mom not being ready. As parents you are never ready when your children have babies, but you are so young and every mother wants to see their babies go through high school, go to college, get married and have babies. You are just not prepared when your babies aren't even out of high school and they have babies. I think she would understand though. She may be mad for a little but she will come to realize the baby is coming and you are going to be a mom whether she is ready for you to be or not.
11 weeks and 5 days pregnant
2007-01-19 14:29:25 · answer #2 · answered by Kelly s 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only advice I can give you is this, if you are at the doctor's or somethign and someone there has a nose piercing point out that professionals have them too, and therefore it isn't 'trashy'. I'm 17 and I had no problem convincing my mom about my 3rd lobe holes so that's all I can say.
2016-03-29 05:33:35 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well at this point your mom really has no choice on weather she wants you to be pregnant or not.are you working?what about your boyfriend?my advice is go and get some government help if needed(possibly since you are 16)you need to tell your mom and your boyfriend.and if you are not seeing a doctoe go and set up a visit so you can start getting some care.its gonna be hard to be 26 and having a child but my mom and dad did it and there are many other people who make a good life for themselfs and thier child.government will even pay for school and daycare.and you should rake advantage of that so you can have a good life for your baby.im praying that your mom is talking out her butt about you moving out and this and that.because you really need her support right now.if not her,is there an aunt or cousin or anyone who will help you?find someone an ddo whats best for your child.good luck
2007-01-24 13:04:54 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it comes down to whether or not you want the child. If you are going to keep the child, you will have to arrange (and quickly too!) where you are going live, work, afford to take care of a child etc. If you give the baby up for adoption this is less of a concern, but from the sounds of it you may be kicked out of the house. Therefore you could either go into foster care, or if you chose, you could live on your own, which can be extremely hard work. You won't go to jail.
2007-01-19 15:40:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may as well tell them now. You can never hide pregnancy & childbirth. They'll find out sooner or later. You can't go to jail for being pregnant at an early age. Your mom is telling you wrong. Now your boyfriend can, on the other hand, if he's over 18-but not you. I was a foster child. That's messed up that your mom wants to do that to you.
2007-01-19 14:29:38 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She was probably just trying to scare you into not getting pregnant. If she knew you were... she would be your biggest means of support. You need to let her know.. it's better to let her know now, than to let her freak out when you suddenly go into labor. You should also be getting medical attention.. you should be on prenatal vitamins, and be under the care of a doctor. You should let the father know.. his parents need to make sure that he is there for the baby. He will be old enough to get a real job in about a year, and he needs to contribute as much as he can. I was 16 when I had my first baby, so I know that you are probably not showing much at all, but I am sure that your mom already has an idea of what's going on, she is just scared of the truth and doesn't want to call you out on it. You WILL be showing within the next month or two.. please tell her, and please get to a doctor.
2007-01-19 14:29:33 · answer #7 · answered by Angel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Umm, I know there is a big difference in age (I'm 24), but when I found that I was pregnant (i was on the pill), I was terrified to tell my fiance because he never wanted kids, NEVER. But I told him because it's only right and he reacted totally different than I expected, he held me and told me everything would be okay. Our daughter is 4months now and she is the love of his life!!!
And well as far as your mother goes, even though you are very young, she should stand up and be a MOM and help you. If she really did kick up out that's not being a very good mother. I due know though that she is going to be quite upset, especially since you haven't told her for 6 months. You need to tell her ASAP.
Don't take the wrong way, I do think its sad (upsetting) that you are so young, But I hope that everything works out for you, Good Luck.
2007-01-26 16:29:30 · answer #8 · answered by kmangel17 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow well this is a risky chance to tak not telling her are you going to the doctor and stuff? i hope so you need to make sure you do the check ups but well lets see you have options talk to really close friends i mean if you have a few that might help you . I would say to get someone else of high authority to help talk to your mom about it when your ready. You could ask someone at the WIC offices and see if they know anything and tell them you want it to be confidential or you could ask your doctor for help and see what he says. Thast a hard thing to deal with but i know people who have done it and there mother saw that baby and it changed the moms mind but hey some moms arent so easy going you know sweetie i wish you the best of luck. About the boy i dont know do you think he could handle it ? If so tell him if not its all up to you if you want to sometimes i wish i wouldnt have told my sons dad i was pregnant then i would have had my husbadn now adopt him and stuff. But this is hard and making a step to tell someone else weather it be a counselor or something might help you know what to do more. well good luck i hope i helped a little k best of luck bye.
2007-01-24 22:43:26 · answer #9 · answered by dani_d86 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Firstly get yourself to a Doctor, ask them for advice on how to handle your situation... Do you have a friend or relative you can confide in??? You really can't do this all by yourself... Mum's can sometimes say stuff to scare their kids, but deep down they are the first ones there to help... I know I have threatened my son so many time (eg: touch that and I'll chop your fingers off!!). Now I would never do anything to hurt him, it is just a figure of speech. Maybe you mum is doing the same.. (She really can't send you to jail) Please seek some help, start with your doctor, get your health checked and ask about a teen pregnancy support group in your area.. All the best,
2007-01-27 10:37:35 · answer #10 · answered by psycho_faerie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cannot be put in jail just for getting pregnant. She could possibly put you in foster care, but it almost sounds like you would be better off there. If you are in foster care, she cannot stop you from seeing your boyfriend unless your foster parents forbid him from visiting you there, but if you are in her home, she can stop him from coming over, legally. You will be 18 in a couple of years though, so he could see his child at that point, as the very latest.
2007-01-21 09:44:57 · answer #11 · answered by wisegirl1204 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋