beating kids...?

Question

yah ok so many people (especially americans. NOT TO BE RACIST!) think that beating kids is wrong right?
well ok. so here is an example

indian kid: been "beaten up", must respect parents, grows up to respect parents and do as the parent says!
american kid: never been "beaten up" by parents, grows up, cusses at his parents, walks out of the house, never sees them again, no wait, he sees them 10 years later for christmas

^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^ generalizing here^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^
not meant to be racist... i know, i SWEAR i know that not all americans turn out to be like that, and mst of them DONT. and not all "indians" (which was just an example) turn out to respect their elders (although most of them do, its in their culture)

BUT. dont you think americans should be able to hit their kids when they do something wrong? i dont mean beat as in SERIOUSLY HURT but like... kinda like the indians and the arabs and the black folks do...?

Answer 1

There is a school of thought that states if you spank you kids, your only teaching violence.

I am a parent who has probably resorted to spanking about 4 times. The spanks consisted of a swat on the backside. I really do not think that spanking is necessary.

I have 4 children that range from 16 to 21. None of them has every been to jail. They are very respectful and tow are in college.

Answer 2

Your question is not offensive by the content but I take exception to your generalizing American's. Spanking children is at discretion of parents, I don't have a problem with spanking but I have a problem with spanking for every little thing. I do however take exception to your saying that Indian kids are beaten up and come up alot better for it. That would be like saying beating a child makes them better then those whose parents find other discipline methords. Punishment should be used in moderation with regard to what extreme it's dispensed. I believe spankings never hurt no child if done in love not anger. Think about that one.

Answer 3

I think there is a lot more to respect than having it beaten into you. Personally, I would have a hard time respecting anyone who beat me. Raising children is hard work. There are many different ways to discipline a child. Remember that discipline means to teach or instruction. It comes from the word disciple which means student or learner. I am an American and respect my parents as well as everyone else. I think all people deserve to be treated with respect. My parents never struck me. They were active in my life and taught me by example. I totally agree that children need to be taught how to treat other people but don't think that hitting them will accomplish that. How will the child behave outside of his parent's sight if the only self control they have learned was to avoid their parent's wrath? There are too many parents that try to be their child's friend as opposed to their parent or mentor. I really don't think it has anything to do with spanking or beating.

Answer 4

First of all, you can't be racist towards Americans, because they are not a race. You can however be prejudice. I did not think you were being prejudice, though, and I agree with you. I don't agree with the term "Beating kids", as it conveys the image of child abuse to me. But I think the occasional spanking or swat on the hand is totally justified if the child is misbehaving and is aged anywhere from 5 to 9. It seems like many Americans have resorted to no-spanking. One common thing I see is the counting method, in which a parent will count down or count up to a certain number, expecting the child to have done what they asked them to do by the time they reach the last number. It seems to me that the children of parents who do this are always disobeying their parents and running wild. Both of my parents were raised with old-fashioned values that their parents passed to them and that they in turn passed on to me. I plan to be no-nonsense when it comes to disciplining my future children. In answer to your last question, Americans are allowed to do whatever they want to do, as long as they don't violate other people's basic, unalienable rights. If they want to spank their children, they have every right to do so.

Answer 5

Well I have 2 kids and i spank them. There's a difference between a spanking and a beating. I was spanked and I'm a Criminal Justice major in the process of being a Police Officer. My husband was spanked and he's an Iraq veteran graduating with a Business Degree and going to the Sheriff's Dept. We came out okay and so will our kids.

Answer 6

When I was little I used to get spanked. I never like it and I still don't i think it is wrong but there are some cases where it is necessary. Not all Amercians turn out that way. And you never know asians or eurpoeans might spank their kids.

Now if they are hitting and it leaves bruises I don;'t care if you are middle eastern, european, asian african , canadian , australian, hispanic or the d*mn president of the f**king united states your behind needs to be in jail. There is no reason anyone should abuse a kid or hit them with anything that will bruise or cause them physical damnage.

Answer 7

Odd question, and I don't think it has anything to do with spankings or the likes. I am a Canadian of european decendency who grew up in a house where my parents spanked me 3-4 times a year. Never hard, just enough to scare me really.

Point is I grew up to be a fine and normal person, my parents were never accused of abuse, and I never felt abused.

I also have some friends whose parents never layed a finger on them and they are just as normal as I am. It doesn't really matter if you are hit or not, it is all about consistancy in discipline and having parents that understand what "punishment" means to each of their children (it is different for everyone!).

Answer 8

Well it's not technically considered child abuse unless you leave a bruise. However the beating children is only instilling fear in them and won't make them respect you. My parents never spanked me or did anything of the sort and I have respect for them. They trust me a lot and I never do drugs, drink or just do stupid things. I'm almost in college and they let me drink wine with them so I don't drink to get drunk with other stupid teenagers. I'm very responsible and am a, good kid. However, I have this other friend who's mom spanked her, and she steals things and does drugs and gets drunk and sleeps with every girl who tells her she has a nice @$$, and she calls her mom a f*cking b*tch and stuff. So beating doesn't really have anything to do with respect for parents.

Answer 9

well..
as I age I feel spanking .. light to moderate hits with a hand is inapropriate .. but I can see how it is used and can be necessary. But there are many ways to influence a child.

beating .. is a supercharged word. How hard to you want to beat your child???

my grandfather had a cat of nine tails with knots that he only had to use occassionaly. And that was "not too bad" because it only rarely drew blood and broken no bones .. like a paddle migh

and he would break a paddle or two for effect if necessary over his son or daugher's ***.

of course my pa was appalled at his father inlaw when he learned of this and how grandpa treated his wife.

from that environment my mom did not think she was abusing her children my brother, sisters and me.. but consider...
she almost killed me twice .. once by a knife and once by almost clubbing me in the head with the swatting board.
she broke my sister's skull with that same board
and my dad had to sew my brother up several times from damage resulting from paddlings.

is this TOO bad?

it was not in my grandfather's day.
and without input .. my mom did not think so .. but in fact the screaming that went along with it was worse than the beatings.

we were quite respectful....

And most western nations have laws against this.


and I am peeved that a co-worker protested that he did not beat his child .. then later mentioned how he beat him. and then I saw that he beat him.

and his children had all the ear marks of being over displined and very afraid.


Personally I think that people end up a bit twisted if they have that much beating.

however it will solve your short term obedence problem at the risk of life long emotional scaring.

Answer 10

Ya..... I see questions on yahoo answers about parents with kids cussin at them. Finally somebody with some sense who knows that hitting (not abusivly) there childrens is alright. Im american and my parents would disipline me when i was young if i did something very wrong and I dont cuss out my parents at all. Many other people i know are way too soft on their kids and then they turn out to be rude ********.