My heart bleeds for the kids who were raised like me♥
2007-01-19 13:38:19 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
I'm more scared about how i'll be able to stop myself from beating my children out of instinct.
2007-01-19 13:41:56 · update #1
Sorry about all this whining...
2007-01-19 13:43:17 · update #2
Absolutely. Oh, I could tell you stories. The best you can do is learn how NOT to be like your parents.
There comes a time when you have to stand back and realize that they were wrong. Then you move forward. Don't dwell on how bad things WERE...but on how much your future holds. Take charge of your own life in spite of them. They never thought you could. You HAVE to believe you can.
You say you fear hitting your kids out of instinct. I thought the same thing, BUT...my son is 25 years old, and I swatted him on the behind (with my hand) three times in his whole life. You see the way your kids look at you, and you know how you looked at your own parents. You don't want THAT look to ever be on your child's face. For some reason, I just feel that you...who are introspective now, will be able to stop yourself...or moreso, would have a harder time convincing yourself TO hit them.
2007-01-19 13:40:11 · answer #1 · answered by Lisa E 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes, my mother put the fear of God in me. She didn't beat me though but I got my a@s whipped when she thought that I deserved it. I guess she did what she thought was best at the time. I do feel sorry for kids who are beat by people who they are suppose to look up to. I just read in the paper about this baby who wouldn't stop crying and his father through him on the bed and held his face down to make him stop crying . The child didn't die but he is in critical condition and has bleeding on the brain which means if he lives he'll probably be a vegetable. I guess it shows that no matter how hard we had it, someone else had it even harder. It is sad.
2007-01-19 13:45:56 · answer #2 · answered by Thumper 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I do. My mom is very emotionally abusive. That is why I haven't had contact with her for almost 2 years.
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Don't be scared of those feelings. Embrace them. And learn from your parents mistakes. You are at least one step into breaking the cycle. I'm not sure the abuse you endure, physical or emotional, but either way right before you are about to blow there will be this feeling. A welling up. With practice you can recognize it. Now all you have to do is take a step back and assess your situation. With enough practice you won't even have that welling up any more.
I wish you luck with this.
:)
2007-01-19 13:40:19 · answer #3 · answered by FaerieWhings 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, but it ended when I left home.
The home I've made with my husband is nothing like the homes either of us came from. He was left alone to raise himself. And I sort of skipped the kid parts so that I could raise my parents and defend my younger sibs.
You can change your life. You decide to have a better life. Since you are human, accept that you will make mistakes, so don't beat ANYONE up for them. That includes yourself.
2007-01-19 13:46:25 · answer #4 · answered by tantiemeg 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hopefully, you don't have children & you will get lots of therapy before you do...
Have you ever heard the saying, "you have to rise above your raising"? Take it to heart...just because you were abused (and I am deeply sorry for your suffering) gives you no right whatsoever to become an abuser...you know how it feels; you know in your heart it is wrong. No excuse excuses the unexcusable
2007-01-19 13:51:02 · answer #5 · answered by єЖтяα ¢яιѕρψ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I fear one of my family members beacuse he has schizophrenia. Sometimes he says things he doesn't mean, like once he said he would kill me. I know when he says those things he cannot control it, but I still get scared around him because I'm afraid he will get really mad. I have to be careful what I say near him. I'm 15 and he has been like that since I was about 10 years old and I have seen alot since then.
2007-01-19 13:41:50 · answer #6 · answered by Joseph 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. It hurts but, when u come to realize its okay to be fear its part of life, but the best option is to tell the truth how you feel to that person.
2007-01-19 13:41:55 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes i do, i use to be afraid of my husband, and use to put a knife under my pillow (just in case) fear for my kids day and night. But be strong and dont let anything put fear in you, love conquers it all.^i^♥♥♥
2007-01-19 13:46:02 · answer #8 · answered by ♥angltouch♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My best friends parents were pretty bad maybe thats why she clung to me..mine werent watching my every move theres benefits on both ends..both Id rather not be tied and bound. smothering love
2007-01-19 13:43:41 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
They're the only ones who can make you truly afraid. I'm sorry about your story.
2007-01-19 13:40:55 · answer #10 · answered by Crash 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋