How to break into a clique?

Question

Of let's say, 13 yr old girls who have known each other for years
thanks

Thanks for your answers. Hmm...It's just sort of hard not to be superficial and worry about friends now (I think that most people do when they're my age). And my grade is very small so there aren't really any other girls to be friends with. Plus I'm sort-of-friends with most of them. If only I could not care so much...

Answer 1

I'm sorry you feel the need to be in a clique. Most girls who are apart of them are really insecure with themselves. They need other people to make them feel good about themselves. If you want to be apart of something and feel good about yourself join a sport. You will not only make friends, but you will gain self confidence. The kind of friends you want are those who like you for who you are no matter how goofey you are not the ones who try and change you. Love yourself and be the kind of friend you would like to have

Answer 2

Don't try, form your own. Find individuals that you have something in common with and start your clique. It's not that difficult and you'd be surprised at the people who will want to join. I was on the outside in high school and I found three other girls who were also "outsiders". We ended up being a group of 13 girls who graduated together. We have some great memories.

Answer 3

PLEASE let me know as soon as you get a good answer! I have the same problem at my church. After our youth pastor talked about how bad cliques were and everything, this friend of mine (i've know her for 5 years, we've been best friends the whole time) and two girls started a 'clique' that included themselves and any friends they brought to church from school. My friend will say hi but it never goes beyond that when these other girls are around. BUT, when these girls are not nearby (either they've gone home or just weren't at church that day) she acts just like she used to before they started coming to church, she's even told me last monday we were best friends. It is so weird!

Answer 4

Oh honey! Drop those girls! Forget the clique! I know you want to belong, but trust me. I've been in the same place you are and I'm better off because I forgot about it. Make your own with friends who will remember you in 10 years.

Answer 5

You put your own brain and ideas in a safe because you can't use it when you join a clique.

Think twice about this before you do it....it's not as much fun as it seems from the outside looking in.

***you join a clique by agreeing with whatever they do, think, say, and act.

Answer 6

You are either asked in or you aren't. That's the thing about cliques. No secret trick to getting in. It's the prejudieces of the people in the clique which determine who comes, who stays, who goes.

Answer 7

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Answer 8

its extremly difficult..theres usually a reject clique that other noncliquers fall into and some of those groups can be really cool. if its nto about popularity sometimes those are cool. sometimes not though and if you have more than 3 good friends i recomend you just start your own clique

Answer 9

Stop worrying about it....It won't matter when you're older.

But if you must....try getting one of the girls attention...maybe you'll be come good friends and she'll start inviting you with the group.

Answer 10

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