I have a slight problem. I have no friends and sometimes I feel so alone and my situation is very sad.?

Question

I see girls hanging out with there females friends, my mans friends ask me to hook them up with my "so called friend", but in reality I have none. When I was in junior high I had a close friend but when we each went to different HS (we still live in the same city) we just stopped hanging out. Anyway since junior high she always spent more time with childhood friends, but then our frinedship just drift away even though she lives like 10 blocks away.

We call each other and she will always say I will call you back but she never do until a long time after. I just recently called her and she wasn't home and her friend, I mean "so called sister" said she wasn't there and she never called back.

I just feel so sad sometimes because I wish I had friends and I dont. I am real shy and its real hard for a person like me to make friends.

i mean I am friendly but when it get to lets hang out or chill it never continue. And its sad to say that I will never have any friends. I am 20 amd have no female friends.
It hurt me because I will never have that female friend to shop with, talk on the phone with, or even be my brides maid.

Answer 1

Hey Shay, Don't be so down on yourself. It seems you need to boost your esteem and get that self-confidence going. Go to the library and find some good books on helping to up your confidence? Before you know it you will be reading about other topics that you can share with others. Try to meet with people in the area who have activities such as bowling or swimming meets etc. Your local city hall may be able to advise you on different group activities also. When you mix with others you will find friends. And when you do, don't burden them too much about yourself but come across as encouraging to them. And always remember, you are a unique person in this world who has a lot to offer others.

Answer 2

I'm a guy, but i went through pretty much the exact same thing. The reality is, you have to stop caring what people think.. It's alot harder to achieve this than it sounds i know. Try asking alot of questions in class to break the social awkwardness. That's what worked for me. Ask the students especially who know what they're doing, eventually personalities will click. It's hard at first because your shy, but if you don't try you won't gain any experience. There is no such thing as a dumb question, I've asked tons of them One student that didn't like me said stop asking questions, then i said to him in front of everybody. I'll ask as many questions as i want, If you achieved more than a C- on your test maybe you would start asking some more too! People started to laugh, and my social confidence built from there. Go to additional school events. it can't hurt.

Answer 3

I know how you must feel, but the reality is that if you find just 1 good friend in your live time you are considered lucky. Friendships need to be built over time and there has to be an unconditional love between you. Usually only siblings experience this. You will have many aquaintences, and co-workers in your life, but finding a true friend is like finding that true mate. Its not as easy as it seems. Just be open to new activties, get out and mingle, mabe go out with other couples. If you really want a friend in your life then you will have one. Keep the faith.

Answer 4

It sounds to me that your trying too hard to be friends with the wrong people Hence," no friends."
What you should do is join some sort of club. Do you like going to the gym? Join a gym. Do you have kids? Join a mothers group. There are many groups out there with people doing things that you too enjoy doing. You need to find someone who shares the same interests as you.
I know you can do it. Don't use "I'm shy" as an excuse. Get out there and enjoy your life!!!

Answer 5

If you're really serious about having friends, join a group. What are you interested in? There's a group for everything. If you can't think of anything you're interested in, come up with something. Remember, it's about being social. You can even consider the activity secondary if you want, but still, give it all you got. You'll enrich your life and you will meet friends. You wouldn't believe how many 20-y-o women in your area are sitting at home bummed out for the same reason. Reach out, find them and help them. Help yourself at the same time.

Answer 6

Somehow you need to build some self confidence in yourself and stop feeling sorry for yourself. You are setting yourself up for failure because you say you will never have friends. Stop calling this old friend and work on making new ones. Join clubs or sports or whatever interests you. When you meet people with the same interests, you will make friends. Just don't be clingy.

Answer 7

yeah i know your situation. I lived in Hinton and i had tons of friends. When i moved to Grande Cache I had none. They all lived in their little worlds. For me to fit in I had to be a smoker, or partier. And my parents never let me party outside of the house. So i never got that chance.

Yeah life does get lonely when you do not have friends when youdont have the people to go out and hang with. But I have my mom who is a friend. I homeschool.

Hope you make friends. Its ok to be shy but try to speak up or just say hi.

Answer 8

Make a friend you doink. Next time you meet a woman who seems lonely, talk to her. Ask her if she would like to meet for a "girls night out". Have some fun. You have more control than you realize.

Answer 9

Talk to random people and see your things in common. Be kind, and show interest in other people and it will eventually come back to you.

Answer 10

lifes a *****. then u die.

act more confident. stop being shy, search google or something.
if u sit in ure room all day mopeing around it wont help. being depressed will make u worse.

get out there live your life. your only here once, its not a rehearsel.