Breaking up and pregnant????

Question

My husband and I are not getting along. I really don't want to be with him anymore. He causes me stress lately and I have been crying everyday since I was 9 weeks pregnant (11 weeks now). I don't I love him anymore. We've been together for 5 years. Do you think my baby will forgive me if I leave his father? Is my baby going to be okay since I have been under stress lately and have been crying? I really want this child, but not the relationship. I don't want to stay just because I'm pregnant. I want to leave so I can be happy and I know I can support my baby.

Answer 1

So, things have been tough for 2 weeks? Wait it out. Your hormones are going crazy right now, and many newly pregnant women hate their spouses!

Answer 2

Pregnany is a very hormonal time for women. I can not tell you how many times I was "done" with my husband. I was sick, tired, cranky, edgy and miserable and he certainly did not understand what I was going through ~ At least not from my perspective anyway. I am not minimizing your feelings. I obviously do not know the whole story...But I do know that every pregnant woman I have known had a very short fuse with their husband.

If you feel it is deeper than this...I would try counseling. Or reading a relationship book together or something constructive that you both could do to work things out.

As far as the stress...It is never a great thing to be under stress when you are pregnant...It does impact the baby but because you are so early in the pregnancy it should all be OK.

Try to get some rest...See if you feel calmer towards things...And if not, see if you can take a weekend getaway with a friend or someone from your family and really think about everything before you make a decision.

I hope everything works out. I will say some prayers for you that you feel better. Take care of yourself and good luck with the baby.

Answer 3

Very tough situation! You should never stay in a relationship just because your having a baby - the baby will get to know his or her father whether you are married or not. If you have tried EVERY means to work it out I guess you should go. Marriage is not to be taken lightly and every effort should be made to try and keep it together. People use divorce as an easy out now a days and it's sad. BUT on the other hand, you can cause emotional damage to a child by staying in an unhappy, unhealthy relationship. Try not to stress out (for the baby's sake) It is not healthy but I am sure you will be o.k. as long as you try hard not to stress out all the time about the situation that is going on. See if you can come to a decision about this. The only way your baby will not forgive you is if you dont give the baby a chance to know his father. Let the baby see for himself what kind of person your husband is and let them be the judge if he wants his father is his life or not. Best of luck with everything.

Answer 4

First relax baby will be fine. Yes, the baby will forgive you.

How long have you two not been getting along? If it's only since you've gotten pregnant it MIGHT be hormones, and don't forget he's also under a lot of stress too.

Now if you two haven't been getting along for a long time, you only have to ask yourself one question, I'm I better off without him? If you answer yes then leave. If not the get some counseling and try and make it work. If you do leave get a lawyer and get child support.

Good luck.

Answer 5

You might regret breaking off the relationship. I would wait to see if you still feel the same way after the baby is born. Just because you aren't "getting along" doesn't mean you should break it off. I think you should try to make it work.
I am 33 weeks pregnant and going through something similar. It's hard not to feel stressed out and cry...I do it too. I think our babies will be okay though.

Answer 6

Try to sort out what is unhappiness and what is hormones. Honey, I'm 9 1/2 weeks and, although I love my husband dearly, the hormones make me want to damage him. Badly. Go see a counselor who can help you make some decisions. If you loved him before, maybe you can find that again. Take him with you to a counselor. Good luck. And congratulations on the baby.

Answer 7

I totally understand... I went throught the same thing when I was pregnant.

I had people tell me to wait and see if things change after the baby comes, because it 's just hormones. And, I've had people tell me to get out before the baby comes, because it will just be harder once the baby is here.

I too knew that the relationship was over, but I stayed to give the relationship a chance. I felt like I needed to give it a try so that if my daugther ever came to me and asked... I could tell her we tried, but we weren't happy living together.

My baby is now 8.5 months old... and we are slowly trying to go our separate ways. I know I'll be happier, and he'll be happier, which in turn will make our baby happier.

Answer 8

how long havent you been getting along, i mean things like this are usually in your face and not hidden. Why did you have sex with him and make a baby if you dont love him.

so youre going to support your baby by putting it in a daycare while you work? im sorry but pregnancy should be planned out and if you have a marriage that is not strong I wouldnt bring a baby into it and remember you might not get custody fo the baby, he might fight you for it so plan on paying so big attorney fees if theres a custody battle.

you can always abort, dont be selfish. think of your child growing up without a father figure and the damage that can do.

I know I will get alot of thumbs down and I dont care. maye you should try marriage counseling first

Answer 9

I would keep the baby and leave . After the baby is born get him for child support. at the divorce get him for alimony . Right now leave get your own place and get unstressed . Even if you have to go back to parents house or a friends .get away from him to keep the baby . The first trimester is the most critical and this is most likely when you will miscarry . Good luck .

Answer 10

If you were having the same feelings before you became pregnant then it may be best to end the relationship, however, if this is a new feeling that you have only had during the pregnancy then you should give it awhile longer, I know you don't want to hear it, but it could be your hormones.

Answer 11

yes if you think its the right thing to do then your baby will forgive you because u saved him from something that he might not like and that you don't like and because you love him and suffered alot to set a goal for him and a good and safe future. i think the baby will be okay but if your scared and stressed i advise you to visit your doctor for help. because if your thinking about leaving your husband then you should start new from the begging and build a good future for your baby. hope everything will be OK with you, and i hope i helped a little and i hope that the decision that u choose will be successful!!