If you have kids do you tend to view things in life as right/wrong, good/evil, etc,etc compared to when you were childless and viewed everything in life as a shade of grey....there is nothing absolute......no black/white. The reason is that Einstein had a theory about this but unfortunately died before he got to test out his hypothesis. Please me your experiences?
2007-01-19 12:31:19 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Trying to Conceive
to be honest with you i am a mother of 2 kids and since having them my views have not changed that much and by this i mean i still know that murder is wrong but would i kill someone if they were harming my children yes with out pause but i would have done this for my husband my parents or sisters so its still the same. in things i thought where black and white before are still that way for me now and things that where gray areas still are but i think that has more to do with my up bringing not so much as when i had children are not
2007-01-19 12:38:21 · answer #1 · answered by peterpansdate 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually, I view things MORE in shades of grey WITH kids, than I did before.
With kids, if EVERYTHING is right or wrong, you will end up with a neurotic adult. For example; If your kid skips school, is it right or wrong? If you had asked me that before I had kids, I would say it was wrong, period. No thinking about it. AFTER I had kids, I would say...'Why did s/he skip school? Was there a valid reason?'
Say your child is an animal lover, and a natural born nurturer. Say they found an injured puppy on the way to school, and his/her concience couldn't POSSIBLY leave it laying in the road, so he/she brought the puppy home to care for it, and missed school. Could you honestly say it was wrong in black and white, for the child to do that, and go against who he/she is? There are rules, sure...but there are also things that people do, because that's who they are. I don't mean criminal things or hurtful things, but there ARE grey areas where right and wrong are not absolute.
2007-01-19 20:35:04 · answer #2 · answered by Lisa E 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you have kids, everything changes, including the way you view things. You suddenly have morals even if you weren't that concerned with them before. After I had my daughter, I decided I was not going to behave in any way that I would not want my daughter to behave. It made me a better person, a better woman. So, I guess the answer is yes..
2007-01-19 20:40:19 · answer #3 · answered by flacocajuncujo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I still see things as different shades of gray. Actually more so now as a mother then I did when I was childless.
2007-01-19 20:33:51 · answer #4 · answered by FaerieWhings 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Childless people do not view everything in shades of grey.
2007-01-19 20:34:32 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't see everything in black/white but things are different now. For instance, I don't listen to the same kind of music anymore. I suddenly realized how violent and sexual songs were and I didn't want my kid listening to them. So now I listen to country music which is mostly better.
2007-01-19 21:01:16 · answer #6 · answered by Ziggy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LEARNING always Entails UNLEARNING!
Children SEE IN "BLACK AND WHITE = ALSO!"
Have you NEVER HEARD A CHILD SAY, "That's Not Fair!"
Perhaps you could RE=EVALUATE?
Thanks, RR
2007-01-19 20:35:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont see things as shades of grey. i'm not colourblind.
2007-01-19 20:35:10 · answer #8 · answered by Melissa 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋