Ok so basically I'm Tatiana 15 years old im going to be 16 in february. I go out with a guy named Jordan from a near by school he just turned 17 at the beginning of this month. Clearly by the question we have had sex and I know it's wrong and i sooo should have waited but that's not the point I'm pregnant for sure and I just don't know what i should do now. I have a gut feeling since he's young and all there's no way he's gonna want me to keep him or her. I just need advice on what the heck i should do.
2007-01-19 12:25:39 · 26 answers · asked by shakethatculo 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
you should tell your boyfriend first. this baby will be both of your responsibility so sit down talk through it calmly and see how he feels. dont let anyone talk you into something you dont want to do. Once you know how both of you feel then you let your mom know!! p.s. dont worry everything will work out for you!!!
Good luck and Congrats
2007-01-19 13:28:27 · answer #1 · answered by Bella 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U dont know,he might be a caring guy and step up to the plate (at least hope thats what he does)..Just explain the situation to him and tell him that u care about him deeply and u want him to help u with his child,he should understand (if he doesnt then he really doesnt care about you)...There are young mothers out there that raise children alone or have them put up for adoption...Since u were adult enough to have sex im sure u are adult enough to raise this baby (there is also a lot of help aids to cover the cost of your entire pregnancy and to help with diapers formula etc.) Whatever u do dont get an abortion..If u need help getting medicaid to get to a doctor or other help email me and ill give u the info if your willing to keep this baby..u need to tell your parents asap and your boyfriend,prenatal care for u and the baby is most important..hellabunnyfoofoo@yahoo.com (feel free to email for info to help u)..
2007-01-19 20:35:04 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the boy has a right to know, however if you don't tell him and get an abortion then keep that information to yourself and don't even tell your best friend because it can never get back to him.
I think you should tell your mother at least because in this situation you will need support that a mother can give. This is a big deal and your mother has tons more life experience than you have and you don't want to make a rash decision and regret it for the rest of your life with no one to talk to about it. Hiding and supressing stuff sucks.
2007-01-19 20:34:46 · answer #3 · answered by Phat Kidd 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should tell your boyfriend first. Perhaps the two of you can decide together if you prefer abortion, adoption or keeping the baby. Hopefully he will go with you to tell your parents.
If he's not willing to be part of the situation, tell your parents by yourself. You might want to think about what you want to do ahead of time, so that they can't "talk you into" anything. But, be open and listen to their advice.
In the end, go with your heart. Don't let anyone talk you into a decision you'll regret for the rest of your life.
2007-01-19 20:31:42 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to be prepared that babies are a lot of hard work and most likely...your boyfriend is going to bail....do you really want to be a single mother at 15 years old??? I did not have my first til i was 25 years old and even that was hard but i managed cause i was older...way older than you are!!! and i was done with the partying and hanging out with friends scence...you have your whole life still ahead of you. you are not even legal drinking age...do the right thing and have an abortion...its the best thing
2007-01-19 20:38:39 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell your mother first of all. Then tell your boyfriend. Don't let either of them talk you into doing something that you do not want to do.
If the boyfriend does not want you to keep the baby and you DO want to keep it --lose the boyfriend! You and your mother will have to decide what is the right thing for you to do.
If you feel that you cannot tell your mother, then tell a counselor at school and ask them to help you tell your mom.
2007-01-19 20:35:49 · answer #6 · answered by Marilyn E 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi hun,
You need to speak to your mom sooner rather than later. Yes, she will be angry, upset, shocked etc, but at the end of the day she'll get over it and want to help and support you in your decisions over the next couple of months. If you decide to have this baby, then Im sure she wil help you to discuss this with your boyfriend and his family. Dont delay though, you need support now... Good luck :>)
2007-01-19 20:32:40 · answer #7 · answered by big leggy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your mom first. She will probably be pissed at first but will quickly move into trying to figure out what to do. Then tell your boyfriend. BTW it's your body you make the decision on whether to keep the baby, don't let anyone pressure you into anything not even your mom.
2007-01-19 20:35:11 · answer #8 · answered by Heather 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your mom now as she will probably be the only person who stands beside you no matter what you decide to do. Of course your boyfriend is too young. So are you. Tell your mom as soon as you can and let her help you. Best of luck to you, dear.
2007-01-19 20:29:36 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi sweetie im a 19 year old mum of a beautiful 8month old i think you should tell your boyfriend and your mum right away its very important for them to no so they can support and help you its going to be tuff but i have a MSN group to help its for young teen mums like yourself you come ask questions and meet other young mums we are friendly and never judge so come have a look
http://groups.msn.com/YoungTeenMummys
2007-01-19 22:26:55 · answer #10 · answered by Jessica P 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋