is he cheating?

Question

ive been married for 7 yrs to a good man.now for the past 5months no sex -i dont try anymore and neither does he so is he cheating or what?

Answer 1

I know just how you feel.My hubby went through a time like this[3 months].I was concerned that he wanted out but didn't know how to tell me.So rather than doing the obvious,[talking to him],I begged him to see a doctor to get a physical. I used his brothers cause of death[heart attack] to persuade him to go.Turns out he was suffering from diabetes,high blood pressure.also, stress from having to handle his brothers estate.Once he got medical help with his sugar problem,he was back to his normal self in bed,but his stress was still there.We have worked on that part together and now he is his old self.
I would talk to him honestly and tell him how I feel.Unless you want out.Marriage takes hard work to keep it together from both parties. Good luck,Ladybug

Answer 2

There are a lot of questions to ask here. How old is he? Has he ever cheated before? Why would you think to accuse him of cheating in the first place? Owner of a business? Stress? Finances? What about you? Have you changed? New baby? weight gain? You look for the typical red flags...works late, new clothes, gifts to you, new shaving cologne, new cell phone or number, on the computer alot without allowing you access to his accounts.....phone calls, won't take you out to public for dinner etc....these are red flags. OR, maybe he is just tired...bored, unhappy, etc. You need to plan a romantic night at home with candles, music, and a good heart to heart talk. Tell him you miss him and how things used to be. Spice things up YOU take the lead and treat him to a bubble bath for two and see what you can find out from him before you jump to any conclusions. The answer might be right there in front of you. Good luck.

Answer 3

I would be a worried. I've been through a cheating husband. That was one of the 1st big signs I saw. For several months, sex was great - one thing I thought was weird is that he all of a sudden starting wanting to try new things in bed. Then it completely dropped off. From several times a week to nothing. I had to ask for it and he agreed but I could tell it was just a 'favor' Good luck!! I hope you don't have to go through that. Talk to him!

Answer 4

YOu need to talk to him and soon. That was the same problem in my marriage and my man had an affair. I'm not saying all men will stoop to that level, but lets face it, normal men love sex and if they are not getting it at home, they will more than likely get it somewhere else. Why arnt you trying anymore? When he gets home tonight, take him to your bed and do all kinds of dirty little things to him. Knock his socks off, and do it tomorrow and the next day, bring back the spark in your bedroom, cuz if you dont want to, there are plenty of women out there would love to give it to your husband, and i dont mean me, just speaking from experience. Good luck.

Answer 5

How old is he? May be lost interest/no sex drive.

Are there signs of depression? If yes, then work with him.

If not, sorry to say, may be he is getting it somewhere else.
A friend went thru that (no sex for couple of months, no touching, kissing, cuddling) She ended up finding condoms in his business travel bag. His excuse - they were there from before. Yea, right.

Sorry you are going thru the doubt phrase where u arent sure what is going on. It's hell of a time.

Answer 6

It's a possibilty but also you guys could have just lost the "spark" it's normal to after awhile. Try going to counseling or talking to him about it. If this is the only reason you think he is cheating, then he probably isn't unless there are other things you noticed. Are you the one he comes home to at night? Is he at work or other places when he says he is? Just think about it before worrying too much and good luck! =]

Answer 7

Well 5 months is a very long time. Are there any other signs?
Maybe hes stressed out about something; or needs viagra. I would be suspicious- moniter his behavior

Answer 8

He may not be cheating (yet), but you can be sure he's thinking about it.

Why don't either of you try anymore? Is your marriage over except for the paperwork?

Go see a counselor - save it or end it.

Answer 9

Either he lost interest in it, or medically can't perform, stressed, or yah..sex out there somewhere.. If it really bothers you, tell him you got listening ears and tell him to tell you what's wrong in that department... Communication goes a long way..don't argue, just listen.. then after it processes and it went through the calm department..then..reasoning...then spit out your reply..

Answer 10

Question: Has he started to care more about his appearance, such as working out, buying new clothes etc.... If so that is a deffinit give away that there is someone else.