If your and ur husband didnt have sex for 2 months and he didnt intiate at all and he says he couldnt give u a reason for no sex for 2 months would would u think and no the reason isnt cheating..how do i know this cause i have been married to the man for 16 yrs so i should know him by now plus he loves memore then anything and would never hurt me like that cause he is a good guy, a great husband and treats me like a queen..by the way this was a yr ago and everything has been back to normal since then but i just wanted to see what other married women have to say
2007-01-19 11:42:51 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
why didnt i intiate? maybe cause back then i intiated most of the time and was waiting for him but something happened in between those months that made me not intiate
2007-01-19 11:58:35 · update #1
and as far as him maybe going thru something i have no idea what it would have been
2007-01-19 12:01:21 · update #2
well we have been married 16 yrs and he is only 42 so i dont know if it was cause of his age
2007-01-19 12:11:20 · update #3
We had no problems at that time we have always gotten along great
2007-01-19 14:05:45 · update #4
What do u mean by something he was doing that would have affected me and what do mean by emotionally
2007-01-19 14:08:52 · update #5
i just found out what cheat emotionally means........when u share ur feelings,thoughts and intimate conversation with someone other then ur spouse well this doesnt describe hubby cause of course he loves sex like any other man but he has never seemed comfortable in starting a converstion about sex but if i do he will talk about it if i bring it up and no this isnt a problem just explaining so since he is like that with me and im his wife of 16yrs then he sure isnt gonna have an intimate conversation with another women and dont say how do u know this cause i do know this i have been married to the man 16 yrs so i should know him by now
2007-01-19 15:13:40 · update #6
plus he is a private person and doesnt and wouldnt like anybody knowing personal stuff about our marriage
2007-01-19 15:16:24 · update #7
If everything is back to normal I would just think it was a fluke and maybe he was just feeling kind of down. I wouldn't make too much out of it.
2007-01-19 15:52:44 · answer #1 · answered by tomimegi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are any number of reasons, but my guess is he really couldn't give you a reason because he doesn't know himself. Generally men are not as in tune with their feelings as women and he may not have been counting the days. Sex drives fluctuate - he could have been tired, depressed, it could just be age or his testosterone or other hormone levels could be off. If things are back to normal now, don't fret. It also could have been that he thought you didn't want it as he got so used to you initiating it. I know it is tough, but you say you trust him and he loves you so it is not likely that he cheated or didn't find you attractive or any other negative reason. Yeah, they say men want it more than women, but that is not alwasy the case.
2007-01-19 12:07:14 · answer #2 · answered by Jill M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well as you mentioned, You know your hubby and what's normal for him. It sounds like he was out of character. Now, from a woman's perspective, if I am not happy out of bed, there is no way in hell you are going to get me IN bed. You didn't mention if there were problems during that time, so that may be the case. But that's water under the bridge. If things are better now, don't worry about it, it will drive you nuts.
2007-01-19 13:25:48 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
two months...that is a long time for a guy. If it were a woman i would say not to trip on it. Maybe he isnt sure why and that is why he cant tell you. Men are not able to express themselves like women. It could be a number of things...stress, depresstion, etc. Glad things are back to norm.
2007-01-19 11:50:04 · answer #4 · answered by justme 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he was not stressed out at work? Then my guess is he felt guilty over something he was doing that would have affected you.
He might not have cheated on you physically, but maybe emotionally. So he felt guilty and could not be intimate.
2007-01-19 12:22:09 · answer #5 · answered by mimi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men have highs and lows in their sex drive just like women do. If you have no immediate cause for concern, like another woman in the picture than I wouldn't worry about it.
2007-01-19 11:53:53 · answer #6 · answered by veronica c 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmmm I say men are like women sometimes they just aren't in the mood.It is kinda strange though maybe he was going thru something ya know
2007-01-19 11:49:13 · answer #7 · answered by Debra T 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Could be a medical problem, have him see a doctor
2007-01-19 13:19:08 · answer #8 · answered by ladyluc39 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I would no the reason and I would know he isn't cheating.
2007-01-19 11:48:30 · answer #9 · answered by B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
his sex drive could of went away for that time period. it happens alot.
2007-01-19 11:50:04 · answer #10 · answered by taby 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋