am i worrying too much???

Question

ok, i've been with my boyfriend for 11 months now. i love him to death and i would do anyhting in the world for him. anyway, he has these group of friends who i dont like him hanging out with. they're like the gangsta type. they do drugs and stuff. my bf doesnt do that kinda stuff. i know. (my bf isnt in a gang) I just dont like him hanging out withthem. i'm worried they'll hurt him. i worry so much when he's with them. i get sick to my stomach. they're really big and if he does the slightest thing to make them mad he'll get ganged or something. i told him that i didnt want him hanging out with them but he doesnt' listen. wat should i do? i dont wanna leave him just because of that.....

Answer 1

you don't worry enough. Being in a gang is likely to get you killed, or involved in a murder. You need to get away from him.

Answer 2

If you tell him again, make sure he knows (although he should already realize) that it's for him, and that you're only concerned because you really care about him. He might just think that he can handle it and that you're worrying too much, but if he really cares and knows that you're concerned about him, and that it's better for him and you, he should understand. If he really cares he will want you to stop worrying, whether he thinks your concerns are founded or not. If he still hung out with this type, I would begin to think that he's not a very good judge of character- and this might reflect his character also. It's one thing if he's friends with people who are just different or the misunderstood type (and not really a threat)- but if they're unlawful and dangerous, his persistence with hanging out with them might begin to say something about him. I hope that this is not the case- and he at least does something to make you feel better. Either way, if he isn't worried about your concerns, then you shouldn't have to worry about him either. If he sees it this way, he will definitely change his perspective.

Answer 3

Your worry is natural. It is true that friends play an important role in building career and upliftment in life As you are sure that your boyfriend's friend are gang star type you should be able to convince your boyfriend about that. Tell him the reasons why you think that those friends are not good. If not convinced then it may be due to his inability or less courage to deny their company. Ask your b.f to go to some other place on holidays so that he can analyze and realize the actual situation.

Answer 4

It doesn't sound like you're worrying too muc, but maybe it's a little misplaced. Are you worrying that he could do the slightest thing to get them to hurt him, or are you actually worrying for his safety in general?

If they're happy with him there then they accept him. If you trust your boyfriend as much as you think you do, you'll know he can't be tempted into doing drugs or whatever. But always give him the option of being open with you in case he ever feels pressured into it.

It's nice to have someone that worries and cares for you that much, but make sure it doesn't consume you. you have your own life away from him too, don't let his life worry you that much!

Answer 5

Sounds like your boyfriend is already in the gang by wanting to hang out with them.
U need to go with him and see what kind of gang it really is, maybe it is nothing,
Be brave and tell him u want to be with him.
If u see that the gang aint all so bad as it is made out to be, then
u will not worry about him when he is hangin out wid the boys.

Answer 6

You have reason to worry, and you're expressed your concerns to him. Make sure you also express the reasons for your concerns - you're afraid that they will hurt him or turn against him, or put him in a situation where he can't refuse joining in their dangerous habits or where he becomes an accomplice to a crime.
Be sure to ask him why he is friends with these guys and what redeeming qualities they have (not in a disbelieving way, but really try to see it from his point of view). There may be something you're not aware of (ie, they saved his life once).

If these guys go to your school, anonymously report them and their activities to a dean or teacher.

Answer 7

sweetheart, your worrying is rational.

instead of telling him what he shouldn't do, tell him what he SHOULD do. scratcht that. don't tell him what to do at all. no man wants to be bossed around by his woman.

tell him you are really worried for him, and that you just can't stand anything happening to him. maybe talk to the "gang" or whatever you call it. find out more about the guys. maybe you're misinterpeting them, just because of how they dress and stuff,,, or something like that. just talk to them. i'm sure your boyfriend is a smart guy. :)

just talk.

Good Luck!!

Answer 8

this group of friends sound pretty scary. maybe your bf is doing some stuff you don't know about. if you tell him to stay away from these friends, you know he's going to choose his friends. the question is, can you live with things as they are? if not you need to run while you can. if you bf ticks these guys off, he won't be the only one they come after.

Answer 9

He probably can't leave this group at this time, and he probably
does belong to this gang. H e doesn't want you to be concerned about him.
You have 2 choices, either leave him, or pretend that you are'nt
worried. Don;t ask him about his affairs and just mind your own
affairs.

Answer 10

umm.... come front to him. tell him. show him what you wrote on here and you are worried to death. i would worry too. omg! ok just call him, or talk to him about it. if he does not stop hangin' with those guys then leave him for like a week. if hes really your lover then he will go after you and leave those jurks. i hope the best for you!