Pregnancy @ A Young Age?

Question

What are some of your thoughts on being pregnant at 16,17,18 years of age?Do You think its the girls fault she got pregnant? if you were her parents what would be your reaction and your response would u instantly kick her out, make her get an abortion, be mad @ her but at the same time love her and still care for her? what would you do?????

Answer 1

1. thoughts on young mothers: i believe that children at 16-18 should be concentrating on thier education and what not. not having babies. they could not possible be mature enough AND be finacially stable.
2. is it thier fault? Yes, they spread their legs, didn't use protection, and made that choice themselves
3. if it were my child? i would not kick them out. i would not make them get an abortion. i would be upset that they have done this to their lives, at such a young age. i would suport them in what they wanted to do, as long as i agreed with it. she will be working and taking care of her child like she should be. the father would be involved, if at all possible. but there will be no babysitting for them to go out with friends. children need thier moms, and my grandbaby would not get denied that because thier mother wants to be young and irresponsible... still...

Answer 2

Hard question that could have been split up into several different blogs.
Is it here fault, yes. But to what degree you might ask yourself? Was her parents/ peers directing her correctly or is she just young and could have thought it through? If she is well educated and seems to have somewhat clear thinking patterns in other situations, I would say she can claim responsibility.
ABORTION?? That is not a parents decision to kill a life that is inside of another human being, whether it is your daughters or not. The emotion scars that it can leave on girls is often forever. When a parent has a son or daughter expecting a child at a young age, you take it in strides. Hard to do, but it was your choice to be a parent and basically you chose through thick and thin. Sounds thin to me, but you have to stand by. Don't kick the girl out. Talk about abandonment issues....... If she's pregnant, she is going to need a good role model to raise her own (even so young), kicking her out on repeats the cycle. It's hard, but so is life,and so is being a mom. 16,17,18 whenever.

Answer 3

If my kid was in that situations I'd be mad but not kick her out. It is understandable that things like that happen but I'd be angry if other options than having the baby would not be concidered. It is always, in the first place, the mother's decision if she will have the baby or not. Her own future should be concidered, if she is not ready for it, there is no guild of getting an abortion. It is never an easy choice but is always an option in a case when the parents are not ready to be there for the baby yet. It is an hard decision but many people that I know have got through it and learned from it. When I was young I would not have taken the responsipility of a baby myself, but it is a personal decision for everybody. Think about it and how your life would be changed, and most of all if you are ready to be a mom. Talk to your partner also, it is a decision to made together if possible. The parent should never turn their back, and be ready for any kind of support that the young adult needs in this diffucult situation. Though but true.

Answer 4

Well I was almost 16 when I first got pregnant. Abortion is not an answer to me or my mother. She cried at first, but then accepted the fact and was with me. She made sure I took my Vitamins and went to the doctor. When I was 10 almost 11 weeks, I had a miscarriage. She cried harder than I did and helped me through it. Never once did she condemn me or say that she hated me or say that she was disappointed in me. I had my first child at 17, I got married a week after I miscarried and she supported me. She loves my girls and helps me when I need it. I am now 20 with two girls and 10 weeks with my third and last. I wanted to get having kids out of the way so I could start a career and go to collage. She has been by my side and had faith in me even when I didnt. My mom is the best one out there and has been by my side from the day I was born and love her for the help and support she has given me and the strenght she has given me to be the best mom I can be!!

Answer 5

I was 18 when I got pregnant with my first child and 19 when he was born. Yes I finished high school. Went to college. I moved out of my parents house just one month after I graduated from high school. I was determined to support my own child and be on my own before he was born. That way I knew that my parents wouldn't feel like they had to help me take care of him, after all he was my responsibility. That boy is now 8 years old. I did wait a long time after he was born to have another. I was more concerned with making sure I could afford another. I now have a 9 month old daughter. He loves his sister very very much. My parents did NOT support me or my baby financially in any way. They did leave it up to me to decide what I wanted to do. They supported the choices I had to make as a result of my actions. I took responsibility for my actions, and didn't expect anyone to take on my responsibilities. I am now 27 years old, my mom has passed away, and I own my house. I am SOOOOO glad that I had my son at that young age. My mom would not have been able to see any of my kids had I waited until now to start having children. Things ALWAYS happen for a reason, its just that not always do we know the reason and often times understand why later on in life! Everyone's life is different and therefore requires different solutions. My choices turned out to be the best and the right choices.

Answer 6

i dont believe having a baby at those ages is the smartest idea, thats the time to have fun, and be a kid.
but stuff happens.
It's not just the girls fault, it takes 2 people to make a baby, however the girl could havhe been on birth control, and also forced the subject of condoms.
As a parent, of course they are going to be upset, your their baby, and now your pregnant, and possible not ready, mentally, physically,emotionally,it takes ALOT to raise a baby.
If the parents were to kick her out, then they are flat out jerks, most parents wouldnt kick her out, as thas their grandbaby, most parents would be supportive,and helpful, after all the lectures and them getting over the upsetness and disappointment that she didnt wait longer or prevent the pregnancy.
My reaction, boy, i'd be upset, yes mad, but of course love her and care for her, as it is a scary situation for her also, as far as an abortion, i dont believe in those, not after what ive heard,and thats a life, to just take away?
it'd be a rough road, but you make your bed ya lie in it, id suggest to her to keep the baby, many chicks hate them selves for abortions etc.. however situations/feelings are different, its best for some people to have abortions, if they cant handle it,
any how i hope this helps.
oh and its best to be honest and tell the parents asap

Answer 7

very good quesition to ask and i could probably go on about this for hours. the correct answer to this that everyone one is at fault the girls parents the boys parents and the girl and the guy.My first reaction I would be be very disappointed in my daughter and at myself, because I failed as a parent to openly communicate with my daughter on this subject. i would not make my daughter have an abortion i dont not beleive in it. I would not kick her out. I would accept the situation for what it was. there is nothing that i could really do about it. I would love and support my daughter. I would help her raise her child so that she could finish school. and any other person that doesnt do that is a cruel human being

Answer 8

I got pregnant the first time at 18. I don't think 18 is the problem, as you are an adult. If my daughter was 17 or younger I would be there for her. Having sex isn't an unforgivable sin; I certainly wouldn't kick her out of the house or make her get an abortion. I would help her look into her different options and be supportive. Parents who's girls give up on them if they get pregnant are setting their daughter up for a lifetime of problems and insecurities.

Answer 9

I got pregnant at the age of 16.
My mom was an alcoholic and my dad had passed away. I didn't have any guidance or structure.
Of course it is my fault I got pregnant, I new it was a risk. But I didn't care.
My mom was supportive.

I think having a baby for me at a young age made me grow up. I realized I had to do right for my baby. I went back to school, got my nurse aide and am in my junior year of college now. I had an inheritance and spend it on a house and car, instead of blowing like I am sure i owuld have if i didn't have anyone else to look out for.

If my daughter got pregnant at the age i did, i owuld be upset only because i am not like my mom. I am a very involved parent and hope she would trust me enought to come to me and tell me the truth about having sex. I would make sure she is well educated on the risks of having sex and if she ended up pregnant would be supportive. I would of course be confused wondering what i did wrong as a parent for her to be irresponsible like that.

I would always love her and would never put her out. People make mistakes. And as long as she did her job and didn't slack off and think i was going to raise it for her, i woildn't have a problem. I mean you know what i mean.

Answer 10

What people need to understand is that everyone is human and everyone makes misteaks. Just think back to when you were a teenager, we pretty much did the same thing. Although each generation gets worse, we might not have been as bad as our children our these days but we were still rebelious. But to answer the question, i would not kick my child out, i would support her in every way because i love her and i know it was a misteak.