was i wrong?

Question

i was on a law enforcement message board , i am married of course i was interacting with other members well 1 was a woman i exchanged pics with, the same pics you canview onmy space profile but i happen to send them. my wife feels this is totally wrong and i feel there was nothing to it just a pic a pic anybody can view on my space

o only sent pics cuz i couldnt figure how to link this person to my space page

i have told her i wouldnt mind cuz all the messages i sent to this woman was on a public message boardnothing was personal except the fact that we was both married all other things was about my field of work and she was saying how stressful it was for her husband/bf i am not sure what he was

Answer 1

Hi, I think women when they become wives. They want to feel as if there is no other woman in the world that can compare to them to their husbands. I being a married woman myself. I like to think that my husband would think of me as his only and have no interest in seeing any other girl. I don't feel it is important for you to have to see each other regarding chats and forums. When someone usually asks for a photo it is out of curiosity, but other times it is for attraction reason. I think your wife was right to feel hurt, even if on your end it was innocent. I think you should avoid interaction with women. The woman was attracted probably by the fact thta you are in law enforcement? Eitherway I would respect your wife, and make her feel as if she is the most precious and beautiful thing on the earth that you don't need pictures of other women to make her feel insecure. Goodluck and do your best to heal her feelings. Assure her and I wouldn't recommend you doing it again or having female friends on your list if this is an issue for your wife. Cause you want to respect her wishes.

Answer 2

.....this is YOUR WIFE for a life time. This woman you sent the pic to is a momentarly friend. And although innocent, you are married and need to do everything to make your wife feel comfortable. If she can't see your pic..oh well. thats life.

My daughter and boyfriend made an agreement NO more instant messeging, It just leads to some insecure feelings and sets a couple up for some jealous moments.

It is your choice to have a good marriage or one where your wife feels threatened (whether that be real or imagined)
My advice would be to take her hand and tell her she means every thing to you and that you will no longer exchange pictures with anyone. I would suggest you take advantage of yahoo geocites free page and make it a family page..you & your wife and if you have kids , your kids. And pictures about your life. Agree with your wife that if you ever share anything it is this page.

When it comes right downto it, your marriage is far more important than seeing or giving out a picture to anyone.

For example here is mine www.geocities.com/clcalifornia/art.html
Not sure if that will print up here

Answer 3

Yes, this is wrong! Why would you want other woman to go and look at pics of you on myspace either? Why does she need to know what you look like? Another thing that you need to think about is, did you tell this woman that you are married or has it "just not come up in conversation" You know what your intentions were, good or bad, but at the end of the day your wife is going to lie down next to you [if she doesn't make you sleep on the couch ;) ] and do you want her to go to bed questioning you and her? Even if you feel you did nothing wrong if it hurts the woman you love then you should apologise and don'd do it again. Besides how would you feel if she was e-mailing her pics to another man? Step up say your sorry for hurting her, and dont make the same mistake next time and move on.... Good Luck!

Answer 4

What are you doing? Stop it! You are a married man. Do you love your wife? Do you want to keep her and stay married?

Stay away from doing stuff like that on the internet. Married means married. Period. If your wife is not happy with what you are doing, then you need to be working on being a better husband. Why don't you think about putting energy and attention to making your marriage a happier place? Why don't you surprise your wife with some flowers, tell her what you love about her? Or surprise her with some beautiful little gift - it does not have to be expensive. You need to make up your mind about what you want and how you want your marriage to be. You are the other half of the equation. If you eventually want to wind up divorced and out there looking again - then keep doing what you're doing. You, too, can be another sad statistic. OR, you can turn it around and make your home, and marriage and family life your priority. And do it with love, not a sense of "Oh, she's a ball and chain around my ankles." What would you do if you lost her for good?

Answer 5

Yes. You are totally wrong. You exchanged a pic with another women, why? If for fellowship, your wife should be your chief friend. If it's fellowship, Y exchange pics. Replace the online exerience with a real world one. If a women gave you her phone number for the purpose of fellowship; or rather a man gave your wife his number for fellowship - you would know to protect your relationship with your wife (i hope).

Your wife's space has been invaded and don't be up set with her for protecting it. If you and your wife feel comfortable sitting in front of the computer while you share with others online, then all will be well. But if not, that's your clue to stand down and talk more with your soul mate.

Peace.

Answer 6

So you are telling me that if your wife was talking to some guy on myspace and exchanging pic's with him that YOU wouldn't have a problem? Even if it was a regular picture that wasn't risque ask yourself that question? Sounds like someone has the Seven year itch... Consider the context of the messages that you are sending to this other woman.

Answer 7

It was innocent of you to send them? Or were you hoping for more. Yes it is hurtful, she could have just seen your pics on myspace just as easy, you didnt have to send them to her, this made it to personable for your wife. I use to say I could forgive my hubby if he had a one time affair, but if he sat and had lunch and talked to a women everyday, well then I would really be worried. Better make it up to her, and stay off the board, maybe myspace for a while too, and look for happiness in your own backyard.

Answer 8

I'm sure your motive was pure. However, it doesn't do much for feeling secure in a relationship when hubby is exchanging pics with some strange woman.

Answer 9

I think it was wrong to do. I would be hurt. If you care about your wife enough you wouldn't be looking for attention from another person (female) at all. Why would you want to exchange pictures if there weren't some interest and jeapordize what you already have at home?

Answer 10

I think you should ask yourself this... How would you feel if your wife exchanged pics with a man? If it doesn't bother you than tell her that.