I have decided to have the abortion the regular way, no the pill. Is it painul and how long did it take?

Question

Theres reasons behind why I want the abortion, I sont wanna say though. Im 3 to 4 weeks pregnant and I dont wanna have it not because its an inconvenience. This is my first time I have ever been pregnant. PLEASE HELP! I need really good advice.

Answer 1

you should have thought about that before you decided to open your legs!!!!! my advice is have the baby and put him up for adoption. that baby does not deserve to DIE because of your careless mistake.

Answer 2

I have never had an abortion but I am a nurse. This is what to expect. Some clinics give something to relax you... request it or demand it if you have to. They will put your legs into stirrups and dilate (make bigger) your cervix using 2 stainless steal "wands". They then scrape your uterus with a metal oval shaped instrument I can only describe as "like the wand that comes with bubbles". They will flush your uterus with saline and use a suction wand to make sure every bit of matter is removed because a tiny bit left behind can cause an infection. I believe it takes less than an hour from start to finish. You will recover for an hour or so and will want to have someone else drive you home.

Afterwards you will have some cramping and possibly pain and nausea. You should not have a lot of bleeding since this was all suctioned out with the fetus. Since your cervix will take weeks to return to normal they suggest you not have sex until after your follow up appointment with your GYN or family planning clinic.

This is not a pleasant procedure but you will heal. The way they are done today, you should not have to worry about having a family when you are ready.

Good Luck..... Although I do not agree with your choice, I wanted you to know exactly what happens.

Answer 3

U need to know the facts before u decide on this procedure...I have known a couple girls who have had an abortion and were scarred by it,nightmares,crying,depression,thoughts and regret! It does hurt,it hurts u and the baby. U will cramp very bad and bleed for a while afterwards...They treat u like **** in there and dont give a crap about u or the baby u are carrying..There ha been girls who have died from abortion procedures,never able to have kids again,ever since my friends abortion she is continuously having miscarriages and not to mention bad infection...There have been girls who have been raped,been drunk and got pregnant,have babys with disabilities etc. and they carry to full term and end up keeping the baby or adoption...Adoption costs nothing for you,the pregnancy and doctor appts cost nothing for u if u get the pregnancy medicaid,so u cant say the money is the issue...Now just so u know they wont just pull the baby out and thats it,they will open your cervix and then take this tube thats connected to a machine with a sharp cutting edge on the end and they will literally pull the babys body parts apart,and then they crush the skull to remove it because its too big..Thats what u call murder,cruelty..do u really wanna do this to your baby girl/boy...Just think in 9 months u can have a little georgeous girl or baby boy to love and mother..Think hard please before deciding on this.

Answer 4

It is really uncomfortable to have an abortion, but most clinics will allow you to have extra medication for the procedure. I had the extra meds and then threw up in the recovery room b/c of them. It doesn't take very long, but it is an emotional experience. Be prepared for protesters holding up signs in front of the clinic that contain very graphic pictures. You will probably have to talk to a counselor beforehand (I did). Also, they do an ultrasound that you can opt not to look at; they do this to see how far along you are. Oh, and get ready for all the Pro-lifers to degrade your question. Just remember, this is your decision and you should have a close friend or family member go with you to the procedure; someone you can trust. Good luck to you.

Answer 5

PLEASE DO NOT LISTEN TO PEOPLE THAT WILL TRY AND GUILT U INTO HAVING THIS BABY. Honey, if u are not ready and are not capable of mothering this child for whatever reason, it is your right and your choice to terminate. i could not do it myself, and i am not a huge supporter of abortion, however i do support women's right of choice. i can't say what i would have done if i had fallen pregnant unmarried (or unpartnered!) or when i was a teen or any other stage in my life other than when i did. talk to a counsellor, your mumma, who ever u trust. i know of girls that had babies when we were at school, and i look at how incapable they are of caring for a child, and how much they regret it now. adoption is a much better alternative though, but either adoption or abortion will be very hard emotionally. i also know of girls that have terminated and i have not heard any horror stories, all have recovered in time. it's really weird writing this though, you are wanting to be rid of your pregnancy, and i am trying to keep mine. best of luck and prayers. ALSO, make sure this is a really thought out descision and that u can live with the results of it.

Answer 6

I am going to give you a few answers.You can adopt the child out and find a family easily that will make sure you and your baby are safe and cared for during pregnancy.When the baby is born you sign the rest of the papers giving this child to a great home,and family.Plus this gives you the option to screen who you would like as parents for your child.Even if the situation was a forced pregnancy caused by rape,this child can still be loved and never know his/her background.All they will know is they have a great family that loves them.http://www.iemily.com/article-153.html is a good site to answer the rest of your questions.I think you should seek counseling for either choice that you decide to do.Good luck,and I will keep you,and your child in my prayers.

Answer 7

Every woman is different. I can not tell you that you won't expierence pain or that you will. I've gone with friends some have had pain while other's didn't. The best advice I can give you is for your aftercare. Follow ALL of the doctor's instructions and get a lot of rest. I understand about your making your own decision and wish you luck. And do not buy into the guilt some will try to hand you telling you it is murdering your "baby". A pregnancy is not a "baby" a baby is a born human, at 3-4 weeks you have an embryo, and what you decide is right for you....it is not "murder" because one can not "murder" that which has not been born.






and to "desciple"...I wonder what would have happened if Jeffrey Dahlmer's mother would have aborted him...the pendelum swings BOTH ways.

Answer 8

I have had a D&C (due to a misscarrige) they put me to sleep when I got one, but you would probably just get a local. Not physically painful, but you will go through lots of emotional pain. Im not hear to judge you, but you need to make sure you are 110% that this is the best decision for you, because there are a lot of people out there that can't have children....very selfish.

Answer 9

I never took the pill but I had a friend who did and told me she had lots of cramping and bleeding..... Heres the worst part she still had to get on the table and get an abortion because the pill didn't do the full job. Good Luck everybody is different.

Answer 10

Do not have an abortion.
Its just two more eyes who will never see
two more little hands to have in yours when they're scared
just two more legs who will never get to run.
just ten more toes that will never be able to play this little piggy.
one more child who wont live to see the light of the sun.
one more child who will never say that they LOVE YOU!
just think about the life you would be destroying.
maybe you should just give the baby to a family who will actually want him/her.
dont have an abortion.

Do the right thing and be a good person.
Keep this baby.

Have a good day and God bless you.

Answer 11

I will be thinking of you over the next few hours. Your going to have your feelings very hurt posting this question! I am sure you have valid reasons for making your decision however I doubt you'll get many nice answers on this one. I cant really answer your question medically though. Please be sure to get some counselling both before and after, it will be pain-full emotionally. Best of luck to you.....