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Why do we always strive to be perfect? If you are happy what is your secret? I'm fed up of trying to be normal, what is that anyway? I', m fed up with working so hard. Is there an easier way? Any one have the answer to a perfect life without all the hard work?

2007-01-19 10:42:23 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science Psychology

27 answers

Rob a bank and flee to Bermuda

2007-01-19 10:45:55 · answer #1 · answered by Nikki 4 · 3 1

You do not HAVE TO strive to be perfect.

You have already achieved it ~ a perfect specemine of a human being - which includes (by definition) all of your imperfections.


1: Perfection (in thetems you mean) is an impossibility.

2: There is ALWAYS someone you cannot please anyway.

3: Work....! Try finding pleasure in the work you do, look for the value in it.

4: Fed up trying to be normal...! Why are you 'trying,' being 'normal' is, by definition, 'Being Who and What you are.'

There is no such creature as 'Normal' anyway, there are only 'averages.'

To achieve averages you need to take measurements from which you write down the numbers gathered. These in turn are used to show that that there is on one end of the spectrum 'A' or 'B', and at the other end there are the 'Y' or 'Z's.

Those that lay in the middle (the middle parts of the alphabet) are what we term as 'Normal' ~ but are constituted by the F.G.H.I.J.K.L. and so on.

Your question might better be put, 'What can I do in life that is going to give me the greatest amount of satisfactory rewards?'

This of course offers you a number of questions for which you can linger over and can consider all of your options.

Best of luck with your search.
Sash.

2007-01-19 20:06:50 · answer #2 · answered by sashtou 7 · 0 1

I don't always strive to be perfect, I do the best I can and I do what will fulfill me and make me happy. This is your life and you need to do what pleases you and stop worrying about the other person. My secret is that I live a lifestyle that pleases me and I try to live in a state of total gratitude for all the gifts, lessons and blessings that I have been given by God. When you are grateful for what you have then you will receive more. Life is hard work but learn to have fun and see joy in working. If you were handicapped as I am you would understand that things could always get worse and feel blessed.

2007-01-19 18:54:44 · answer #3 · answered by kimballama 3 · 0 1

Only you can determine worth... I personally like all 3 of the first answers. I gave up striving for perfection years ago. That's one of the many secrets to being happy. Another is the mantra "This too shall pass."

I work only on the weekends. 7 hours Saturday, 4 hours Sunday. Some people think this is crazy, but I prefer to live the life of a bohemian to chasing the elusive "next, best thing".

You can do it too, you just have to determine whether it's more important to have an expensive house, with brand new furniture, an expensive car, all the latest gadgets, or have quality time with your friends and family. I chose quality time. You can too. You just have to be able to sacrifice the aforementioned "luxuries".

Definitely doable!

2007-01-19 18:54:28 · answer #4 · answered by purplepartygirrl 4 · 0 1

Sweetie, there is no such thing as a perfect life, or perfect person for that matter. If you are happy what are you stressing over. I'm in my fifties and thought I'd have my sh__ together by now, but, I don't. I realize now that I am in my fifties that we are always a work in progress. Do your best to do the right thing and above all else love yourself even when you make the inevitable mistake along the way. As for a perfect life? Isn't a perfect life just living life the way you want, and having a few of the things you want to make it nicer? We all have things we don't want to do and have to do anyway. That's just life in general. I don't stress about the things I know I can't have, but, to me the people in my life is what makes it so happy.

2007-01-19 19:01:20 · answer #5 · answered by mjm52 4 · 1 1

Stop looking for the perfect!
It doesn't exist in this life. I'm also sure 'normal' doesn't exist either.
I'm happy 90% of the time and the other 10% is spent on trying to find an answer to what is making me unhappy. Life IS hard work!
But who are you trying to be perfect for? If it's others then you will never be happy!

2007-01-19 19:21:15 · answer #6 · answered by willowGSD 6 · 0 1

No one really feels happy. There are always little things that make us feel inferior or selfconcious. Me...FRIZZY HAIR>>>SHORTNESS>>>YELLOWISH TEETH

Everyone has problems. Some people tend to hide their fears better than others. Which is probably where we get the term "normal" from. The popular...normal people. They are what we all seem to idealize. But, just be you. Don't try to be anyone else.

I too am tired of trying to act like the others. I am just a stupid corny frizzy freak. BUt, at least I'm not going to continue to be a ROBOT to the "NORMAL" people. I Suggest the same to you.

I know exactly what you are saying.

2007-01-19 18:51:03 · answer #7 · answered by sleepy 3 · 0 1

Firstly you have to except that nobody is perfect! We all make mistakes.
I am Happy because I have two beautiful children and good husband and a job I enjoy (not very well paid - but I enjoy it) I have a small home (so what) and many,very good friends.

I had a serious health scare 2 years ago; which has made me realise that; life is short, enjoy what you have, appreciate your loved ones and take time to "smell the roses".

Nothing is normal, nothing is easy. Life is hard but love is easy!!

2007-01-19 18:59:59 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1 2

We can never be perfect because we are all human beings. Abe Lincoln said, "A man is going to be just about as happy as he makes up his mind he wants to be." Relax and learn to love who you are, be grateful for what you have, and offer a hand to someone daily. I've found that I need to make a conscious effort to be happy, and to live and let live. I'm reasonably happy and comfortable, and I have a peacefulness toward others that I don't have when I'm struggling to "have" As long as I do and be, I just seem to have. I hope that helps

2007-01-19 18:56:42 · answer #9 · answered by annie 2 · 0 1

Follow a dream and make it come true..that is the secret to happiness.. Find inside you the things you like best to do...find a common denominator that has always followed you troughout your life and come up with the dream-job you have always dreamed of...now that you know what you wanna be concentrate every bit of your energy trying to achieve that...you'll be spending the rest of your days following your dream and that will give you a n inside strenght and a sense of fullfillment....pray the Creator for englightment...

2007-01-19 18:54:33 · answer #10 · answered by lovephoto 5 · 0 1

It may seem to you that someone may have a perfect life, but no one does. Everyone has problems, if its divorce, if its not doing well in school, if its that someone you really love is sick. Everyone has problems. No one is perfect or has a perfect life.

2007-01-19 18:48:23 · answer #11 · answered by alex77055 3 · 1 1

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