My family was very happy for nearly 15 years. 2 months ago, my husband betrayed me and dated with another woman. When I knew this, he decided to go with her, despite we have a happy family with very cute boy. I love my husband so much so my heart is broken. Then we agreed that we are friend now and I am encouraged with my future plan. Now his lover refused him to stay with her husband, My husband is broken heart. Will he love and miss her forever because they are at the top of love feeling? If he go to another place, will he still miss her? deeply my heart, I still love him despite I cannot live with him if he still miss another woman. What should I do? I thinlk I have to live seperately and find my new love because I m afraid that he will hurt me again. If we move to new place and I live seperatly, can he love me again?
2007-01-19 10:41:07 · 13 answers · asked by MIB 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
That is a really hard question because it really comes down to rather you can find it in you to forgive him.
In order to go on with your life you really need to see a counselor.
2007-01-19 16:14:12 · answer #1 · answered by tomimegi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a very dificult situation. No one can really tell you what to do here, you have to do it by yourself, but a bit of friendly advice never hurt anyone.
No one can say what your husband is feeling right now, you need to talk all this through. If he truely loved this other woman then leave it be and move on with your life. If he realises he made a huge mistake and wants you back, consider it.
She will always been in his heart, If he did truely love her. To answer your final question, of course he can love you again. You're the mother of his child you two will always be in each other's lives. I just suggest you both have some breathing space and see where it goes from there.
Good Luck
2007-01-19 18:47:52 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a hard question with no really good answer, but i some what know what your going through. I want you to know that most men do not cheat if there happy so maybe u were not pleasing him sexually anymore. i know that's hard to hear but its true. Men who cheat on their wives first do it because of sex and than the feelings can develop like actually falling in love. I think u need to let him go because once u lose your love you will always think about no matter where u go and what u buy, he will think of her. Being with him now would just be a convenient relationship because he lost her and u still don't have anyone and u guys have a family together but if u ask me all relationships that were based on convenience never really workout. You just need to move on i know its easier said than done but i am sure u will meet another man who will make u happy.
2007-01-19 18:51:18 · answer #3 · answered by ... 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, don't start up with him again. Look you said it yourself, your plans for a future were looking very encouraging. Now you want to gamble on an outcome that you've seen to be negative! I have to ask you a question that is going to seem mean, but it's meant to wake you up! Do you know the meaning of insanity? It's doing the same thing over and over but hoping for a different outcome! Yes I know people change. But cheaters seldom do. Focus on this encouraging plan you have made. This is where your happiness lies. Don't try to mend a broken heart that was a bit twisted anyway.
2007-01-19 19:07:58 · answer #4 · answered by delux_version 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a divorce and move on with your life. If he loves another woman and does not really want to be with you, why do you need this? Have some self respect and know that in time you will find someone that respects and loves you back.
2007-01-19 18:45:03 · answer #5 · answered by artist-oranit.com. 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he got what he deserved for treating you the way he did. Stay away from him. He'll only do it again. He should still see his son, however. Find yourself and have a life first. Too many woman think that they have to have a man in their lives to be happy. Be happy with yourself and your son.
2007-01-19 18:46:28 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can you really love yourself if you take back a cheater? Can you look at your little boy and ask him to respect you even though you don't respect yourself? I say you tell that man that he betrayed your trust, your vows and your overall well being of your son is now ruined because of his childish behavior and I think you should get the hell out of there!
2007-01-19 18:46:05 · answer #7 · answered by Dr. Kat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes people stray away from the ones we love for reasons we can't explain. He still may love you, but if you are afraid he will do it again, he probaly will. Go on your own and be alone for awhile. Being on your own, sometimes teaches you how to be a stronger person. Good Luck!!
2007-01-19 18:58:50 · answer #8 · answered by ♥ Emily ♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he cheated on you already, with another woman hell do it again.Remember,Trust is Earned Never Given!!! I Know Its Hard ,and it hurts,take it from me,who's? been there. Start Over. Find someone who's worthy of yourself,i did!!!
2007-01-19 18:48:39 · answer #9 · answered by BOBBIE 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would move on - he obviously can't love you if he loves her. Get out on your own and live your life to the fullest. Best of luck!
2007-01-19 18:50:12 · answer #10 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋