Is your mood affected...when someone is criticizing you?

Question

...do you try to change yourself..afterwards?

Answer 1

No but let me say I have lived quite a while and have become much wiser. If someone is criticizing you then you have to realize that that is only their opinion of you. They are making an assumption and might not know all the circumstances. If the criticism has merit then I will try to change what I have done wrong and apologize or do whatever needs to be done so that I learn the lesson.

Answer 2

When we see something wrong with someone else, most of the time we criticize and judge, and gossip, or whatever. This is the habit that we get into, and we’ve all done it. But there is a law of nature, or the universe, or God (call it what you will), which demands that you treat yourself in the same way. When someone criticizes you, and you feel bad, the 'feeling bad' part is all coming from your inner dialog, which most of us aren't even aware of. That's why it's so important to know yourself. We silently harbor negative thoughts about people all the time, and, the moment that someone criticizes you, all that negativity turns on you like a wild dog that turns on it’s master. Most of us are like this, and if you are this way, it's not something that you can just turn off like a light switch. It takes time, dedication, and hard work, but it's well worth it, and the rewards are amazing.

Answer 3

I used to, but I've slowly changed recently. Now when people give harsh criticism, my first reaction is to think that there is something wrong with them, not me. I started feeling this way after I started admiring a prominent news man who is criticized daily, but deals with it easily and confidently on the air.

But I'm not arrogant though, I will always still admit my mistakes and change if I am proven wrong.

I like my new attitude, I think it is healthier than blaming yourself first.

Answer 4

Try to look at criticism as one person's opinion. Yeah, it can hurt your feelings or make you feel bad. But just because it's what they believe doesn't make it a fact or mean you should change it. If you're not hurting anyone, don't change. Be true to yourself.

Answer 5

of course, how could it not be?... criticism is one thing, helpful advice, another. I am always trying to grow and better myself and openly accept people's helpful advice, but I haven't quite learned to let it go when people openly attack my person and my character through critism. True, most often then not, people who critisize are severely lacking confidence in themselves, but that doesn't negate the fact that i'm a real person with real emotions and shouldn't be treated poorly. If you're asking this question because you often find yourself in this position, stand up for yourself. and if that person continues to do it, disassociate yourself from him/her, because you deserve people who like you just the way you are.

Answer 6

if you let that happen you'll be activating yourself for troubles and sorrow...accept a critic from someone is a sign of intelligence, but being affected by that is a sign of weakness.....try to set your priorities straight and don't let anyone (unless your family members or your spouse) affect your mood...


good life

Answer 7

Yes, it affects my mood. I don't accept criticism very well. Maybe I tend to think about it too much.

Answer 8

i try to tell myself to not let what people say bother me but it totally does! It doesn't matter who is criticizing me-it totally whacks my self esteem. I have made changes or at least tried to make changes because of it and I hate myself for doing that!

Answer 9

of course its affected, we are all very sensitive people. you try to change yourself if you feel the need to, but not for the other person but for you to feel that you will become a better person.

Answer 10

Ya i tend to feel like crap after, but i dont change myself. I tend to just to turn and yell at the person