2007-01-19 10:37:14 · 15 answers · asked by Gman 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It depends if you can truly forgive her then get some counseling so you both can put this behind you. If you can not forgive her then I think you need a divorce. Adultery is hard to get beyond, but people can if they want to.
2007-01-19 16:19:13 · answer #1 · answered by tomimegi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is too broad a question for strangers to answer. How old are you both? How long have you been married? Do you have children? Do you love her? Is she remorseful and asked your forgiveness? Are you a big enough person to forgive her and not bring it up whenever you get into an argument? Some people think that a cheater never changes but statistics prove otherwise. Sometimes women go through a miscarriage or hysterectomy or other incident that brings on depression and perhaps even a brief affair. They regret it and would never repeat it if they are offered unconditional love and forgiveness. This holds true for men who may cheat ONCE. It is never a "right" choice but no one is perfect and sometimes good people make bad decisions. Examine your own conscience, look at your life together and consider her qualities. If you can rebuild trust, then forgive her and get on with your life.
2007-01-19 10:46:02 · answer #2 · answered by Wifeforlife 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guys have a tendency to be much more forgiving when it comes to infidelity... we can forget and move...often shouldering most of the blame. (How often has your wife been wrong? Speaking for myself.. my wife will freak out and have a complete coniption and resort to tears and other accusations before she'll admit she was wrong... but I digress) In any case we're used to shouldering the responsibility which is why we suck it up and forgive... the old saying ... fool me once shame on me.. fool me twice... I must love my wife... poor b*stard... In any case.. first you need to have mutual STD exams... then if it feels right... go to counselling so some stranger can tell you you were wrong and need to change your attitude so your wife, can feel comfortable living under the same roof with the man she betrayed...I'm quite the cynical *ss aren't I? the thing is... if this question was asked in reverse... not one chick here would recommend reconcilliation... they'd all be screaming for your head... but since it's the other way... suck it up buttercup... It was your fault to begin with
2007-01-19 10:51:40 · answer #3 · answered by alex b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was cheated on 2x, and thought "what the hell iswrong with me?" I love sex, I love outdoor stuff, men stuff like quads, 4 wheeling, and of course SEX, but I think when someone cheats its something missing inside of them, which has nothing to do with you. If you decide to forgive and stay, you have to be sure that you can actually do that, and not freak out when she is late or doesn't check in or is unaccounted for. Cheating crosses all lines and for me I would try to forgive but I would always wonder, where is he? what is he doing? and with who? I have known cheaters (friends) and its never a 1 time thing. I know it hurts, been there, my sincerest heart felt sympathy but buck up and realize that its not you,
2007-01-19 10:49:08 · answer #4 · answered by Cute Stuff 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say that if she did this one time then you might want to consider counseling and also think about if there was something you did for her to cheat such as did you cheat or stop giving her attention. I don't think cheat is right Im just say these things because maybe it will give you some answer to why she cheated on you.
2007-01-19 10:52:39 · answer #5 · answered by 2g4u 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that depends...were you giving her enough sex, or was that why she went elsewhere? Does she have reason to believe you care nothing for her? Think about that before you condemn her, because while you are hurt right now, make no mistake in knowing that she may have been hurting for a long time, so whatever. Maybe you should stay home more, huh? Todays women don't see the point in waiting at home for a man who does nothing when he is home, and shows no love to her at all. This is what you asked for if that's the case. You weren't doing your job
2007-01-19 10:51:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only you can answer that question. I will tell you that if she has cheated once she more than likely will cheat again. It is just the nature of the beast. If she is not feeling satisfied in your relationship then she may cheat again. Also, if she thinks she can get away with it, she may try it again.
2007-01-19 11:01:11 · answer #7 · answered by DJ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry that you have to go through this, but it's up to you, I think you need to talk with your wife and see if you can both work things out, if not then best to move on as fast as you can.
Good Luck.
2007-01-19 10:41:53 · answer #8 · answered by artist-oranit.com. 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's a tough one man. Only you really know the answer to this. I suspect that you are going through the "what will people think" phase so you ask the anonymous net to weigh in on its two cents. I'm not ragging on you, I'm just saying that what people think shouldn't matter in your decision. Good luck, bro - sorry to hear it.
2007-01-19 10:42:31 · answer #9 · answered by Another Garcia 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
this really is your decision. do you think she would divorce you if you cheated on her? would she stick with you through thick and thin? if not then yes you need to find someone who will make you happy
2007-01-19 10:44:29 · answer #10 · answered by play hard 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋