I am having a baby with a man I am not dating . We are just friends , he is involved with the pregnancy. Should I give the baby his lst name ?
2007-01-19 10:20:17 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I'd say you better have a serious talk with this guy and see how involved in the child's life he wants to be. I'd also check with the county attorney's office and find out what child support laws there are in your county. Perhaps your county or state requires the child to have the last name of the father -- signed consentually by the father on the birth certificate -- for you to receive child support. I hope that you are of age -- over 25 preferred -- to be in such a complex relationship. I hope you have a supportive family and friend environment around you and best of luck to you, your friend and this new baby on the way.
2007-01-19 12:35:15 · answer #1 · answered by Barbara B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You "shouldn't" do anything unless you want to.
Of course, since he is the child's father, you have to be in this 50/50, and talk with him about naming the baby.
The middle name is always a good way to get around arguments.
I've just read some of the other answers here... I thought that was 1st but looks like you've just missed out the 'a'...
It's something you really have to think about. In my personal opinion, I would give the child your surname. If your relationship with this man progresses, you and your baby may very well change your names, but since you are the mother and arguably the primary care giver, I would say your name.
I would also suggest this if you are an only child, that way you carry on the family name. And his name might be something stupid. You don't want to curse your baby before it is born with a stupid name :D
2007-01-19 10:25:14 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally, if I wasn't completely sure that he would be a part of the child's life, I would give the baby my own last name. I would think long and hard about using his name just because he's involved during your pregnancy. It's still to be determined what will happen after your child is born.
Best wishes to you, and congratulations!
2007-01-19 10:30:06 · answer #3 · answered by ragmama210 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO, if for some reason you and him are not friends then you have to carry that with you all your life i would give your baby a name from your dad or uncle
2007-01-19 10:51:16 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well that is totaly up to you is he gonna be around as the kid grows up? It's easy to stay for the pregnancey. Did you have a different name that you would rather use? Have you talked to the father about names? It all boils down to what you want.
2007-01-19 10:26:03 · answer #5 · answered by emotionalyhurtmom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on how you both feel about it.... I had my first 3 from my husband now, but back then when I had them we weren't married and I gave them my last name.. now i regret it, because we have had 2 more children since then and they have our name .. my older ones have my maiden name and we have to got through an attorney to get it changed.... So my advice if tou two plan on being together and getting married one day,... I definately would.. but it's your decision.. good luck and congrats
2007-01-19 10:31:48 · answer #6 · answered by mmarie1221 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Probably not because you don't want the baby to have a different last name then you.
2007-01-19 10:24:41 · answer #7 · answered by Tizmo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should discuss this among yourselves; but I think it would be less confusing if you used his name as your child's middle name.
2007-01-19 10:33:16 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats totally up to you. It really doesnt matter either way
2007-01-19 10:29:05 · answer #9 · answered by Oops! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's up to you, AND him- i think it's a little wierd though
2007-01-19 10:23:53 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋