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My best friend that I've known since kindergarden is like a complete different person from me now.
I moved away and I never saw her for like 4 months and when I came to visit her she blew me off and spent more time attached to her boyfriends face then even looking at me. I got really hurt and I dont want to be friends with her any more. Shes been like this since last year. Thats when she first got drunk and madeout with a guy (she was 14) Ever since then she been pissing me off, about 5 months ago was when I moved away and shes getting worse. I can even talk to her any more she pisses me off and I want to tell her that I dont want to be friends with her any more but the only thing holding me back is the fact that we've spend our lives with eachother and I think I'll feel bad for her because I miss the old person she used to be. I dont know what to do any more. I really want to tell her that we're threw but I dont know how to! Help!!!

Answer 1

LOL...YOU need to get over it! SHE has! Sounds like you just can't accept it!

Answer 2

This actuall really hits home for me because i am going through the same situation with a frined as well. The reality is people change all the time and sometimes they change into something u don't like and it sucks but it happens especially when people are young they are changed easily because they are growing up and their minds change all the time. the best advice i can give u is be honest with her tell her that she has changed and that u dolt like this new person and dont want to get to know the new person that she has become and miss the old person. If she says sorry take it or leave it your just going to have to let go you never know what will happen in the future your paths may cross again.

Answer 3

The thing is that you should go over the whole scenario. In all this time, it does not seem as if your friend seems to 'care'. You can,
a). NOT CARE - you know you're through. you needn't tell her in person. since she's been too busy with 'other' activities, she might not (read would not) notice you're gone. you shouldn't give it a second thought.
b). CARE, BUT NOT ENOUGH - leave her an IM, a text, a mail or something. Not detailed, but a conscise bit about how its over and how you felt.
c). CARE - tell her in person. talk to her, once, try finding time out when she's not so busy, and explain to her how you feel and your situation. Also tell her, firmly, that you need not take any more of her current attitude but as a 'friend' you thought she should be told about her behavior in order to avoid it further with other friends.
Good luck!

Answer 4

OKAY MY BEST BET IS TO SAY END IT NOW BEFORE YOU GET INTO IT WORSE IT'S BETTER SINCE YOU'LL HAVE GOOD MEMORIES OF HER WHEN YOU WERE FRIENDS INSTEAD OF BAD ONE TO REMEMBER PEOPLE CHANGE AND IN THIS CASE IT WAS HER SHE'S GROWING UP AS ARE YOU AND SHE'S GOING THRU CHANGES ALSO YOU WERE GONE SO SHE HAD TO GO WITH OUT YOU AND MAYBE HANG AROUND DIFFERENT PEOPLE

SAME THING HAPPENED TO ME AND MY BEST FRIEND SHE MOVED TO A DIFFERENT CITY EVEN DOUGH SHE TRAVELED TO GO TO OR SAME HIGH SCHOOL THINGS CHANGED IT WAS NOT THE SAME NOW AFTER YEARS OF BEING FRIENDS I JUST REALISED THAT SHE IS NOT MY BEST OF ANYMORE JUST A FRIEND SHE HAS HER OWN LIVE NOW

WELL BACK TO YOU IF YOU STILL WANT TO BE FRIENDS NOT BEST FRIENDS SINCE SHE'LL FIND A NEW BEST OF LATER GO TO HER HOUSE AND SIT DOWN AND TALK TO HER TELL HER THAT YOU KNOW IT'S DIFFICULT TO BE FRIENDS ALSO NOW THAT SHE HAS A BOYFRIEND AND ALL TELL HER HOW YOU FEEL AND HOW IT MAKES YOU FEAL WHEN SHE TREATS YOU THAT WAY AND FIND YOUR WAY TO KEEP IN TOUCH

BUT IF YOU WANT TO END THINGS

THEN SHE IS ALREADY BEING A B*T*H BY BLOWING YOU OFF SO HOW CAN IT NOT MAKE IT ANYWORSE IF YOU JUST STOP TALKING TO HER AND THAT'S IT THE END

PS LOTS OF GIRLS CHANGE ONCE THEY HAVE A BOYFRIEND BUT THEY LATER REALISE THAT A FRIEND IS THERE FOR EVER AND NOT THE GUY SPECIALLY SINCE YOU GUYS ARE STILL YOUNG

SO GOOD LUCK HOPE I COULD HELP

Answer 5

Friendships last forever, and if this guy does too, then you need to be his friend as well. Life is too short to cut friends off because they have a special interest in something other than you. I think you are being a bit selfish, and instead should be happy for your FRIEND for finding a guy that she really likes. Friends stick together through think and thin.So you may not like it that you don't get as much attention.......if you are a true friend then you will be there for her when she needs you. There may come a time where her heart gets broken by someone and she will need a true friend to be there. Don't consider yourself her friend if you are so ready to give it up.

Answer 6

i am in a similar sistuation. i hav ethis best friend whove ive been throught so much with but teh way she si now is a compleet diffrent peson ! we are still best friends now but i felt so guilty when i wnated 2 tell her were threw and i coudlnt. i think maybe u shoudl tell her shes diffrent. if not still be there for her dont quit being her friend juss maybe her best friend. ive only known my best friend for 3 years but shes changed so much and dne so amny wack thing s and same with teh bf thing , she never blew me of but atshta all she woudl talk abaout ! juss tell her if she ever asked what happened ur drifiting apart ! i lost a best friend this way once before also but now i really regert it because teh perwson went back to normal and became a even betetr person without me being there and tehn i cried and i juss cried and cried till i said u know what im sorry for whatever happoened plz be my friend again i miss u so much! if u wnat u can email me and ill help u out any way i can !

Answer 7

Hey,hon. I wouldn't tell her nothing. If she were blowing me off the way she did you, I would do her the same way. I wouldn't be friends with her neither.She might be a tad bit fast (if you know what I mean). If she is underage and you are too, she is not the type of person that you want to be hanging out with. She could be doing some of everything,you never know. Could mess with you rep. Oh another thing, friends don't stay friends forever, some of them do,but majority of them don't.As you get older or now you can find out who you real true friends are.

Answer 8

Since you dont live around her anymore I dont see a problem. Just dont go visit. Sounds like she doesnt care much anyway. She has changed because that what people do, they change. Some for worse and some for better. Just find new friends and let her go. You dont have to tell her, just stop being around her.

Answer 9

Sometimes you just grow apart from friends. Instead on focusing on having lost her, you need to make new friends where you now live. It's natural to miss her since you probably knew each other pretty well, with time you'll miss her less. There is no need to tell her anything just stop contacting her, or maybe just stick to occasional emails.

Answer 10

What i think u should is tell her call her out meaning tell her how u feel. If u let her know maybe she will change if not then drop her sorry but u cant be friends wit someone who wants to diss u like that

Answer 11

Just do it, you will find other friends in life, and think about it this way, if you were just meeting her today with no past would you want to be friends with her? People change and life goes on. It seems like she doesn't care about the friendship anymore so why should you.