Ok....here's the deal. My son has some buddies who are from broken homes, or with parents who may not supervise their children as much as I do mine. My boys call me "the anti-drug", simply because I demand to know the who-what-when-where-why of their activities. For that reason, and knowing they don't get the same supervision at their friends homes, most of the time the guys all hang out here at our house. We live 6 miles out of town, so I also shuttle all these kids back and forth. When they're here, they make themselves at home, there is plenty of junk food, pop and invite them for dinner. I THOUGHT WE HAD A GOOD THING GOING.....So the local sherriff just called....wanting to know if I want to press charges on two of these boys for breaking and entering in to my other home in town (it has been empty for a month or so).
My feelings are more hurt than anything. I would've done anything for these boys, as I would my own boys. Do I press charges? What else would be a good lesson
2007-01-19 10:01:59 · 9 answers · asked by salemgirl1972 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
It may sound strange but forgive the boys who did it. Invite them back into your home, take care of them and mother them again. Kids like that need a role model who shows them unconditional love. I know you don't want to be made a fool of but what's worse? Being made a fool or a child never knowing that someone honestly cares for them?
Talk to the boys'. Explain that you won't press charges THIS time but if they do it again, you certainly will. Fool me once, shame on you... fool me twice shame on me type thing.
Make them take care of the damage they did to your other house. Replace the doors, windows.. then clean up the yard for good measure. That's more fair and shows love better then locking them up which is just going to expose them to kids even worse then they are.
If the boys' are wanting to hang out at your house, it's showing you something right there. They'd rather be with you then hang out in an empty house doing drugs. There's hope for these kids.
I wish you the best of luck with all of them and bless you for mothering your corner of the world.
2007-01-19 10:15:58 · answer #1 · answered by sassydontpm 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You press charges for a number of reasons.
1- they broke the law and must know the law will hold them accountable
2- you trusted them, they violated the trust and you must hold them accountable
3- if there is damage the only way you can collect is to press charges
4- it will send a STRONG lesson to the others in the group not to mess with you or the law
5- they must hold THEMSELVES accountable to live life in society with or without parental supervision. They learn this in school
2007-01-19 12:22:00 · answer #2 · answered by snddupree 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they did damage make a deal with them...they have to repair any damage on their own...paint, broken items etc. plus clean and do other work needed such as grass cut or clean the garage or basement...they have to do the work themselves with your supervision...their other choice is to have charges laid against them. If they honor you they will do the work...if they don't the charges will tell them that you didn't want to do it but you had to for their benefit in the long run...
be fair but very firm in what you do.
2007-01-19 10:21:50 · answer #3 · answered by pinelake302 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-16 08:39:08 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What an awful situation, There are bad apples in every group. please keep giving your sons and there friends a safe place to hang out. my mother did the same for me and the lad that stole from our house was never welcome again but not from my mum, from me. Good luck. If you could approach the boys and tell them how you feel ! not sure about the police will it really help anyone !
2007-01-19 10:11:41 · answer #5 · answered by bambam 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't know, but just wanted to thank you for all that you seem to have done for your son's friends so far. God bless you.
2007-01-19 10:53:57 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes press charges its the only way you will teach them a lesson
2007-01-19 10:10:49 · answer #7 · answered by Nicole 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
of course... how else will they learn?...and i am a teenager and i think that is a good way to scare them outta ever doing it again to someone else
2007-01-19 10:26:39 · answer #8 · answered by summersweetheart_16 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow..idk make them feel reeeeallly guilty and just chew them out...guilt has stopped me from doin alotta stuff
2007-01-19 10:40:14 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋