We've known each other for years (not sexually) and he doesn't seem to care about my age. He even wants me to move in and says we were 'meant to be together'. Anything wrong with this?
2007-01-19 09:50:10 · 24 answers · asked by fresh2 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Actually the boy has more experience than me, and besides I ain't getting any younger!
2007-01-19 09:56:57 · update #1
Although it is possible, there are many pitfalls. We all know that when we were 18, we were mature and knew everything. Generally by the time we are 28 we realize how wrong we were.
This young man still has alot of growing up to do. You could very easily be wanting to relive a lost youth through him. Neither of these lend to much to a long term relationship.
I will be the last one to say no, because I honestly believe that 2 consenting adults should be able to live their lives in peace if they are not hurting anyone. At the sametime, I feel they should do it with their Eyes Wide Open.
In closing, one thing you said really gave me cause for concern. You described yourself as a man while describing him as a boy. If he is a boy in your mind, I do not think you should enter a relationship with him.
2007-01-19 10:21:32 · answer #1 · answered by Tegarst 7 · 7⤊ 0⤋
Well Fresh, despite the 36 year difference you are the older one. You have experienced things that this guy of 18 hasn't yet. Notice I say, guy, not boy. Because he isn't a little boy anymore. Though you sound as if you have known him since he was a young boy. That is beside the point though or is it? He is a kid, and you remember when you had a crush and how it made you feel so good. Well this is basically another crush. I mean don't get me wrong, you both can enjoy this relationship for as long and as far as it can take you both. But don't really be surprised if he wants to go out partying and say you may not want too. I am not saying your to old either. Because, 54 really is not all that old by today's standards. But you do have to realize that some kids are responsible and some aren't. Just enjoy one another and if it should end then you both had a good time. Just be careful.
2007-01-19 11:23:01 · answer #2 · answered by ncamedtech 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whats up with you man, you are sick you are old enough to be the kids grandfather, 54 -18=36 that means his parents could be in their late 30s, 54-36=18 and you would have had his parents at 18! Plus you say you have known him for years, don't you feel ashamed of yourself for thinking sexually about him! How could an adult (an old man) be attracted to a kid he has known for years
How on earth can you relate to an 18 year old in a sexual way, its about power and being his Daddy or Chester the Molester not Love or anything about you not getting any younger. What are you going to do steal his youth away for yourself, feed off of him like some kind of monster vampire sucking the youth and life out oh him!
You must be a pedophile that is the only way you could ever want to be with a kid sexually. And he wants you to move in with him? What are you going to do live off of him?
Leave the kid alone and go find someone your own age one thing I cant stand is child molesters that is gross! I cant believe a man your age would be interested in a baby that is sick man you are really sick!
I cant beleive all the people that are saying go for it wow thats great oh he is of leagal age and all that bull. Man what a guy wont do for a piece of chicken and a relationship that wont last and borders on the fringes of totally unexceptable.
You two will do what you do and it will be what it will be but dont expect this kid when he is 28 and you are 64 (if it would ever last that long) to be turned on by your wrinckled up old body and ways.
2007-01-19 23:36:26 · answer #3 · answered by Crampy Grampy 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It sounds like she's possibly bisexual to some degree or another, not gay. Moreover, it's definitely not a phase. A person cannot choose their sexual orientation, despite claims to the contrary. I know from personal experience. I never chose to be gay. It's just what came naturally to me - kinda like being right handed or having orange as my favorite color. These are things we simply cannot control. That said, I'm going to do an about face. She may be acting as if she likes this girl to get back at her ex-BF. A sort of "you were so bad in bed you turned me gay" kinda thing. It's a remote possibility. If she is bi, you can't change it and it's been a part of the girl you've known and loved her whole life. Best of luck.
2016-05-23 22:41:32 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is all a cultural thing, in ancient greece old men and younger ones were together and it was not a problem at all...If you two feel ok together then give it a try and dont let external features to influence the relationship. Age is not a problem at all if you know how to "survive" criticism and if both of you believe in your union...I quit since i sound like a psychiatrist-priest...Good luck for both of you...By the way i when i was 23 i had a relationship with a man who was almost 60 (it was great in bed! but personally he was too tidy for me, well he was german The realtionship didnt last because of how he was not because of his age...I still remember how he...well now i really stop here because there may be children and senstive ears around.
2007-01-19 10:43:57 · answer #5 · answered by whoknows 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Love doesn't need to fall into specific age categories. If you're in a mutually rewarding and respectful relationship, it's really nobody else's business.
If you are presently his teacher or his boss or in some other authoritative position, then it would be inappropriate, but I don't believe this is the case.
So, enjoy being with each other. You both deserve to be happy.
2007-01-19 11:13:42 · answer #6 · answered by castle h 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go for it. You will have to work on the relationship and both of you will need to listen to each other but enjoy it. I had a long relationship with someone 25 years my junior. It was great while it lasted, sad when it finished but never regretted.
I hold it true, whate'er befall;
I feel it, when I sorrow most;
'Tis better to have loved and lost
Than never to have loved at all.
- Alfred Lord Tennyson
2007-01-19 13:31:40 · answer #7 · answered by tentofield 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe such a relationship can work. Both bring there ages to the table youth seeking to know and gain experience and age know the how treat and respect youth. Both must be willing to be committed and share the pleasures of male bonding.
2007-01-20 04:36:12 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're both of legal age and consenting adults so no, there's nothing wrong. There are many father-son type relationships out there that seem to work.
2007-01-19 11:00:37 · answer #9 · answered by behrmark 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I say go for it.
Just keep those communication lines open and be honest with each other.
Don't put too much pressure on.
It will last as long as it lasts. Maybe 3 months, maybe thirty years who knows.
And that's okay.
2007-01-19 12:58:14 · answer #10 · answered by octopussy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋