is it better to live together before marriage?

Answer 1

Ask your self this question would you buy a car with out test driving it first.Me and my wife lived together for 3 years before getting hitched and we are still together and are happy as ever.

Answer 2

Actually Statistically couples who live together prior to marriage have a higher divorce rate than couples who don't.

I do think that it is important to get to know each other prior to getting married, but long term dating (9 mo- 2 years) can accomplish that. You can learn alot about each other,just by spending time together and seriously date long term (but don't sleep together). You should spend a lot of time together and watch how your bf/gf reacts during different situations. I know many people who have done it this way and now they have very succesful marriages.

I know it seems old fashioned, but it has worked out this way for many many years and nothing has changed to make it not work that way.

Answer 3

It depends, if you are a man, yes. You basically get free maid, laundry, and chef services, and if you have children, free child care since women are always left to do these jobs plus pay for half of the rent and bills. Of course, every once in awhile you will find a man willing to do chores but they are rare. Or they may say they will do half but men are such procrastinators that usually the woman gets fed up with waiting and does the chores herself before the man gets around to it. If you are a woman, I say don't even think about moving in until there is a ring on your finger and you've set a date. Men are always out to take advantage of women. Don't make it any easier on him.

Answer 4

Living togeather is one thing before marriage, however
knowing each other is the most important, and to do that
it takes time weather one is living togeather or not. Once
the two know each other and are ready to committ to each
other till death do them part then marriage should be
considered.

Answer 5

I think it would be good to live with the person you love before marriage, this way you can be closer and get the feel of how living together will be instead of just getting married and then jumping into that situation without experience.

Answer 6

from my own past, living with someone isn't a good thing, if you have plans on getting married, like a date set and you move in on a new lease right before is ok, but I don't know anyone who lived together who made it. when we got married there was no real change in our lives, and it in my mind is one of the biggest reason I am no longer married.

Answer 7

Yep. I absolutely do not believe the "statistic" that says people who live together before marriage have a greater chance of divorce. All the couples I know that married never having lived together have split up as it was an absolute shock to find out they were incompatible or to discover the others crazy personal habits. In this day and age, absolutely.

Answer 8

Depends. If you're just living together without any sort of engagement, and you're thinking it will "convince" your partner to get married, I think you'll be disappointed.

If you are both committed to getting married, have discussed it, and (ideally) are already engaged, then I think living together isn't a problem.

But you see a lot of questions around here about "My boyfriend and I have been living together for five years, when is he going to ask me to marry him??" and the answer is "Why should he bother? He's got all the conveniences of a wife without any of the legal entanglements..."

Answer 9

Mickey better post his/her facts and his/her sources. Anyway you don't make a foundation out of sand. You build it during your dating and courtship. 2 years of dating will tell you if you are a match. No sex! If you have sex then you steal something precious from yourself and your future husband. It seems people have no willpower or respect for themselves anymore. It is one thing less to look forward too. Those who say they are not sure if they are compatible in bed are total idiots. Passion takes care of that!

Answer 10

Oh yeah... why the hell would you marry someone you couldn't live? My hubby and I lived together for 10 months before getting married. Good experience, we really learned a lot from it.