is dancing reggaeton wrong?

Question

this is not exacly my question. my question is, is it wrong for my boyfriend to dance reggaeton with someone else. I HATE IT. but its like everyone says, its just dancing. but what i think its wrong its that when it coems to me dancing reggaton with someone else besides him he gets PISSED OFF. he says its not the same thing because guys think differently, guys take advantage of the girls. so i get mad becuase its like saying "oh honey im just taking advantage of some1 else, i dont want anyone taking advantage of u!" IT DOESNT MAKE SENSE! . me and him have a very open and trusting relationship. we tell each other everything. lik for example when we started going out i seen my x and we was talking and he kissed me, i dint want him. i told my bf about it and he got a little mad but he said at least i told him. and he tells me everything. like when a girl hits on him or when ..watever we just tell each othe reverything. but that is still a problem i dont like it. but is it really wrong.?

how can i tell him exacly what my point is. i do tell him but its like he doesnt understand he just sees it as dancing. i dont. i mean i dont like no h03s rubbing thir *** on my mans dick. just talking about it gets me mad!

Answer 1

I don't agree with him that girls and guys are too different. He's trying to talk you out of your feelings, telling you that you shouldn't feel the way you feel, but obviously you do. So it means that guys and girls are not as different as he imagines it.

Tell him that when he dances with someone else he is giving his attention to some other girl, while you are the one would wants his attention.

His theory that "guys take advantage" and it is supposed to be normal is total BS. You don't have to tell it to him exactly this way, but it sounds like he's making lame excuses for his beahvior, that's all.

Bottom line: if it pisses you off - then yes it is wrong. He shouldn't be dismissive of your feelings. You TWO should decide what's OK and what's not OK. It doesn't mean that HE gets to TELL you what's OK.

Many people manage to dance with other people who are not their bf/gf without annoying their significant other. Could it be the way he's dancing with them? Could it be that you know that he means more than just dancing?

Answer 2

Hey ''Stef'', I think the problem lies when you started being completely honest with him and telling him everything. Now he's taking your honesty and turning it around on you. In other words, when you told him about your x and you conversing and he kissed you, your b/f got upset right? Then after a while he forgot about it..... or so you thought. You see Stef, he might have said he got over it, but it's still some where hidden in his mind and it's eating him up! So what better way to secretly get back at you? Dancing reggae-ton with these girls! Truthfully, he's saying if you can let something like that happen (your x kissing you) then he can play the same game too. He's playing a little mind game with you just to see your reaction. Although the kiss from your x might be innocent, I think it's bothering your b/f and he's pretending it's not and is silently trying to pay you back. Perhaps....to make you jealous?
Stef, I'm not saying not to be completely honest in your relationship, but sometimes it's our own honesty that gets us into trouble unfortunately. I hope I've cleared things up for you a little.

Answer 3

Just tell them exactly what you just said!!! Go honey i love you but i dont like the idea of some other chicks *** rubbing on you just like i'm pretty sure you don't want me rubbing on some other guy. If he doesn't seem to understand then it might not be worth it because i know when i've had a guy and some other guy dances with me they dont like it and they wont do it. Tell him its out of respect for each other.

Answer 4

I think whatever you are willing to tolerate is your choice. If you feel uncomfortable with it, I would let him know that you do not care to have him dancing with other women. I have been out dancing before; I am involved with someone for almost four years, and he really doesn't mind. I choose not to share all the little details about my past (i.e. before him). That really is none of his business. I think the beginning of a relationship is tricky. If you guys didn't "make it official" at the time, it shouldn't have mattered whether or not you kissed your ex. Good luck to you, girl!!

Answer 5

I actually would not get jealous if my boyfriend did this. I'd do it with other guys. But this really depends on your gf. Ask her, but don't be like, "Hey, can I like dance with those girls?" Be more subtle, don't come on too strong. Something like, "Hey, would it be all right if we danced with other people?" But don't make it seem like she's not worth your time.