my friend who is 26 is so desperate to get married, she still lives at home with parents, got a full time job, all she talks about is marriage, she dates whoever wants to go out with her, what should i advice her?
2007-01-19 09:46:09 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Find happiness with yourself. It's ok to be alone.
2007-01-19 09:50:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Because some women thinks they can have more being married. Women do not like being lonely and needs a man for duties around the house they cannot do and best of all for protection. Especially to care for the children cause they listen better to the male over a woman. Then some wants to try marriage cause their friends are married and you call it keeping up with the flock. Last but least they do it to keep another woman from getting the man the love and hurry and marry cause if they take too long they will lose.
2016-05-23 22:38:29 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her a man isn't going to complete her life and that marriage isn't the end all be all. Marriage is hard! Most marriaged end in divorce now anyway. Not being negative, that's just fact. Tell her it's 2007, it's ok to not get married...ever! Her issues probably run deeper than this marriage thing. She obviously wants to belong to someone and the more she pushes it, the more likely she's going to end up marrying the first dude who asks her and she'll end up miserable. I guess she's thinking marriage will make her complete and that's not the case. She has to be a whole person with a fully developed mind to be in a marriage or she's not bringing much to the table. She needs to seriously work on her self esteem and realize she's still worthy without a man or a wedding band.
2007-01-19 09:54:26 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
Could be a dozen different reasons
wants to have a baby but not be a single mother
is a romantic person who wants a soul mate/lover/best friend/husband
wants financial support and a traditional family life like her parents had.
I wouldn't give her any advise- unless she asks for it. Just because you don't feel the same strong urge to marry, doesn't mean her feelings are wrong. If she asks for advice, then just suggest how she can expand her circle of friends- male and female, and relax, and eventually she may find the person that she's looking for.
2007-01-19 09:51:02 · answer #4 · answered by GEEGEE 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go out and have fun and don't rush into anything just because she is in love with the idea of marriage. Marriage takes a lot of work and the romantic high ends eventually and then you are left with two people trying to coexist. Add children to the mix and things are even more complicated. So for now date and have fun while she is still young!
2007-01-19 09:51:25 · answer #5 · answered by mom of twins 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her to stop trying so hard. She's probably so desparate because she's 26 and still living with her parents. Some individualism could do her good. Maybe get a condo or apartment. She needs to stop obsessing about marriage because she's only going to push guys away. No sane guy I know has ever wanted to marry a girl after one date.
2007-01-19 09:50:47 · answer #6 · answered by Shannon L - Gavin's Mommy 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Because for most of history, women had it beat into their brains that the only thing that's REALLY important in a female's life is having babies and continuing life on this God forsaken planet. Even as recently as the 70's, it was common knowledge...a woman's main objective was to get married. Education and personal growth, those are things that can wait.
Tell your friend that times are changing...she doesn't need a man as much as she thinks she does.
2007-01-19 09:52:02 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are a guy, you are asking the wrong question. Never try to figure out women because men simply cant.
But in your case, it could be summarized in one word. ATTENTION.
-She needs attention. She really doesnt want to get married but the attention that comes with it is what she is lacking. Thats the reason she is dating whoever, the attention she gets from those men.
2007-01-19 09:59:14 · answer #8 · answered by matako99 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there's nothing wrong with wanting to get married I'm a guy who was in a 14 year marriage and I/m wanting to get married again , soon I hope some people just know what they want
2007-01-19 10:31:53 · answer #9 · answered by matt2269f 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that when she slows down and gets her prioritied straight, the right man will come along and ask her to marry him. Men are not attracted to women that are desperate and they can spot them 10 miles away. She will be setting herself up if she dont pipe down.
2007-01-19 09:50:15 · answer #10 · answered by Suu S 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
There's nothing wrong with wanting to get married. Hopefully, quantity will someday turn into quality for her. Just let her live her life the way she sees fit; so far it doesn't sound like she's doing anything wrong.
2007-01-19 09:51:04 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋