should i stay or leave?

Question

I MEET THIS GUY 2 YEAR'S AGO I FELL IN LOVE WITH HIM INSTANTLY. BUT HE HAD SECRETS BUT THEM AGAIN HE DID NOT. HE WAS WITH THISS GRIL FOR LIKE 2 YEAR;S BEFORE US. AND THEN I HAPPEN TO GET PREGNANT WITH HIS FIRST BABY. A LIL BOY. THEN HE CHEATED ON ME WITH HER THEN SHE ENDED UP GETTING PREGNANT TO. WITH A LIL BOY. OUR KIDS ARE 3/4 MONTHS APART. AND SO WHEN I FOUND OUT ABOUT HE SLEEPING WITH HER IT WAS OVER. THEN I THROUGH ALL HIS STUFF A T HER PLACE. THE NEXT DAY HE CAME BACK WANTING TO BE WITH ME TELLING ME HE WOULD CHANGE AND SO HE DID. WE WERE HAPPY SHE WAS PREGNANT HE DID NOT TALK TO HER THROUGH THE WHOLE NINE MONTHS OF PREGNANCY SHE WENT AROUND TELLING PEOPLE THAT SHE HATED HIM SHE DID NOT WANNA HAVE ANYTHING TO DO WITH HIM. OR HIS FAMILY SHE HATED THEM AND JUST MANY MORE. NOW ALMOST A YEAR LATER GOES BY I'M PREGNANT WITH HIS THIRD CHILD IT'S A GIRL NOW. AND SO ME AND HIM SEPERATED FOR A LILTTLE WHILE. NOW SHE IS GOING AROUND SAYING SHE'S PREGNANT AGAIN IS THIS A CYCLE REPEATING

Answer 1

Well at least there is no disfunction...............Why would you keep sleeping with the a$$ wipe? You are the main one to blame here. Keep him out of your bed. End of story!

Answer 2

Honey, I would never share any man with anyone else anymore than he should share me. If you are good enough to have a child with this guy, you are good enough to be his wife and if it is any other way, honey, you don't much like yourself. Having kids is hard work, and keeping a home is too. So since this guy is out sleeping with other women, you betta figure you're gonna need to get a job. And if you don't have a skill, go back to school, or some training place and get it.... even marriage ain't a lifetime free mealticket. In your place, leave the succa, don't have no more kids with him cuz you aint gonna be able to support them anyway.... any kid deserves to have two parents, who love each other, not some stud who is sleeping around. You're getting used.. The lady a few up from this one has the right idea, honey,----- save the next baby for a guy who is good enough to be your husband.... take the pill, and don't have no more kids

Answer 3

You do indeed like pain, don't you? You do indeed have no self esteem. What is it that you wish out of life? I would guess that hopefully ,you would wish for a faithful, loving kind husband, a family, a nice job, and education, extra money to spend, vacations together, a home, a nice car, and some of the goodies that make life wonderful.--- great books to read, nice schools for your children.. yeadayaydadayda

Everything you have done is ensuring that you will absolutely positively NEVER have those things: having children out of marriage and a solid relationship, makes you a single mom... and guys just don't really wish to raise other guy's kids.... big time baggage. Each kid will cost someone ( you, him and the state) $250,000 to age 20, which means that most of the money you will earn get, steal etc., will go to child care, clothes food, instead of vacations, good schools a house and a car. You will be forever in debt.

You now are going to be a mother of three illegitimate children, chasing this "sperm donor" down for support.... good luck, hon,,, you have f(l)ucked up your life royally --- couldn't be worse....What was your quesion????? --- should I stay, or should I go???? What WERE you thinking?? trap a guy by getting pg? competing with another girl on who could have more of his kids????.... And he's gonna stay with the one with the most of his kids???? oh, good.... wonderful. Welcome to Poverty-ville

What should you do now???? First, don't have any more kids. Save the next one for a guy worth your time.... get on the pill, and stay on the pill!!!!!.... this guy is a jerk....

If you are college material, beg, borrow or whatever to take classes. If you are college material, get that degree!!!!. If not, get training that pays well --- dental tech, etc. (Receptionists, cashiers, etc. are jobs that pay only minimum wage.) With an education, you will meet a better class of guy, and be able to support yourself and your children better. It may take you 5 years to dig yourself out of this hole, 5 very long, difficult, tiring, and exhausting years, but the 5 years are going to pass anyway.... Have them work For you rather than against you. Will it be tough? Oh, yes, babe.... Isn't anything worth having is tough to get???? Take control of your life, sweetie, and do it now,,,,... go for it, hon, you can do it.... good luck

Answer 4

okay, lets petend for a moment taht u are sane. now that u have gotten yourself with 3 kids and an idiot lets see what we can do about it. bringing to the front that the luv of ur life is being luving others is apparent by his personal family growth without u included.

now the most important in this little feature are the kids. so for their ske. let her have him and concentrate on your children being in a health enviornment that when it comes time to explain these additional siblings it wont send them totally off kilter. u have to get some sort of education and be a full functional adult with dependants. u do not need to concern urself with where he is or if they are making another baby while u are seperated because per history they are!!

this is ur chance to get it together while seperated and once he returns u will be iindependant enuff to open the door hand him his child support papers and then procede to close the door on you two for good.

remember "man can only do to you whatr u ALLOW him to do"
very true statement. take it to heart and take care of those kids. they may have come for the wrong reasons but its your job that they have all the right reasons in their lives.

Answer 5

i think u and your man have issues without this girl in your life, she is not the main problem. why do youkeep bringing children into an unstable relationship. its not fair its your responsibility to put all ur kids 1st, forget her, let her run on you will feel so much better once you get her out of ur system just focus on your kids and this guy hes not really a father to any of these children is he? he sounds like aloser and so are you if you let him hold you and your kids back anymore, answer this would you be proud if your sons grew up to be like daddy? if not blow him out until he becomes the man you would want your boys to be. you have invested 2 much time worrying about him and about her and you are not concentrating on what is really important, you and your kids. i had 3 kids very young and made so many mistakes i wish i could fix now but i cant but i did find i was a much better relaxed mother when i got rid of the guy

Answer 6

Please don't get offended about my response but since you asked I want to be honest. It seems like you all are just having babies for this guy and he is going back and forth from one woman to the next. I have no respect for men who get women pregnant and leave them like your boyfriend did the other girl. That shows what kind of father he will be. Furthermore, how are you all plan to tell these children whose months apart in age why they are the same age? It doesn't make sense. You and the other woman should not be mad with each other. You all should be mad at yourselves and this man who has taken advantaged of you all as well as playing the both of you. You all are just making babies and separating. What kind of environment are you all setting for these children whose entering the world? Leave the man alone and make him pay child support. I bet he want have many more children once he see how much child support he has to pay.

Answer 7

See I don't understand why would you be so mad at her? because your boyfriend or husband have sex with her. and got both of you and other woman pregant. See I am a guy, I married to my only wife because I love her so much she mean so much world to me and gave me 2 kids and 3rd due in 2 months. and you know I know the difference.... He does too and now you are seperated for a little while. you know he might got what he wanted from this woman again... so you really should be mad at him because he knows what he doing is wrong.

Answer 8

Omigosh, run! Run like the wind!

Answer 9

My grand father had this saying, "Do me wrong once, shame on you. Do me wrong again, shame on me!"