many young people think marriage is the ultimate security for the future, to settle down, a start of a great life etc... what do you think?
2007-01-19 09:29:37 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I'm always suspicous of people desperate to get married. I've run across many people (I hate to say it, but usually women) who think that their lives will be perfect if they get married. They must not have had much security in their lives before..and think marriage will give them that. But with that security comes many other things as well..good and bad.
Marriage isn't bad, but it's not always easy. I'm against getting married just to get married. You're doomed to divorce if that's the case.
Be sure that the person you marry is the one, and you can put up with their quirks and minor annoyances, because those quirks and annoyances become much more annoying as time passes!
2007-01-19 09:36:10 · answer #1 · answered by Joe L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No matter what you do in life, you'll always wonder "what if I did it the other way"
Lets say you get married in your 20's, when you turn 40 you will look back and wonder what your life would have been like if you did not get married.
Lets say you decided to stay single, you'll look back and wonder if you should have gotten married.
Just do what feels right "right now" and trust yourself. Life is a 50/50 chance because you don't know how things will turn out. But that's the joy of life. Just
2007-01-19 17:40:20 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
marriage is a life-long commitment that shouldn't be entered into lightly, no matter how desperate you are. although we've become a sort of fast-food wedding kind of society (the way celebs go through marriages is ridiculous--spouses are almost like accessories!), why put yourself through the potential strain of a divorce by a hasty marriage? and considering how high the divorce rate is, the likelihood of a marriage providing "security" is pretty laughable.
what's the rush? i say take the time to be with the person you're with, and if you can deal with even their most annoying habits, then you might be ready to take the plunge. :)
2007-01-19 17:38:38 · answer #3 · answered by ctccoord14621 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, as for myself, i got married at 21 and thought that it would be an amazing journey full of ups and downs. I was mistaken and now i sit at the age of 22 and unsure if i want to even be married. My advice for people in their 20's who are desperate to get married would be to evaluate why it is they feel the need to be married. Also to give the relationship the benefit of time. (If my mom heard me say that i swear she'd flip!) True love will with stand all obstacles and it would have been great to have that already planned out before marriage even began.
The truth really is that you should enjoy the simplistic of not being married. You have the rest of your life to full-fill all of those urges you may have. Take it from me, I've been there, enjoy the freedom of your relationship that will only help pave the road of marriage for your later on.
Good luck! ~ Katie
2007-01-20 00:18:19 · answer #4 · answered by Katie S. 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
been there done that and believe me i know that seems like an easy way out but it's the dumbest thing to do it will just make life harder for you. When your twenty you should only concentrate on your school if in college your career. And getting out of the house on your own after you've done that then you could start to think about settling down. and while your doing all off that who knows maybe the right person will come along
2007-01-19 17:37:26 · answer #5 · answered by short moma 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i certainly feel as though that would give me great security. I'm a girl who needs serious commitment, and marriage seems to be the ultimate commitment- even though people still cheat/divorce/etc. The prob is that many people around my age (I'm 21) dint care about love and serious relationships. They just want to run wild, sleep with tons of people and have fun all the time. I'd Advise you to just be patient and let love come when its supposed to. I'm being patient too, even though its hard.
2007-01-19 17:35:10 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get immediate psychological help for this disorder cause clearly you are not thinking clearly. i married the first and only girl I ever dated, and though we have been together now for 12 years, i regret ever since not playing the field and experiencing other kinds of relationships. Don't marry too soon. You will regret it one day I can just about promise you. Date as often and as much as you can, not to mention get all the se# you can. Cause I have only been with my wife and I sure wonder what all I might have missed out on.
2007-01-20 00:49:39 · answer #7 · answered by alanpvr 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This works when you find the right person but, there are way to many people jumping it it with out being ready.
If you find the right person at age 18 or 58 it will work as long as you and them are right for each other and you want the same things out of life.
Good Luck to you all.
2007-01-19 17:33:15 · answer #8 · answered by zen522 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is a great way to improve your situation, but be careful, make sure you find the one that you can share your life with. Don't get married until you are ready.
2007-01-19 17:34:44 · answer #9 · answered by creerhnter 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. Don't be desperate, it simply makes you unattractive.
2. If you feel you have to have someone to be fufilled, then you probably shouldn't marry until you are complete, without another.
3. To find the one, you must first be the one. Work on what you are more than finding another person.
2007-01-19 17:35:57 · answer #10 · answered by camys_daddy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋