so i've been with me husband for 4 years now, and i love to have sex but he always works and when he isnt working he is tired and makes excuses? Is there something wrong with me?
2007-01-19 09:21:48 · 13 answers · asked by ViViAnA 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I would say that there isn't anything wrong with you. You should tell him how you are feeling and then ask him, "do you want your wife feeling this way"? Get him to answer that question. If he says "no". Then ask him "how are we going to solve this problem?" He may have some ideas of when you two can get together. If he doesn't, then suggest going to a counselor or pastor who can give you some ideas. If he isn't willing to cooperate, then put your foot down and let him know that you don't want to live your life this way. Hopefully, then he will want to join with you and try to solve the problem. Get to a counselor.They can give you some ideas that you wont be able to come up with on your own. That's their job. If he wont go to a counselor, you should go alone. They will let you know how to handle the situation. Don't just sit back and do nothing. This wont clear up by itself. You will have to take some action because it could mean your marriage if it is not "nipped in the bud". Hope this helps. :)
2007-01-19 09:43:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, nothing wrong with you. When you're exhausted the last thing you think about is sex for some people. (Me included.) Make a date for it. It sounds unromantic and corny, but it's a way to get back into the swing of things. Make a romantic evening that you plan, be a little naughty if he likes that and have fun. Sometimes, unfortunately, you have to carve out fun time!
2007-01-19 09:35:37 · answer #2 · answered by shannonscorpio 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you tried talking to him about this? I have always heard that after being married for a while sex just goes down. I personally think that you really need to talk to your husband. I wish you the best of luck.
2007-01-19 09:27:50 · answer #3 · answered by jessica c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No there probably is not. Many times when I am very tired I am not in the mood for sex. Maybe try some things to get him in the mood. It might help.
2007-01-19 09:30:40 · answer #4 · answered by NLH823 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely not----time for you and the hubby to sit down and discuss what is really going on------I am not saying he is having an affair or hooked on porn but it is not healthy for a husband and wife to go for long periods of time without making love. Find out what is going on with him but not in a confrontational or accusatory manner. Blessings
2007-01-19 09:29:52 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's nothing wrong with you. It sounds like there is something wrong with HIM though. I don't know why women always blames THEMSELVES if their man doesn't like sex. It has nothing to do with you and is all about him. Tell him how much it bothers you and that you want it to change. Ask him to see a doctor for depression perhaps, or ask him to work less.
2007-01-19 09:29:06 · answer #6 · answered by mkk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't take it personal he is probably tired from working. nothing wrong with u. maybe u need some communication to tell him how this is affecting your self worth.
2007-01-19 09:59:58 · answer #7 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he's just tired? It's not always about you.
2007-01-19 09:27:51 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know the feeling i have been going through the same thing ... 9 years here
2007-01-19 09:33:05 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry but that is the major problem after u get married...if u want sex and plenty of it....STAY SINGLE...and u will get it all the time
2007-01-19 09:30:35 · answer #10 · answered by sunbun 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋