That I do not want to be in her Wedding party,
We used to be so so close but we just grew apart and we went our seperate ways!
She has done something that I really don't agree with..
She well how do I say this she a HOMEWRECKER!
she had an affair with a married man now she wants to marry this man!
How Do I tell I want no part of her life anymore because I have more morals than that and Refuse to support such thing as what she has done!
Yes I know it happens all the time for good reason but that doesn't mean I have to support her does it?
2007-01-19 09:20:07 · 15 answers · asked by ? 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Just make up a lame excuse. No need to confront her because she will just be defensive and make you the bad guy. Make the excuse weak so she'll get the message that you really don't want to participate.
Be glad you cut ties with a person of questionable moral fiber.
2007-01-19 09:32:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think whatever decision you make will be a good one, I would at least talk to her about your feelings.....I know how you feel, I have very high morals myself, when my ex cheated on me with my neighbor, that hurt me bad, she soon married the guy, after 19 years of being divorced I feel kinda like you, my daughter was only 9 months old when my ex left, she knows the home wrecker as dad, I was not much in my daughters life when she was growing up, I am an alcoholic, and I been clean for 2 1/2 years and I'm very much in my daughters life now, she is going to get married on June 23, 2007....She had a rough decision to make about who is going to walk her down the aisle, first it was the home wrecker, and after getting to know me better, she wants me to walk her down the aisle, well anyways she's 20 and made the decision of her home wrecker dad walk her half way down the aisle and from their I'll take over and give her away to her fiance, I guess its OK, at first she was going to just have him walk her down the aisle, when she asked me if that would be OK, I hesitated and said ifs Gods willing I would be there, but deep in my heart...I knew I couldn't face that s.o.b because he robbed me of what I had.
2007-01-26 20:37:25 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stand true to your convictions and beliefs and just tell her up front that you do not want to be in the wedding, so that there will be no misunderstandings later. And as per her being a homewrecker, what goes around "does"come back around, not wishing her any bad karma or anything, but she will get hers, watch.
2007-01-24 21:14:12 · answer #3 · answered by Bethy4 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would just be really honest, is as empathetic a way as possible.
Tell her the why, tell her that you could never do what she did, but also that you and she are different people. You are not judging her, but cannot be party to a marraige that came out of infidelity. Hopefully she understands.
Oh yeah, one thing I always feel compelled to bring up for friends before they make a decision like this....cheaters cheat! If he cheated with you, he is just as likely to cheat ON you!
2007-01-27 06:34:51 · answer #4 · answered by Answer Flop 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her you don't feel that it is right/appropriate for you to be in her wedding party. u understand this is her special day and dhe deserves the best, but u being in the party won't be the best b/c you don't agree with some of the decisions she made in the past and you 2 have grwn 2 far a part.
2007-01-27 06:26:38 · answer #5 · answered by Katie34567 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her the truth. Maybe someday you can forgive her but for now, you don't want to support what she did. I can't blame you and don't be surprise when she knocks on your door one day, crying because her husband is having an affair. Does she really think this guy she's marring can be trusted.
2007-01-27 03:19:18 · answer #6 · answered by Eli 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you already went your separate ways then how hard can it be just to say NO Thank You? Were you asked in the first place and said yes or was it just assumed? If you said yes then you only have yourself to blame, do what you agreed to do and stop whinning.
2007-01-27 04:00:01 · answer #7 · answered by TinyBear 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
haha. permit him have confidence what he needs. yet, interior the olden days, human beings might positioned on those vast neclace kind issues that had the whole hebrew alphabet with a stone next to it, and while they talked to God he might respond by using letting flashes of light mirror off the stone so as that it might spell issues. thats what i keep in mind besides. thats from the bible. dont do something to disillusioned your buddy besides. non secular debates can get incredibly undesirable. who's acquainted with? perhaps he does have a telephone that shall we him talk over with God. and yet in a diverse way you may tak to him is thru prayer. buuuttttt, in case you had to speak to God, why might there be telephone wires?! and that i dont think of heaven is particularly interior the universe. God doesnt choose telephone wires! He can do something! i like him lots. love, alice.
2016-12-12 15:32:13 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you absolutly do not have to, but isnt that defeating the ture meaning of friendship? Friends forgive, you dont have to agree with everything she does, but be her friend , in good and bad.
does unconditional love exist any more?
2007-01-26 19:24:04 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her straight, don’t lie. She may hate you for it, but you will find a huge amount of self respect in the process.
You have an opinion, share it. She doesn’t have to like it.
2007-01-26 06:06:50 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋