Anti-social?

Question

When i was a freshmen and a sophmore in high school i spent every weekend going out and getting drunk and hooking up with random guys and getting caught by my parents and police...just being a teenage girl...now i am a junior in high school and i dont know what happened to me but everyone seems so immature and irritates me and i never feel like going out or seeing anyone on the weekends and i have this huge fear of getting in trouble by my parents ...latley i ussually just like hang out with my mom when the weekend comes around...am i antisocial or am i just in an awkward phase?!

Answer 1

Sounds to me like you're just growing up. Nothing wrong with that, and I'm sure your parents appreciate it too. Maybe you've realized that constant partying and 1000 different men a night isnt a very mature way to act. Maybe something happened and you realized how much you were hurting your parents..Either way it sounds like you've turned into a much better person.


Maybe the reason you want to hang out with your mom and not your friends is because your mother is an adult and acts like one, and possibly you crave that. Your friends havent hit the maturity level you have yet so hanging out with them is just annoying (trust me I know the feeling). And you can hang out with her and not feel like you gotta put on a front or pretend to be something youre not. She's your mom, she knows the real you, and thats all she expects out of you. Maybe the group of friends you have expect you to still be a party animal like they are and they dont understand your new personality because it hasnt happened to them yet. I'm almost certain that things will go back to normal for you when your friends have matured as well, and you can hang out with them and act like adults, and not feel the need to be drinking or partying every 5 seconds.

Answer 2

Every now and then you look at your friends, decide that most of them suck, and have to go find new friends. It can be lonely when you do this, but soon you'll be having fun with more positive people.

It also sounds like you are easily frustrated and maybe too judgemental--give people a chance! Finally, you need a little time alone anyway--you need to give some thought to who you are and who you want to be--setting goals (even if you change them often) is the best way to make sure you don't lose yourself and follow the crowd into destruction. Don't be afraid to party, but when you do, don't follow the crowd--do what's good for you.

Answer 3

To me it sounds like your getting your life back on track. The last thing you need to be is drinking and hooking up with guys, at such a young age. Yes 16 is still young, too young to be drinking and hooking up with random guys, that probably don't even care about you. All they want out of you is one night of a good time, which in the long run can be very harmful to you.

A lot of bad things can happen, to anyone that does things they are not ready for. Many teenagers that take up drinking can later in life develop a drinking problem, I know of a few people. Sleeping around with guys, can cause all sorts of problems, being taken advantage of, getting pregnant or getting a sexual sickness.

I think it is very good that you now care about what your parents think about what you do and that you don;t want to get in trouble. To me that sounds like you want to have their trust. I say your on the right track, but still hang out with your friends, go to movie, dances, sporting events, that all cool.

I wouldn't suggest going back to the things you had been doing, otherwise somewhere down the line it could end up impacting your life in ways you wouldn't want it to.

Answer 4

There's nothing wrong with the way your living. There was when you were a freshman and a sophomore but now that your a junior it's good that you quit going out and getting drunk and your not going out with those kinds of people anymore. and there's nothing wrong with hanging out with your mom at least then you won't wind up getting killed or going to jail so your not doing a bad thing. Good job on straighting up your life.

Answer 5

No, it just means you started to grow up! You should be proud of yourself that your not acting the way you just described anymore because that obviously, as I'm sure your understanding now, doesn't really get you anywhere productive.

Nope, you're not going through an awkward phase, your being sensible, responsible and mature. Enjoy it; not many people your age can boast any of those qualities.

Answer 6

You have matured..... some do before you, and some (most) do after you.... Usually people get to that level between 21-25, that's why drinking is for 21 and older......
You are not antisocial, just a little more responsible that the common teenagers of your age...

Answer 7

An awkward stage and may I add - a SAFE one!! Considering how you were before and I'm a mother of TWO pre-teens - I would go with 'awkward'. Do you have a best friend to talk to? Mothers are great, don't get me wrong, but they are the parent and not necessarily your best friend to understand exactly what you're going through. Just a suggestion. Good luck!

Answer 8

I did the same thing my freshman year...you're just growing up and realizing that doing all the stupid stuff you used to do isnt worth doing anymore. I didn't start partying a lot until I graduated and was living on my own because I could do whatever I wanted to and didn't have to answer to my parents. You're not antisocial...you're fine. Don't worry.

Answer 9

Life is to be enjoyed. Try and locate what gets you turned on and think about the giving side of things rather than the taking, OK? No one has to hear another "I" story. Healthy to be with your mom at these times.
We had our destructive days, but all is much better now. She has made a pretty good life for herself. Curious to know if you think most people are hypocrits though. Lots of advice, but not much substance to go with it.

Answer 10

I was sort of the opposite - I was annoyed by how much everyone else seemed to be deliquents in high school. I avoided them all and I suppose was a bit 'anti social' but it was better than hanging around with people who werent very smart.