My sister-in-law (husband sister) is divorcing her husband He always been good to my husband and I and our kids, he has a 10yr old dauther. My brother in law was a stay at home father until his dauther was 8yrs, it was it wife Idea for him to stay home cause she brought home more money between the two of them. Somewhere she fall out of love and now is divorcing him. Should we continue to talk to him and invite him to family funcions?
2007-01-19 08:48:53 · 13 answers · asked by rma2ks 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Here's a personnal story for you that relates to your question:
My brother in law was married for 4 years and has a daughter with his (now ex) wife. She was apart of the family for that whole time and was even considered family before they even got engaged. Well, now that they are divorced, she is no longer considered family..according to my hubby's mom and dad.
Now to me, that's WRONG beyond compare! I still talk to her and am friends with her, and yes, I still consider her family! They on the other hand don't.
I would personally invite him to the family functions. SHE is the one who wants a divorce, don't penalize him for that. You know he is a good person, loving and caring father too. I don't see any harm in it..other than your SIL getting mad cuz he's there...she needs to deal with it. He is your families friend too. Hope that helps some. Good Luck!
2007-01-19 09:05:00 · answer #1 · answered by PrincessAli'sMom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it's extremely helpful in a divorce if someone (in the family) stays friends with the ex-inlaw. This will do your sister a great favor. It's helpful to ease feelings between the families, and your line of communication between them can help things go smoothly for their daughter.
2007-01-19 08:53:20 · answer #2 · answered by Faith 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you keep impartial for the duration of the divorce then sure. Explain in your sister as quickly as viable that you just might like to stick peers together with her husband. Give your sister time to manage all of the combined feelings she could also be feeling and take it gradual. I am nonetheless well peers with my brothers ex spouse, regardless that it may be sticky now and then given that they each like to make use of me to uncover out how the opposite is doing or whats happening within the different ones existence... ect. Be transparent to each that you are going to now not be the center guy. Then once more if the causes for the divorce had been because of his faults.. your sis would possibly anticipate you to take her aspect within the subject. Just constantly don't forget that blood is thicker than water and you'll be able to be high-quality.
2016-09-08 00:22:08 · answer #3 · answered by marceau 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to cut ties with him but as far as inviting him to occasions where she will be there...just ask them how they feel about that. Now-a-days, with divorce so prevailent, its perfectly acceptable to ask the upended couple how they feel about attending the same social functions. Its also, perfectly acceptable to forwarn the other if the ex will be bringing a guest.
My latest X and I still attend parties...though neither of us have brought our new others. I'm willing to meet his, but he's not willing to introduce me, nor meet mine. But if its a social gathering that he will be drinking I decline the invite or leave early, before the drinking gets into full swing.
2007-01-19 08:58:43 · answer #4 · answered by gypsy g 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely, if they can't be civil during family functions, then they need to deal with that between themselves. Why so you lose a friend because they got divorced???
2007-01-19 09:03:59 · answer #5 · answered by wicky_busstop 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know about bringing him to family functions, especially if his ex will be there. It might be ackward, but I don't see any reason not to be friends with him. He didn't do anything to you. If he didn't do anything horrible to her (i.e. cheating or abuse), and she just fell out of love, I don't see anything wrong with it at all. As far as family functions, I would check with the host or hostess before inviting him.
2007-01-19 10:25:57 · answer #6 · answered by benjis.girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, keep him as a family friend. Just because his wife divorced him doesn't mean he stopped being your family friend.. Doesn't work that way.
2007-01-19 09:11:32 · answer #7 · answered by Think Richly™ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is absolutly nothing wrong with you guys staying friends with him. But you may not want to invite him to family functions until his ex is comfortable with the idea.
2007-01-19 08:56:40 · answer #8 · answered by KK1986 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course. Seems like he's a friend. Why not. He's not doing the divorcing.
2007-01-19 08:56:56 · answer #9 · answered by BroHam 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont see why you would not be his friend. Does your friendship have set guidelines stating that they have to be family to be your friend?
2007-01-19 08:52:57 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋