lonely for eternity at 29?

Question

i sit here alone in my flat tonight like i do everynight despairing at the isolation and intense lonliness i feel. im desperatly struggling with psychological problems, (if you wanna no what, read my previous questions) im in torment with my mind, my mum told me we cant do nothing till you get your second opinion....i have no friends or girlfriend who i can talk to to keep me company...i keep looking in to the future wondering how my life is going to turn out, feeling like this lonliness is going to last forever...wondering will i be able to control my inner anger?? will i be able to get a happy life for myself? im simply alone with no one to turn to in a small flat and in my mind everyone else is having a great old time out there, laughing and giggling

Answer 1

OK dude, you really need to isolate your problem. You complain about being lonely, yet you are doing the one thing that causes the isolation you are complaining about: sitting in your flat. The world will not come to you, you have to go to them. Now, on a more constructive side, where are people at? Here are some ideas:

Take a speech class
Take an arts class
Go to church
Go to a community center
Go to a fitness center
Get an education

You get the idea. The point is, don't sit there wallowing in your misery, that solves nothing. Go to where the people are. Yes, that will take a little bit of effort on your part, but have you got something better to do?

Answer 2

I know how you feel. I'm 31 and just started dealing with depression. I believe it came on due to stress in my life from my past relationship, taking care of my children on my own, and some medical issues. All of these have contributed to it. My anger was getting so bad that it seemed like my every waking thought was centered around my kids father who hurt me beyond belief.

The one thing that I've come to realize is that even though I'm lonely and wish I had a partner, I can't look to them to make myself happy. I have to learn to be content with myself before I can get into any kind of relationship. You don't seem too content with who you are either. On the weekends I force myself to get back into some of the things I enjoyed doing alone. Ask yourself what do you really care about or what did you used to care about?

Have you ever at one time been religious but have now slacked off? If you believe in God, going to Church and talking to a Priest or Pastor can be very healing. It's free as well. :-) Take it one day at a time and force yourself to start doing things you used to do.

Answer 3

Hey dude! Get a grip(and not the doilies on the arms of your chair). You could be feeling this way on a door stoop or in the bushes with the rain coming down. LONELINESS won't kill you. But sitting alone with the voices in your head can. If you have a substance abuse problem, seek AA/NA. If you need to talk to someone, call a crisis help line. DO SOMETHING. You're online....get in touch with someone on the net. There are thousands of opportunities to start your journey back to happiness. I know. I sound just like you.

Answer 4

I know what it feels like to be sad and lonely. Most of us do. But the best thing you can do is get out there and try to make someone elses life happier. When we focus so much on ourselves, we tend to dwell on the negative aspects of our lives. Look into becoming a volunteer for a cause that is important to you and give something from your heart. I've seen it work so many times. Who knows, you may even meet the love of your life there!

Answer 5

I think going to a professional is a good idea.
There are so many people out there that are just as lonely...
Have you tried finding a group that shares your same interests? What about a gym or a church or something? Habitat for Humanity always needs volunteers. Many lonely people simply do not reach out or suffer from social anxiety..
Good luck, I hope the second opinion helps,
dd

ps. thegusta you remind me of my nona! She used to say, " Cr*p or get off the pot, but do not complain to me about your tush being sore"! I used to think, "oh, she is mean and doesn't understand" blah blah, but my Nona, a smart woman, understood exactly that if you want to change something, stop whining and do something about it! That saved me a bunch of time and effort once I was smart enough to follow her advice! lol! Thanks! - dd

Answer 6

you need to get out of the house more. It sounds like your a young person and your family is to busy to spend time with you the way you would like. I just started a psychology class in college this week and there is much more to learn before you can put yourself down like that. There are far more worse cases out there on the human mind then your boredom.

Answer 7

I know what you mean sometimes. But you have to take control of your life. Only you can define your happiness. Sometimes you might wish someone can lead you out of your darkness. But it takes strength to get out there and live your life. Time waits for no one and you should get out there, not to expect something for your efforts b/c its when we least expect it, something good will happen. You can't be scared of disappointment or it will send you back. I honestly think u r not mad at the world, but more mad at yourself. Why life is like this? But you can make a change in your life if you want to. Its up to you, but you can not be afraid of failure.

Answer 8

Get yourself a puppy and take it to the dog park every day. You'll never be completely alone again and you will meet people because cute puppies make people more approachable and gives you something to get the conversation started.

Answer 9

First, get on your knees and pray to God like you have never prayed before. Bear your entire soul out to Him who created you.

Then check this out:
http://www.mormon.org

This site will lead you to find many of the answers you seek. when you are ready for more, representatives will be glad to visit you.

Good luck and may God be with you.

Answer 10

well, arent we all..
but hey, dont worry
age never was a barrier nor a scale for anything, im pretty sure we that we all get what we'r meant to take,
im pretty sure everything will turn out to be so good for,
my prayers.....