Okay I am 27 and because of a snafu I live at home with my mom and dad. My sister dropped her kids off 10 years ago so that she could go and keep doing her drugs. She has called them maybe 10 times in the last ten years if that. Their dad cared about them more in my opinion but he is dead from a flesh eating virus due to drug use as well. He was trying to get off. Anyways My nephew has been stealing my food for a very long time every time he does it I call him on it. Well this time he got all bent out of shape and threatened to cut my face up. He drinks in his room in a seperate house, if I call the cops I will get thrown out. Last night was it and now my dad is angry with me because my nephew threatened to cut my face up. He thinks I instigated it by telling him not to eat my stuff. He is 18 and know right from wrong. He is underage to drink and he smokes pot, he has no diploma and the only reason he is going back to the GED program is to get money and to beat up some kid posting more
2007-01-19 08:34:23 · 9 answers · asked by WINGS 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
I have tried to keep quiet but he starts getting agressive and I can't take him calling me names and such. He doesn't have an education and has no motivation to get a job other than to drink. Basically he is a burden on society. We have tried everything to help him but he doesn't want it. He says it's cool to hurt people and that he wants to eat a person, this to me shows that he is insane. My mom told my dad he needed to leave but I have a feeling he will be back. I want to take my old room back spend 200 bucks to have a smoke cleaner come out and get the smell out and re-carpet it and paint and the whole nine yards. What can I do to make sure that my dad actually makes him leave.
I will be getting a restraining order against him.
2007-01-19 08:38:02 · update #1
First of all, you cannot do anything about how his grandparents choose to raise him. Or have chose to raise him. You need to move out, find a roommate and live your life without all the garbage that surrounds you. I would definetely phone the authorities if he says or acts nuts again and they will deal with him. Hopefully, put him somewhere he can get counseling and professional help. Angry or not, he is a threat to your family and all of society. It's really sad but don't make it your problem. You have no choice but to leave and start fresh on your own. Roommates are wanted everywhere so start looking in the papers. Rent a room for a couple of hundred bucks, you can do that, can't you?! For your sanity, health, and existence, you've got to go. Start packing!
2007-01-19 09:26:37 · answer #1 · answered by enjoyrselves 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, that's quite a story. It's great and amazing that you and your husband have been able to keep a clear head about all the dysfunction in your two families. Teaching kids is done by example. If you show them a healthy way of family life and by protecting them from all the abuse going on in your families (meaning, keep them and yourself away if there's a chance for harm even if it means insulting family members) then this is what your kids will pick up and internalize for their own future. They will get that despite bad family history, there are other solutions and other ways of living normally and that you and your husband will always be there for them.
2016-05-23 22:27:02 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are 27 years old I have an idea-MOVE OUT!!! Oh dont get me wrong the kid isnt in the right here but obviously your Dad wont do anything. Instead of paying $200 to fix up Dads house use it to get an apartment, then you dont have to deal with the kid.
2007-01-19 09:12:01 · answer #3 · answered by elaeblue 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just get the restraining order, at the same time you do this, charge him with the intent to cause physical harm--and DO NOT BACK DOWN. He has threatened to do you physical harm. If he has threatened you, and you allow this to continue he will theaten others, possibly follow thru with the threats and someone may end up losing their life.
2007-01-19 08:44:36 · answer #4 · answered by nickle 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
This is a hard one/Yes get a restraining order on him and look at moving out.He has threatnedviolence against you.Move somewhere safe.Underneath he is hurting because of the lack of love in his life.You need to get tough.
2007-01-19 08:59:23 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
call the cops!!! he will stay alie their but you know why his life ended up this way? He didnt have a good childhood, you know having his mother leave for drugs and his daddy dead its hard on him, but anyways call the cops, it's the right thing to do!!!
2007-01-19 08:45:27 · answer #6 · answered by Kaity 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I feel sorry for you and your family because it is not your place to have to care for someones child. I would say that he is probably hurting for not having his mother around and he is trying to get attention. However, if you or your familys life is in danger you need to get the authorities involved. I feel for you and your family and I am sorry you are having to deal with this.
2007-01-19 08:41:43 · answer #7 · answered by sweet2006 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
call the cops and move out or if they throw you out they throw you out. ITS YOUR LIFE or you move. This sounds like a young man who could wipe out your family ( dont mean to scare ) but he sounds very angry and has a right to be , his mother abandoned him BUT STILL threats lead to violence. get him help or Iwould leave
2007-01-19 08:39:17 · answer #8 · answered by BoTToms UP 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
LEAVE!!!
2007-01-19 11:17:31 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋