Question Details: You have a great guy, but are afraid of losing a good thing, but you feel you need to go out and see what's out there. What did you do? Did you move on to fulfill urges or to find better or found better while in the relationship? Are you happy with your decision?
2007-01-19 08:24:37 · 14 answers · asked by Need Answers 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You shouldn't be with a guy just because he's a "good thing". You should have feelings for him if you're in the relationship.
If you have a big urge to move on, you probably should. The guy you are with deserves to be with someone who is sure she wants to be with him.
2007-01-19 08:33:35 · answer #1 · answered by katydid 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u have a great guy, u should be afraid of loosing him. one should start a new relationship before ending the one they are in, it is dishonest, and can hurt the person we are with. i once left a good relationship, thought i could do better, but didn't get better, got worse. once u leave it may not be possible to go back. actually there is no knight in shining Armour, after awhile once the honeymoon stage is over we may have someone different than what we imagined we had , when we make rash decisions and jump into something we think is going to be better, usually it isn't.
2007-01-19 08:37:00 · answer #2 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think a lot of people in general stay with someone, because its "comfortable." you think that you may not find anyone better and it feels good to be that loved..or you dont want to have to do the whole "dating..1st time" thing again. I think in the end you owe it to yourself and the one that your with to go with what your heart is telling you..because if you guys do stay together you may wonder later when your married with kids what might have happened if you would have just taken that break to see what was out there. so maybe do just that..take a break and maybe you'll realize that you have the best out there..its hard to find a really good guy, and once your mind has settled around that or if you discover something else out there, you'll feel much better about yourself. i was in a 3 1/2 year relationship with someone i thought i was going to marry..but had that burning urge to go see what else was out there, because i felt so tied down and un-sure. 2 months later, I started dating someone i went to jr high and high school with, we hit it off and and a little over a year later, got married!! im happier than ive ever been and im so glad i made that decision..you really just have to follow your heart..mine led me to my amazing hubby! good luck!
2007-01-19 08:36:02 · answer #3 · answered by JKlein 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I did that a couple of times. I have been proposed to three times, but when it gets close to it I always do something to push him away because I have commitment issues. I just feel like I deserve the best. I dont want to settle for anything. So I didnt want to close down my options. I want to be married bad as hell, but then again I get afraid when it's time to walk the walk. I'm happy with my decisions because when I look at all 3 of themnow, they havent accomplished a whole lot....so I dont feel like I missed much. lol!
2007-01-19 08:56:25 · answer #4 · answered by Wisdom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You would do much better by ending the relationship before beginning a new one. Plus, the men would be a better quality because of this. No good man will mess around with you if you are still involve with another
2007-01-19 08:39:31 · answer #5 · answered by Bonduesa 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it has happened to me 2x. But the real question here is does that person enhance your HAPPINESS? That's what you have to ask yourself. It can be a perfect relationship, but it can't be if you are here asking this question. We are given a life and we are obligated to make the BEST of it that we can. Think about how great this person is, but how great is the relationship? Good luck in your thinking.
2007-01-19 08:45:41 · answer #6 · answered by Faerie Girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well............ I'm not a women lOl ... but i felt like that with my recent relationship... He ended up cheating on me by the way :(... anyways and i felt like that at times.. it was hard letting go at first .... and scared that i'll never find anyone again... but if he was the one you wouldn't have these thoughts.... I was happy in the end that he let me go i just realized he wasn't worth my tears and blah blah lol... but it was an experience that was worth it... or maybe your just scared ponder more about it then make your decisions ... hope i helped!
2007-01-19 08:38:14 · answer #7 · answered by mel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am in this situation right now. Man. I want to move on sooo bad. He is a good guy. In fact we have children. I know I should have moved on long ago. I met a guy some time ago that wanted to marry me but I stayed. I still plan to move on, it's just hard because I don't want to hurt him.
2007-01-19 08:32:29 · answer #8 · answered by Suu S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am currently in a situation where it would be best for me to move on. We have kids together, but I am just not totally in love with him anymore. Plus he cheated on me and now has a kid with another woman. I haven't moved on because I am comfy with him, and he is a good father to my kids. Basically I am scared that there isn't anyone else for me. I have to face the facts that it is time to move on.
2007-01-19 09:38:10 · answer #9 · answered by jessica c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, sorry... I took time fulfilling my urges before getting into my serious relationships.
2007-01-19 08:33:13 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋