Is this rude or weird?

Question

I had e-mailed some friends of mine in requesting to keep my grandfather, who just became ill for the 1st time in many years. In response to my email I got this wacky message from a friend. This is exactally was written in the e-mail :"My new g/f works for hospice and it's a great thing. Your family needs to just contact them to prepare for his death". I kind of see how he is trying to be "nice", but I really reacted to feeling as if that was a horrible way to say it! How would you react?

Answer 1

Please, first, my condolences. You must be hurting.
In your pain, you may not have thought about the method which you used to approach people...
E-mail tends to be a weird forum anyway, wherein people dash off what they think quickly sometimes.
And we totally don't get the tone of voice.
People need to learn e-mail etiquette in maybe second grade nowadays, so that they are not misinterpreted this way!
Because, I can see how you felt upset by it!
I'm sure he meant well, and jsut didn't really put time in to craft an empathic message that was fool-proof.

Answer 2

I don't think it's weird or rude. Your friend either never had someone close to him faced with death, or recently had someone faced with death. So he is probably kind of hardened by reality, which is not the point you are at, since your emotions are involved. He probably didn't mean anything by it. Good luck with your grandfather!

Answer 3

the hole thing about death yeah that was kinda rude but if he would have just informed you of the hospice that would have been ok but hospices are nice you may wanna look into it if there is a need

Answer 4

I think your friend means well, but you have to understand they do not have the Love for your Grandfather that you do, because its YOUR GrandFather. Do what you feel is best for your Grandfather. Use your head and your heart.. best Wishes

Answer 5

I don't think I'd react at all. Some people aren't skilled writers, and if you think he meant well but didn't make his point with very much sympathy, don't worry about it.
It's hard to say more than that, because we don't know what your email said.

Answer 6

he's just trying to take some of the strain off you, looks like it just came out wrong.
if your grandfather is that ill stop puttering on here and go be with him, i couldn't be with mine when he left and i'll always regret that.

Answer 7

What an insensitive jerk. You don't need this kind of person around while you are dealing with your granddad.

Have you considered adult day care or assisted senior living?

Answer 8

Even though your friend may have been trying to be helpful their response was insensitive. I think your reaction is quite normal.

Answer 9

if i were u n i had met him/ her i wud hav given him right n left on his face........

neways just forget the whole thing n do watever u can for ur grandfather..........i hope every1 goes fine

Answer 10

I think it is rude it is your love they r talking about not joke.