Do married couples eventually just settle with the choice they make? I can't see myself getting married because I can't envision anyone is compatible for life with me and vice versa.
Is this why there is so much divorce?
2007-01-19 08:11:42 · 8 answers · asked by TriSec 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
People jump into marriage for all the wrong reasons and that is why people divorce. Make sure that you are friends first. It's important for every man to see his woman being "real" and vice versa. This process should take atleast a year. You also need to ask yourself if you will still love that person without legs, if they were stricken with a deadly disease, or if another body part was to come off. These are the most important things to ask yourself. Also you need to know if that person would take care of you when you are sick and pick of the slack for the bills. This too is vice versa. Basically, you are out there looking for a person who is everything you wish you were. Good luck.
2007-01-19 08:21:26 · answer #1 · answered by cookie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's because you put yourself and your needs first. Compatibility and love take two people who are dedicated to putting the other person first. It isn't "settling" it's maturity and understanding that differences occur and can be dealt with. The trick is to grow together over time and not be off in your own little universe doing what YOU want to do. There is so much divorce because some people always only think of themselves and their happiness. They are immature and selfish and are always looking for greener pastures.
2007-01-19 16:50:49 · answer #2 · answered by Dovie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Theres divorce because people cheat and have their differences.Not all married couples go through this, people do spend the rest of their lifes with that special someone. Theirs a right person for everybody, you this now but when that special girl sweeps you off your feet. You gone know exactly what to do.
2007-01-19 16:21:57 · answer #3 · answered by lissa 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love takes patience and work. It cannot be taken for granted. It also takes knowing and being confident in yourself. For years I didn't think I could find someone I could trust enough to love wholeheartedly. Then I met my husband. We've been together for 7 years. It hasn't always been easy and we've both made a lot of mistakes along the way. But we both are willing to work on the relationship and we don't take anything for granted. I have to believe that it's going to work, otherwise what's the point of being in any type of relationship?
2007-01-19 16:25:48 · answer #4 · answered by married2004 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It takes time and a lot of luck to find someone suitable to be your life partner, and the first and most important aspect of this is knowing who you are, what you want in life, where you stand and where you are going, both professionally and personally.
Then you set on your journey to find someone who is compatible with you physically, mentally and spiritually, and shares your hopes goals and dreams for the future, after that, it's all about communication, compassion, compromise and hard work, but it's definitely worth it. No one wants to die alone.
2007-01-19 16:18:54 · answer #5 · answered by artist-oranit.com. 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
we don't know, but getting to know that person helps, looking into their past, how they react to stress, and problems, how are his morals? if he has an ex how did he treat her?we can evaluate, weigh all the pros's and con's, if u marry because u seek to complete yourself with this person it can't work, because your expectations will be unreasonable. we can never know if he is the right person, as our world is governed by our 5 senses, we don't have any crystal ball we can see into the future. but many times when we don't know for sure, our intuition or gut feeling can tell us alot about someone, and it never lies, we just have to trust our judgment that we have made a wise choice. have to pick a mate who has the same interests, and morals, and belief system. if not there could be problems later on, so we have to be true to ourselves, if we see something not quite right with them, know that marriage is not going to change it.
2007-01-19 16:23:20 · answer #6 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES. THAT'S EXACTLY WHY. EVERYBODY CHANGES. SOMETIMES THE SPOUSE CAN'T STAND THAT NEW PERSON. ERGO---DIVORCE
2007-01-19 16:17:03 · answer #7 · answered by sweetbabykitty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yepper---don't get married just have fun
2007-01-19 16:18:06 · answer #8 · answered by sunbun 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋