Husband forgets your anniversary???

Question

If this is my 2 year anniversary, and I planned the first one which was really nice, and my husband says don't make any plans, I want to do a surprise for you...and then doesn't do anything at all...would you be pissed? I was not expecting anything extravagant, just would have been nice to have been remembered, especially after him saying he wanted to plan something.

I have not even mentioned it now because I am not gonna fight about it, it isn't that I am so upset about the anniversary (btw he brought it up a few times, including 3 days before that he had this "plan", so it's not like he totally forgot) it's just depressing because it feels like I'm just not the effort of picking up the phone and making a reservation to go out to eat or something little even. It's not about gifts and spending money. Maybe its just the fact that I always do nice things for him and he tends to forget I exist. I must also add that he never forgets to make time to hang out with his friends for games. We also have a baby at home...ok venting!!! Sorry! Thanks for the answers!

Answer 1

It would be hard not to be hurt. Maybe his surprise didn't work out. Try to calmly ask what happened and then just try to make the best of it. Been married 13 years....some people are good with dates and some are not.

Answer 2

I'm more like your husband. I'm horrible with dates. In order to remember, I have the date written everywhere (in my cell, on my calendar, in my pda, even have email reminders that are sent a week & then a day in advance). With all those reminders, if I don't wish my hubby hapy anniversary then something had better be seriously wrong. If your husband can't figure out a way to remember than you have every right to be upset, and let him know why you're upset.

I guess this is a hard lesson, but in the future any special celebrations or outings for your anniversary will have to be planned by you, not him.

Answer 3

I'm sorry, hun. That sucks. I've been married for two years and tend to do the planning in the family. Although it would be hurtful for my husband to forget our anniversary, especially after only two years, don't read too much into it, maybe work has him stressed or he had too much on his plate. People tend to get pretty busy and forget. How soon after he forgot did he remember? A day, week, etc.? Maybe he's making plans to make it up to you. Just be open with him and let him know that your feelings were hurt by him forgetting, just try not to sound too mean.

Answer 4

How long has it been since your anniversary has passed? Maybe he has something planned such as a vacation or something so it would not have been the exact day. We can only hope that he is only acting like he forgot and actually has something fantastic in store for you.

If not, don't be too hard on him. He may have had a lot of stress going on in his life or distractions. Maybe casually say something like, "next year better be the best anniversary of our lives". Give him a chance to make it up for your third year. If he doesn't pull through with that one, definitely tell him how you feel about him treating your anniversary so casually.

Answer 5

I would be sooo upset. My boyfriend of three years forgot my birthday two years in a row .. or well didn't get around to telling me happy birthday on my birthday (as he put it) and I was so hurt. I remember laying down at the end of the day and I began to cry so loudly. Then he remembered. Men can be jerks. This year is over and you aren't going to feel better about this no matter what he tries to do to make it up to you. Just next year ask him repeatedly for specifics. For example, where are we going? What are we doing? Once you get himt o commit to soemthgin concrete, he will be mor elikely to follow through.

Answer 6

I don't make a big deal out of things like that. As a matter of fact, me and my husband have been married four years and haven't remembered one single anniversary. We both laugh about it because I know so many people who have big fights over this kind of stuff. I just know that I am happy with him every single day and it's pretty special. We don't need a certain day to remind us how much we love each other. We make sure we let each other know how we feel everyday. Thank you and I hope this helps.

Answer 7

Go to Proflowers.Com. Set up an account using his email address. Then beginning a month or two before the date, they will start sending him reminders. Works for birthday's and valentines day, etc.

Tell him how you feel about this annaversary. Us guys do have a hard time with this. Not all but some. Proflowers was a great find for me even when I do something other than send flowers!

Hope it works for you guys too

Answer 8

well that was the surprise, NOTHING. Kiss and Make up and next time remind him a couple of days a head, mark it on a calendar at home, send him an email. I am not saying what he did was right, but if you want a long life together, there will be other worst things he will do so you can pick a fight on that.

Answer 9

wow, can't believe that he would do that to your anniversary??? Me, and my wife we always remember our anniversary Oct. 31st 1997 and that how I remember and we do we want to get married at the court house but we didn't know it was oct 31st... lol but glad we got married and it easy to remember. and looking back it sure hell funny. But If I do something I forget or something for anniversary yes of course my wife will be so pissed off but we both know that we never forget reason because we really love eachother alot.

I do hope that you just go ahead and make plans without him knowing and he might say well not fair you do better than me or what ever reason he need to know that your wife loves you...

Answer 10

Perhaps he is not angry with you and is just in a bad mood over something else, which coincided with your anniversary. Is there something that may be bothering him? Perhas he's going through midlife crisis? A lot of men have trouble expressing their feelings, so I think that you should just ask him. Hopefully everything will be fine :-)