The whole family may be helped by social service intervention, but you can't do anything for the aunt who doesn't want help individually.
2007-01-19 07:43:27
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answered by DrB 7
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That aunt has no business being a parent and will create horribly disfunctional children. While you can't force her to get help, the courts sure can. Contact the local Dept. of Family Services. With one kid on "house arrest" and one kid dead, surely they should do an evaluation of the home situation. Your girlfriend's mother is being an enabler by allowing this to continue. The kids need to be in a stable loving home and that dysfunctional woman needs serious psychiatric help as a condition of keeping custody of her kids. I'd stop worrying about the aunt and worry, big time, about the welfare of those children.
2007-01-19 15:38:17
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answered by Yo' Mama 4
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maybe the person who needs help is your girlfriend i know dealing with a crazy person espically one so close to you can wear you down.tell her to worry about the kids and some one needs to get the cys (child and youth services) called they can help the mom with parenting classes and training for the 16 year old all the kids most likley need some sort of counciling ,y sister is a messed up alcholic crack head and her kids were taken from her it was hard on all of us and her 3 girls went to live with there dad who was still in the same town as us we saw them more often and the best thing is now they are growing up to be smart girls who stayed in school and get good grades and are well behaved which is the opposite of what they were when they were with there mom its whats best for the kids that matter not the mom unfortinatuly sometimes being with the parent isn't aleays best .. as a man i would shape thoes two boys up too that should be your duty and maybe between the three of you (grandma) you can get these kids where they need to be.. your a sweet boyfriend and your girlfriend should feel lucky to have someone who cares about her so much..my psyco family ran off quite a few guys when i was young
2007-01-19 15:46:33
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answered by auntie s 4
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There is not much that can be done if she does not go to family counseling. Your girlfriend should stay out of it. And the best thing for the kids just might be to have the authorities place them in a foster home. Just watching all that trouble at home is not good for them. Save the younger ones before they become like her. You know the saying "Monkey see, monkey do".
2007-01-19 15:40:50
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answered by Aliz 6
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The only thing I can think of is get 3 or 4 really close friends/family along with a counsellor and have a bit of an intervention. Let her know that you love her but she is losing the battle of keeping her family as a unit. The counsellor can offer some advice and help that is available to her. Sounds like a tough one but with caring people like yourself I think she`ll get it right.
2007-01-19 15:40:41
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answered by Scott T 2
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You can't make someone change if they don't see they need to change.
In my opinion, the best possibility is to have the family talk to a Social Services organization. See if it would be possible for the grandmother/aunt to get custody of the kids. This might be the trigger to get the mom to understand she has some problems.
2007-01-19 15:37:18
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answered by phseamstress 2
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This may sound like a depressing answer but someone who doesnt want help won't seek it. You can tell her "listen i know that you don't want to lose your children but if you keep doing this stuff your going to eventually." You also could suggest that she see a therapist or counselor to face the situation. I hope that this helps.
2007-01-19 15:36:34
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answered by rockerchick0918 1
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You can't help someone who doesn't want it . They have to want it . The only person who can help this women is herself. Maybe losing her kids is what she needs to get her act together. I know that if I ever lost my kids I would do whatever it takes to get them back.
2007-01-19 15:35:02
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answered by Lin_Z 4
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im so sorry to hear that. people like this are hard. sometimes you have to just get help without asking, or just try to talk to her aunt and tell her the bright side of getting help, and the dark side of not.
2007-01-19 15:34:29
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answered by island.girl24 3
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There is nothing you can do that will make everybody happy.
Somebody is going to get hurt. After you decide what's best for all parties - who gets hurt least - then check into fixes.
2007-01-19 15:36:56
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answered by BEER 2
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