Do people generally get married because they are needy people?

Question

Why on earth would anyone want to share everyday with another person? I never understood the attraction of that. And don't give me the crap about being in love or having someone to take care of you when you are an old fart either! I believe it is being afraid of being alone......needy people.

not bitter at all....I never wanted marriage. Cant you answer the damn question you twit?!

and if marriage was so great then why do 1/2 of all get divorced and are on their 2nd and 3rd marriages? See it all the time with the idiots in yahoo answers.

Answer 1

Hey I hear ya. I WAS married for religous reasons. Boy what a mistake.
There has to be more than that.

Marriage is suppose to be something that it isn't anymore. Or rarely is.

I am becoming an old fart and have yet to find anyone I would marry. But, I actually would if I felt we would make it.

Answer 2

We're social animals. There's no getting around that. The Hermit is the exception, not the rule. People tend to enjoy the company of other people.

Now, some people do marry because they are needy, and you should be on-guard against somebody like that.

But if the right person comes along, you click, you're both healthy, then there are ways you can grow as a person having assumed the responsibilities of a relationship that you can't grow while not in a couple. Also, intimacy is what makes sex spiritual.

And if the right person comes along, you won't want them going away or marrying somebody else.

Answer 3

I think we get married because we don't want to be lonely! It's not even about all that fuzzy-lovey stuff after a few years. Marriages would not be 1/2 divorces if they were like leases. You should get to sign a 30 day trial or something, and then you can lock in for 10 or 20 years. When you get bored you can move onto the next wife. LOL

Answer 4

Not everyone is cut out for marriage, just as not everyone is cut out to have kids.
I think your perception of marriage might be correct in some cases, but not all.
Some people don't get married out of neediness. Some people like to share. They like companionship. And as far as the "crap about being in love", there's a lot to that, believe it or not.
One thing I DO know for sure, being in a bad marriage is much lonelier than being alone. Try to keep an open mind.

Answer 5

I think you are right! I'm married and I married because I don't want to spend my life alone. I want a family and I'm smart enough to know that my parents will not outlive me and my brothers will go and live their lives - alone or building families of their own.

Honestly I tried living alone once and I hated it. I am a social person who is driven in life by interpersonal relationships. Yet, at times I do love spending time with myself. I don't have a huge social life, and I like it that way. having my partner in life is enough to give my life a purpose. I'm not ashamed to say that my purpose is simply to love and be loved because that is the truth.

Look up Maslow and you'll read about the hierarchy of needs for humans adults. After food, shelter, and security, comes love and belonging.

Perhaps in your case a marriage in the traditional meaning is not what you want. however, don't torture yourself through isolation to become a martyr for your cause. that's just a waste of life.

Regards,

Natalia

Answer 6

I think you can be right? It is about not being alone. No one whats to die alone. It's nice to sleep next to somebody who body is warm. Talk to when you need too. But then again the person you live/married to is always the last person you want to talk to. Now that I think about it, it is strange to want to share everyday life with someone. I no I sometimes get tried of it. Sense I been married 2X's in going on my 3rd. I must be real needy person.

Answer 7

we can still be part of a relationship but live in our own space, and not feel smothered by others. some people do marry because they need someone to complete them, some marry so they have someone to depend on. but it isn't always about being needy. sometimes we meet just that right person and enjoy them, and want to be with them. as we get older we do need someone in our life, someone we can count on, and at the same time they can count on us. sometimes being with someone else, transforms us into something much better than we were alone. we are all different, and want different things in life, but no not all people who marry are needy. some just want the companionship, of having another person in their life.

Answer 8

Bit on an attitude problem there, eh Bunky?

Well, I don't have anything that's going to satisfy you, I'm sure, in spite of being happily married for 36 years to a sexy, intelligent, talented woman.

Needy?

And you aint got any "needs," right? Whatever.

OK, deal with this. I "need" sex on a regular basis and my hand only gives me half of what I "need."

I don't want to stand in line like you and risk STDs and I find intercourse much more fun without a condom.

How's that?

Answer 9

I don't doubt some people do. Others do it for the legal benefits. And some do it because it's simply what's done. And some do it because they think they're supposed to - they were raised that way. And some do it because it's their vision of romance. And some do it because it helps to get through life with someone who is a permanent partner, like family.

Answer 10

well I guess you are just another idiot in yahoo answers as you stated so well-

loser. Don't push your beliefs and make others feel bad for their decision to get married. You are entitled to your opinion but married people are definately not married because they are needy. That is just a small minded thing to say.