While this is a personal situation I would just like to know what people outside of it think. I'm 23 years old - my mother is 48, we live together.
My mother had asked to borrow some money to pay for some business expenses. I came in one morning with 50 in cash to give her. I then realized she was having an asthma attack. My mom usually drinks coffee in the morning and it helps her breathe. She didn't have any. I took the 50 I was going to give her and ran to the store to buy her some coffee to help her breathing problem. I was worried about it the whole time.
I got back with the coffee and my mother asked me for the money. I gave the remaining cash to her (as I had intended to anyway) and she told me I didn't need to run out and get her coffee. I said I had been worried. She called me "silly."
Today she tells me that the situation upset her - that I took the money and ran to get her "stuff". She had just wanted the money.
Should I be upset? I was just concerned.
2007-01-19 07:18:41 · 5 answers · asked by jetkitty83 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You should tell her that caring about someone you love should never be considered silly.Why would it upset her. She needs to come clean with you about what is really going on. Since you live with her just make sure that there's coffee in the house all the time.
2007-01-19 07:26:59 · answer #1 · answered by Extra Blue Note 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Who's money was it? The owner has the right to use the money any way he feels. Why is she the one upset? Did she really miss the couple dollars you spent on coffee? I mean get real mom. She should have been happy that you did what you did to try to help her breathing. What if she had been dying and you did nothing? Would she have liked that?
You, sir, are a prince of a son and she doesn't know it or appreciate it. In the future, don't promise her any more money.
Right now, you might as well chalk this one up to experience and happily kiss your $50 good-bye. If she has need of money again, tell her to go to a bank. They grant business loans. If mom has another breathing attack, call 9-1-1 for help and don't do anything else.
2007-01-19 15:33:59 · answer #2 · answered by Captain Cupcake 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
From a mother's view point, you did the right thing , you thought with your heart. I feel children simply forget what parents go through for their children, and it's an endless job.It's not because we HAD TOO either, it's because we love our children, and always want what's best for each of them. Look at the poor kids who had not so good parents-have a talk with them-find out how it was for them growing up! If a parent is having problems with expenses, or anything else, why not help them if you can? What does it matter what they need money for? Always showing respect to your parent is the least a sibling could do to show their appreciation. Parents don't come with "how to do" books, but we keep trying! We have our ups and downs, but God meant for it to be that way.. So when you decide your much better than your parent, just remember who taught you your morals, and good judgment in the first place!
2007-01-19 16:30:29 · answer #3 · answered by sue d 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell your mom that u only were trying to help her and that you thought coffee would be the best solution. you shouldn't be concerned. but that was really mean of your mom to in a way "use" you for your money, especially if you were only caring about her and her health and tryin g to make her feel better
2007-01-19 15:42:51 · answer #4 · answered by kbigred823 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ummm...at 23 you really think that coffee helps athsma? No, really. You do? That's just the bull crap that she puts into your head. I could see if you ran to the drug store to get her inhailer from the pharmacy......And she's using you- definatley. Time to grow up and get out on your own. Good luck!
2007-01-19 15:34:33 · answer #5 · answered by Honesty given here! 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋