2007-01-19 07:18:37 · 11 answers · asked by marie 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If you're married, and you have strong feelings for someone else, I'd seriously look at how much your marriage means to you, and if it means that much, then I'd tell your husband, and let him know that you both need to see a marriage councilor ASAP! If you have not done anything with this other person, you're still in okay shape. It's a great thing that you realize you have to get over this person....and that's the first step. But honestly sweetie, go back and ask yourself why you got drawn to this person in the first place. I think you and your husband really need to sit down and talk things out...it sounds to me that something in your marriage is deficient. You can fix this, but you have to do it now, before your feelings become stronger, and it is too late. Keep in mind that most if not all marriages can be saved....if they are caught in time. Don't give up ( if it really means that much to you, and you really do love your husband through sickness and health, good times and bad, till death do you part) All problems, no matter how great or small resolve themselves within time. Just take that time to work TOGETHER, and for gods sake keep the lines of communication open. There is no other quicker way to choak your relationship then to severe your 'life lines' of communication.
Good luck and God speed.
2007-01-19 07:29:36 · answer #1 · answered by safireblu64 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's difficult - especially if you were with this person for a long time, have children with him, etc.
One of the best pieces of advice is to build a strong support network for yourself. Friends, family, a support group, your church, counseling . . . these can make quite a difference for you. Once you start believing that you can and will be fine without the other person it gets easier. In the meantime start doing things you've always wanted to do but never taken the initiative to. Immerse yourself in 'you' and your kids (if you have any). Start a new hobby (or get back to an old one that's been neglected), learn something new (like yoga, dance, step-aerobics, or something else 'energizing'), take a class at the local community college, volunteer. Get out and meet new people - not necessarily for relationship purposes but just to make new friends and add to your 'network'.
Good luck to you. I've been in your shoes and I know it's not easy. Just believe me when I say you will get through this. Just try not to look back (easier said than done, I know, but you will be much better off).
2007-01-19 15:30:03 · answer #2 · answered by greyrider 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have feelings for him and he is not reciprocating, then read the book, "He's Just Not That Into You" by Greg Behrendt. You'll get the hint really quickly and realise that you shouldn't waste "the Pretty" on anyone who doesn't appreciate. I read it when it first came out and he appeared on Oprah. At the time, I was still into someone who didn't want to be serious and still wanted to play around. That was several years ago. Since then, I got over him, moved on to someone who WAS into me and I'm now engaged to be married. The guy I was in to? Well, he called me not too long ago to try to 're-connect'...he's still THE SAME player he was then. Read the book...over and over if you must. Life is too short. Good Luck!
2007-01-19 16:02:14 · answer #3 · answered by eyecandy58 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This takes time and you can do it if you choose to... Walk away and cut back on how much you see them... This helps some ... I have gotten over people that i have had strong feelings for before.
2007-01-19 15:26:07 · answer #4 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes you don't. I have been like this for 30 years. The best you can do is to move on and try to learn to live with the pain.
2007-01-19 15:24:18 · answer #5 · answered by Bill G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Shoot them. The profuse bleeding makes them much less attractive.
2007-01-19 15:28:00 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get some one
2007-01-19 15:34:42 · answer #7 · answered by alyssa l 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you realize he isn`t what you thought he was,a pathetic liar, it isn`t so hard to get over him
2007-01-19 15:24:46 · answer #8 · answered by terracotta 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go out,socialize more,make new friends,meet new people,and time heals,old saying out of sight out of mind...tc gl
2007-01-19 15:24:58 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
...throw your guts up....and rip out your heart...
2007-01-19 19:54:47 · answer #10 · answered by chillie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋