Why do you think this happens?
2007-01-19 07:17:58 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
This is something I have pondered and even struggled to come to terms with at times. My explanation (to myself at least) is this. Being in love is actually loving most _attributes_ of the person (driven by likes and dislikes), while loving a person is loving a person for what s/he is (accepting the person). I feel that the states of "loving" and "being in love with" are mutually exclusive due to what is being loved in each case. I may be completely off with this, but this helps me out of such conundrums.
2007-01-19 07:26:14 · answer #1 · answered by drunken_sufi 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I think some loves are just meant to be strong friendship loves. You will never be anything more than really good friends. I have a couple of friends like that. They talk to me when they have girl trouble. I talk to them when Ron and I have problems and we tell each other all the time I Love You. We are such good friends that that's what we do. Ron knows that when they come over and he's not home we are sitting and talking. We may even have a couple of drinks but nothing physical is ever going to happen between us. Well maybe a hug and kiss but that's it.
2007-01-19 15:33:12 · answer #2 · answered by angelofgothic 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's easy. You love your parents, siblings, cousins (maybe), But to be "in love" with someone would be a special kind of love you only have for a certain someone whom you would only think of marrying or having a special partnership with, a bond between you and that certain someone you would like to spend the rest of your life with. The only person you would want to be intement with.
2007-01-19 15:28:07 · answer #3 · answered by Momwithaheart 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's the way love goes. There are different types of love and loving someone doesn't always equal being in love.
2007-01-19 15:20:24 · answer #4 · answered by Nico 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it's like a "family love", like the others wrote. Also, you may really like a lot of things about this person even if you don't believe you are "soul mates".
It's normal to want a person to be just your friend and not something romantic.
2007-01-19 15:23:45 · answer #5 · answered by Lilly S 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
because it takes a lot to be 'in' love with someone. and usually only one person can occupy that space at a time. but love... love we have towards a lot of people. we might not be 'in' love with many people, but that doesn't mean we wouldnt die for the. it doesnt mean we dont care about them. and the fact that there are people who we would do anything to be happy means that yes. we do love them. but it doesnt mean that you NEED to be with them for the rest of your life.
we usually love people wether they are still in our life or not. but we are only 'in' love with someone if they give back the same emotional support as we do to them. and you don't know what you would do without them. while the people we love don't have to phisically be there or give anything back.....
2007-01-19 15:42:49 · answer #6 · answered by _peaches_ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have friends male and female that I love. they hold a special place in my heart and I would do anything for them. The male friends that I love I would also kill them if I had to deal with them on a day to day basis in a relationship.
2007-01-19 15:22:06 · answer #7 · answered by Luvatlanta 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You can love them.... (like a friend or family member) but not be in love with them, cuz they're just supposed to be a friend.
2007-01-19 15:20:48 · answer #8 · answered by emblebeegirl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because you care for their well being, you don't want them to get hurt, or see them in pain. But this doesn't mean you want to be with them in a romantic way, which would be "in love".
2007-01-19 15:21:47 · answer #9 · answered by Karine I 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Well we love our parents and our children but we're not IN love with them, so it makes complete sense to me.
2007-01-19 15:20:37 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋