After tha answer to my last question i don know what to do? I am confuced!!!!!!!!!
2007-01-19 07:00:14 · 17 answers · asked by ASULITA_313 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Marriage is a huge committment and so many fail because people get married for the wrong reasons. It is important for you to find out if you actually are pregnant before anything else. If you are you need to figure out what will work for bboth of you. Involving parents or a support system will be crucial since you both are so young... Please don make a hasty decision... Think things through and make the choices that are best for everyone
2007-01-19 07:06:50 · answer #1 · answered by luv2syd 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well for one make sure that you are actually pregnant before you start freaking out about it. Why do you think you are pregnant? Have you taken any pregnancy tests? Secondly, getting married simply because you got pregnant is one of the main reasons there are so many divorces. You are so young, make sure you think all this through before you make any rash decisions that will effect the rest of your life. If you are in fact pregnant you need to talk to your parents and let them know because you will need to begin seeing an OB/GYN and you are probably still on your parents insurance. If you find that you aren't pregnant you should definitely get on the pill or start using some sort of birth control method. If you are scared to tell your mom you want birth control, go to a free clinic.!
Good Luck
2007-01-19 07:09:01 · answer #2 · answered by **hope/faith**1744 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen, I'm telling you this from my own experience. If you guys are really in love then try to get your own lives straight before you get married.Your love will last longer that way. If you rush into things then it can be alot harder than you think. You both can still be great parents but go to school and go to college so that you guys can have an even better life together. It's very wise to think about your future for the long term. I'm sure that you are going thru alot because I too found myself pregnant at 15. I wish i had had someone to give me such good advice. If your families are supportive then you can do it. If you don't go to school and have good jobs then you will get tired of just making ends meet. Sooner or later you will turn on each other. I know that you want to have a good life right? You want to give your child the things that he will need/want. I'm not telling you to give up your baby or your bf. I'm just saying think things thru and think about the future. One day you guys will want to have a house a car and other things. You'll want to buy your baby toys, clothes and things as he gts older. If you get married and live on your own then you both will have to get jobs right? Well do you know that child care for one week costs $150.00? Then you have rent, food, clothes and that's just the basics. Please think about what you are doing. Talk to your parents, talk to a school counselor. get some different opinions. Ask them what struggles they went thru. Then make your decision.
2007-01-19 07:17:30 · answer #3 · answered by cinnycinda 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I was 16 when I got pregnant and had my daughter. I made the decision to keep her. The father stuck around to help but we didn't get married until I was 19 (and 6 months pregnant with my son) We didn't get married because I was pregnant, we got married because we loved each other and wanted to be together. I took the chance and told him it was his decision to stay or leave, because with or without him I would take care of my baby. My suggestion to you is to listen to your heart and do what is best for you and your baby. Don't let outsiders influence you, because after all it is your life we are talking about. Just remember to try and make the best decisions and the smartest decisions because this is a life changing time in your life. Good luck.
2007-01-19 07:10:10 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Find out first if your pregnant! If you love each other regardless of everything, then marry and give the baby two loving parents!!!!! But your parents have to agree to that!!!!!! My best friend is 32 and been married since she was 16, but was not pregnant when married and just now has a 7 and 3 year old! But they made it!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! After the pregnancy is confirmed, you need to talk to your parents!!!!! They surely can guide you on what you should do!!! Atleast he wants to marry you, but you are very young and I think too young to decide this alone!!!!!!!!!
2007-01-19 07:07:59 · answer #5 · answered by whoa,3boys! 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
i am amazed at how critical and RUDE people are. WE are all aware of her mistake, no need to beat that horse to death.
There should be a free clinic in your area, most places have them, or a Planned Parenthood for you to take a pregnancy test. If it comes back negitive, i suggest getting on birthcontrol of some sort, i personally think you are too young for all of this, but times are changing. As for getting married, it may seem like a good idea at the time..."things are going to be great" "everything will be okay as long as im with _____" but that is not always true. You may be feeling all of these things becuase you are afraid to face what is happening, just an outlet to not dealing with the here and now. I think you need to talk to your parents, granted they are not going to be happy but eventually they will get over it. Be strong....there are pleanty of us out here who have FUBAR'd and this is just one of those times for you...good luck
2007-01-19 07:14:38 · answer #6 · answered by love_fool_87111 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Pregnant or not, at 16 you are not ready for marriage. You aren't ready for a baby you sure aren't ready for a young husband who will be the one out partying while you're home. Go to your parents, bite the bullet and tell them. Yes it'll be hard, but do it. You say you only THINK you're pregnant. Being pregnant is not a reason to marry. . If he marries you and you aren't pregnant he'll hate you for "trapping" him. Find out first if you are pregnant, tell the parents and let them hlep you. Do not get even engaged at 16
2007-01-19 07:05:55 · answer #7 · answered by Mickey 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hey be careful with what you do. take a pregnancy test and if you are pregnant take care of yourself and the baby. I'm 17 and 8 months pregnant i would do any thing for this little girl that i have inside. i got married when i was 16 but not because i was pregnant but because i really love this guy. He works and he takes good care of me and my unborn baby. i hope your boyfriend is has good as my husband. if you love him do as you wish. But keep going to school because you will regret it if you drop out. i'm pregnant and i go to school and have a job. Don't let peoples opinions confuse you. Best of luck!
2007-01-19 07:20:55 · answer #8 · answered by Yarelys P 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
First...if you think you are pregnant...take a pregnancy test...and find out definately if you are! Being a 16 year old can be a very stressful time...and stress can also postpone your period. Take the test first...and then if you are...go to plan B! Get yourself a good OBG...and take things slowly. If you are pregnant...the one you have to worry about the most is the baby! I wish you the best of luck!
2007-01-19 07:07:36 · answer #9 · answered by Lynnie M 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
that is a very big decision to be making, but if you do decide to get married just remember it is not easy to begin with and the younger you are the harder you will have to work to make the marriage work. GOOD LUCK
2007-01-19 08:21:34 · answer #10 · answered by nickle 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋