Its been one year since a friend of mine has past away i miss him so much but i feel so guilty being happy cause he isnt here should i be feeling guilty should i still be mourning over this im not sure how to feel in the past year i have lost 3 ppl dear to me and now im just numb in the heart i cant keep a steady friend anymore idk what to feel or do or sey anymore.. Advice??
2007-01-19 06:54:11 · 14 answers · asked by simply happy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
i KNOW EXACTLY what you are going through.. in aug '05 my good friend from highschool died from breast cancer and then in apr '06 my best friend died from stomach cancer ( both were 31 yrs old) it was hard dealing with both on chemo and both dealin with dying at basically the same time. i find that i am having a hard time with friends or keeping any steady friends also .. i just don't want to do anything with anyone anymore..when i go out i just want to go out with my hubby.. my hubby & my online friends are good enough for me for now.. i dont know if its hard to be with new people or just don't want to get emotional attached to people anymore.. but i find online friends work out better for me right now.. i have people who i can chat with when i need to and turn them off when i want to be alone.
2007-01-19 07:05:00 · answer #1 · answered by ♠ JƏSSƏ'S GiRL ♠ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U shouldn't feel guilty for living. Mourning is different for everybody. My grandmother passed away 8 years ago and sometimes to this day I will cry from thinking of her. But im not gonna live my life depressed. Keep the best memories in ur head and try to reflect upon those and u cant help but to be happy :-)
2007-01-19 15:01:15 · answer #2 · answered by Ma Baby 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone has a grieving process after death. Your just going through yours. Just remember that its is better to have loved and lost. . . then to never have loved at all. Losing 3 people in one year is a hefty price to pay and very sad, however, YOU are still, here and I believe that, in itself, should make you feel grateful. Its a part of life. Funerals are only for the living. Smile.
2007-01-19 15:00:49 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
WELL I THINK
your friend is probably happy that your happy if he were alive would he want you to mourn than, I wouldn't think so, I believe that he would not rest peacefully with someone mourning over him, he wants everyone to be happy eventcually and if you let go and stop worrying your self you could be happry and probably so will he..
2007-01-19 15:01:55 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to know that these people who have passed would not want you to be this way, they want you to continue enjoying life. Take care of yourself and live out your dreams. Have you thought about doing some volunteer work? This can really boost your spirits.
2007-01-19 14:58:55 · answer #5 · answered by uneekqamar2004 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you shouldn't feel guilty because the living still has to live... as long as you keep them alive in your heart thats all that really counts... i 'm sure your friend would want you to keep living. Just remember your still alive...
2007-01-19 14:59:23 · answer #6 · answered by krissym_15 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have one comment for you. Although you may be sincere and you're coming here for support, I'd like to tell you to:
"Save the drama for your momma!"
You need to get on with your life! If not you'll drown in your own pity and I for one will not help you drown.
2007-01-19 15:27:41 · answer #7 · answered by txguy8800 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will always have them in your heart. They wouldn't expect you to think of them constantly and they would want you to go on with your life.
2007-01-19 15:37:53 · answer #8 · answered by sapphire_630 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am sorry for all your loses but life goes on just enjoy yourself your Friends would want you to and remember all the good time you and your Friends had together
2007-01-19 14:59:03 · answer #9 · answered by Neil G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take it on the chin. You are experiencing one of thje hard knocks in life. Just move on and focus on your needs.
2007-01-19 14:58:07 · answer #10 · answered by demilspencer@yahoo.com 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋