Why do some people feel so sad and lonely even though they are married?

Answer 1

People get married and for first year or two things usually go well, then the real life sets in and you take each other for granted. You forget to plan communication time , dates, sweet little notes, special sexual times, etc.
When communication breaks down problems happen, cause he or she will start wondering for those answers and think the grass is greener on the other side, only to realize that if you get married again you are having the same problems that wasn't worked out in past
My advice would be if you love husband is try to rekindal the fire, but first planning a date and telling him how you feel. Be honest and get it all out on the table , let him know you are seriously sad and lonely.
If you don't do this, you will evenually have an affair or try to find your happiness in someone els. Some where along the line you have lost the passion and excitiment that you had. Marriage is like a car, you have to tune it up,change the oil , put new tires , etc. So get new out look on it, tell him you want to try NEW things new ways to have fun, more closeness , more special moments like you do when you first met.
If you still are with your husband, this is your chance don't blow it, get started on your new journey. Tell him today and start today trying to fix it. One day when you are old you will be glad you did. Best of luck!! Before long you will be sputtering along life, and glad you tuned that spark plug!!! smiles

Answer 2

Marriage is not a magical state of being where everything is happiness and flowers all the time. Marriage takes alot of work from both parties.

In my case my ex was an verbal and emotional abuser. I tried to be happy for years and years. Until i just broke down and didn't care anymore. I was very lonely, sad and extremely depressed.

After a couple years of counseling and a Wonderful Divorce. I am able to say I am not sad anymore, i am rarely lonely and I don't feel those depths of depression anymore.

If you aren't happy..do something to change it. I am not saying get a divorce..but maybe some couples counseling or personal counseling would be the thing to do. Don't just wait for it to get better..it won't without work ,love and understanding.

Answer 3

- No usefull communication between them.
- Not working thinks out together - or not being a team player in life.
- Not interacting with each for things that may impact each other.
- Not understood that getting married is having a co-worker for life.
- Both of them have independent thoughts of life or goals in life - thus do not appreciate or agree to the other.
- Blha Blah, blah.....

You know, you can list a 1000 things that need to be set straight for the marriage to work. But what matters is, are the two ready to work it out or do they want to put in some effort to make it better - then they will find their own reasons to make married life happy and two-some.....

Happy Married life.....

Answer 4

Lots of stress generally come along with a relationship. Married people have money issues, kid issues, personal issues and lots of others. It is very easy to let these things come between you and the significant other. The other person can almost become more of issue to be avoided than a person to talk to, lean on, have fun with. It might be that you do not feel negative about the other person but you also do not feel positively about them. They are just there.

Answer 5

OUCH!!! I would seek medical profession. I am a newly wed and wondering the same. I was married for 3 months then moved from all of our family and friends with exceptions of my parents (they are out next door neighbors)...This was such a big change for the both of us.

I would talk with your spouse and be honest and truthful..even if it hurts...Let the other half know how you feel and see if they are feeling the same way. Maybe the both of you need a change of pace or scenery. Plan something fun for the 2 of you..ENJOY and RELAX..Goodluck!

Answer 6

It's like a puzzle, if there are missing pieces you can't put it together to create beauty. Same as with a marriage if the pieces aren't there then it can't possibly work and yet people tend to stay in these relationships or not seek any professional help to at least try and salvage it.

Answer 7

Because they have low self esteems and are not happy in their marriage or their spouses are not there enough for them and work alot of the time and are never home much... This is usually why.... There is counseling and help for this though. This is why we really need to focus on our marriages and be sure to be there for our spouses as much as possible and put our marriages above overworking and things like that.

Answer 8

There are so many reasons. I feel the same even though my wife is so good to me. I wish I knew the answer but it eludes us. Even the poets and singers through the ages have tried to figure this one out.

Answer 9

Because they are in a sad, lonely marriage.

Answer 10

Because the marriage is flawed or is ending. In many cases a lot of people need to understand that good marriages do not just happen, You need to work at it.